Just commenting because you were really specific there with the chromosomes. The ID wouldn’t help with that. Doctors mostly look at the baby and decide the sex without genetic testing. Mistakes in this case are only found out if something medical happens and they need to check.
I’ve 🐝 bee-n fighting for two years now. I have this « job » that I’ve been stuck with forever now. My inability to enjoy the little things of life is just another indication of my dereliction: hating the bitter man I’m becoming, seeing myself in people I despise, being unable to think, speak, create....
You say suicidal thoughts, which I believe you have, but you showed us your depressive thoughts. Some times, it’s not intellectual, it’s just one aspect of your biology you can’t will away. You might need medicine, you’ll definitely need to work on it without knowing if your efforts will get results.
I saw in another comment you talking about the things you love. Choose one and really set aside some time to enjoy it. Create a period of total selfishness. Do something practical.
Intellectually, to quiet the voices that are so negative and justify bad decisions, I suggest you question them, specially when they are absolute. For example, “there’s no time to dedicate to what I love”. Really? No time, zero? Is that the absolute truth? Try to be more truthful. Maybe the time you have is not enough (but again, really?), which doesn’t mean zero time generally. Just being honest about your situation can help change perspectives and stop you believing the lies you tell yourself.
Do you enjoy watching videos? There are some professionals I regularly watch that usually help me see the directions I could go to improve myself. To tell the truth, I’m in a low right now and not being treated, but I wish I were.
I was watching a video from two years ago about different social norms and this showed up. Found someone questioning the same eight years ago on reddit (when it seemed less normalized). It feels so weird not being aware of this shift, even as a foreigner.
All this « editorial » content is so unnerving with so much shit happening in the world. It does not feel like a safe place if you doomscroll every time you browse it…
I would suggest something like a “good news week”. The last week of every month dedicated to sharing the good content we have stumbled upon or experienced. Something to practice a new behavior and make it stick. I don’t believe the changes will come organically. Or maybe a weekly challenge thread, with some goals to the ones that participate. Share a good memory, uplifting news, something that made you smile…
Have you ever stepped on someone’s foot? It happens. They might get angry, it’s understandable. Just an accident, not your intention, but your fault nonetheless. Keep this in mind....
This is not a comparison between Tildes and Beehaw. The question really is what constitutes a safe space, but looking at them side by side was at made me think about this issue. I’m new in both communities and I’m aware that they are in a state of adaptation with all the newcomers, something to keep in mind. Another detail...
I was watching a video by Georgia Dow in which she talked about a study showing how fear drives people to be more conservative. What that reminded me of was the rationalization I keep stumbling upon almost every day lately: “the alternative is worse”....
I think there was an effort in the past to make sure it’s a family show and disconnect The Doctor from the more mature parts of the whoniverse. Maybe the changes in production and, maybe, the realization adults are too obsessed with it create new avenues for money making creativity.
Hey folks. I just want to check in with the community about a post that was recently removed. My intention is absolutely not to create drama or stir anything up, but I’d like to make sure you all understand my reasoning for removing the post. Also, I’m aware that I’m not as good at articulating these kinds of things as...
People don’t seem to grasp how terrible doxxing can be. It’s easy to distance yourself from the consequences when everything happens online and all is forgotten within a day or two. If you call the police to deal with a problem, you should expect violence. In a similar way, expecting to make people accountable when you sick an angry anonymous mob on them is foolish. Violence is the most likely result.
State Code defines obscene matter as anything an average person believes depicts or describes sexually explicit conduct, nudity, sex or certain bodily functions; or anything a reasonable person would find lacks serious literary, artistic, political or scientific value. According to State Code 61-8A-2, any adult who knowingly and intentionally displays obscene matter to a minor could be charged with a felony, fined up to $25,000 and face up to five years in prison if convicted.
You gotta love when they say “average” or “reasonable”. Average people can judge their own lives, reasonable people can talk about subjects they are interested and have studied in some capacity, a random person who wouldn’t be asked to decide if a work has any serious literary, artistic, political or scientific value in normal circumstances can’t be an arbiter of the law.
It’s a video about sexuality as a gaming mechanic. The same way you might play as a mage or a warrior, you can choose who your character is interested in. Except you don’t realize you have an option until someone else that played the game in a different way tells you. There’s a focus on bisexual erasure as well....
It’s really a question. I was going to comment how the term sounds one-sided to me, decided to do a quick search and realized there’s some controversy to the idea. I’m from Brazil and we don’t have a term for that as far as I know, so there might be a linguistic component to the sentiment I have as well....
I don’t really want a definition of what the fediverse should be or was initially envisioned to be. I just want to understand how people actually use it. I started wondering because I felt the talks about its current state and growth stumble in invisible misunderstandings about the basic nature of what we are using or how we...
Lip balms here usually have a cap that you just pull to open, and that’s what I had been doing with the latest one I bought. Several times in the several weeks since I first opened it, I thought it’s really too hard an action. Today, maybe because I’m sick and weaker, I stopped to consider my repeated internal criticism...
As far back as 2010, in a piece titled “Little Brother is Watching,” author Walter Kirn wrote for the New York Times: “As the internet proves every day, it isn’t some stern and monolithic Big Brother that we have to reckon with as we go about our daily lives, it’s a vast cohort of prankish Little Brothers equipped with...
I don’t think this article goes well with the philosophy of Beehaw. I understand the arguments for violent action, but there’s no context or discussion here, just a manual telling you how to act, which includes doxxing and armed action.
I’ve been thinking about the arguments that are increasingly common when dealing with tech: “it’s too complicated” and “I just want something that works”....
I went for a ride this morning expecting to get a feel of my new tires. It was a thick fog day with all the people that think they don’t need lights (drivers and riders) getting invisible too fast for comfort, so no full speed downhill. I also missed my exit and the (dirt) roads look mostly the same for long stretches,...
Civil and high quality are two hammers educated people enjoy using to bash people without dieting their hands. The article address the fact they couldn’t verify the content of the discussions, but decided the format shows they are better than the ones in which cursing is prevalent.
From my personal experience, I’d agree that trolls don’t invest in their online personas, usually. Getting online in the 90’s meant finding who I was, instead of transplanting my real identity to the internet. Without so much centralization, each one of us were a lot of different people expressing all our different sides in different places. Using the same user name everywhere would end up in nice surprises when friends from one place showed up in another, something that would put us in danger of persecution nowadays.
Florida: "Misrepresenting" Gender On Drivers Licenses Is Fraud, Changes Now Banned (www.erininthemorning.com)
How do you deal with suicidal thoughts?
I’ve 🐝 bee-n fighting for two years now. I have this « job » that I’ve been stuck with forever now. My inability to enjoy the little things of life is just another indication of my dereliction: hating the bitter man I’m becoming, seeing myself in people I despise, being unable to think, speak, create....
Americans are explaining why they don't say 'you're welcome' in customer service settings after foreigners complained that 'mmhmm' comes off as rude (www.insider.com)
I was watching a video from two years ago about different social norms and this showed up. Found someone questioning the same eight years ago on reddit (when it seemed less normalized). It feels so weird not being aware of this shift, even as a foreigner.
These days there is too much nerve-racking content on Beehaw, we should post less articles and more about the life of the people here!
All this « editorial » content is so unnerving with so much shit happening in the world. It does not feel like a safe place if you doomscroll every time you browse it…
Wendy's Is Introducing Uber-Style 'Surge Pricing' (www.foodandwine.com)
It's about them, not you
Have you ever stepped on someone’s foot? It happens. They might get angry, it’s understandable. Just an accident, not your intention, but your fault nonetheless. Keep this in mind....
Tildes, Beehaw and the nature of safe spaces
This is not a comparison between Tildes and Beehaw. The question really is what constitutes a safe space, but looking at them side by side was at made me think about this issue. I’m new in both communities and I’m aware that they are in a state of adaptation with all the newcomers, something to keep in mind. Another detail...
The issues with reusable straws (www.youtube.com)
Transcript: youtubetranscript.com/?v=3XGIxUXDWqw...
Fear and Anxiety Drive Conservative Decisions (www.psychologytoday.com)
I was watching a video by Georgia Dow in which she talked about a study showing how fear drives people to be more conservative. What that reminded me of was the rationalization I keep stumbling upon almost every day lately: “the alternative is worse”....
Scientists aghast at bizarre AI rat with huge genitals in peer-reviewed article (arstechnica.com)
Doctor Who is not for children, says Russell T. Davies (www.telegraph.co.uk)
I think there was an effort in the past to make sure it’s a family show and disconnect The Doctor from the more mature parts of the whoniverse. Maybe the changes in production and, maybe, the realization adults are too obsessed with it create new avenues for money making creativity.
Doxxing and callouts on Beehaw politics
Hey folks. I just want to check in with the community about a post that was recently removed. My intention is absolutely not to create drama or stir anything up, but I’d like to make sure you all understand my reasoning for removing the post. Also, I’m aware that I’m not as good at articulating these kinds of things as...
Amatonormativity (youtu.be)
Transcript here, but I really recommend watching the video: youtubetranscript.com/?v=gsW3VsraJqo [search for “Applause” to skip add]...
West Virginia House passes bill allowing prosecution of librarians (www.newsandsentinel.com)
How bisexuality changed video games (www.youtube.com)
It’s a video about sexuality as a gaming mechanic. The same way you might play as a mage or a warrior, you can choose who your character is interested in. Except you don’t realize you have an option until someone else that played the game in a different way tells you. There’s a focus on bisexual erasure as well....
'Brazil is the Country of WhatsApp,' Says President of the App (www1.folha.uol.com.br)
The rest of the article (not translated) is an interview with Cathcart....
What does allyship mean?
It’s really a question. I was going to comment how the term sounds one-sided to me, decided to do a quick search and realized there’s some controversy to the idea. I’m from Brazil and we don’t have a term for that as far as I know, so there might be a linguistic component to the sentiment I have as well....
Influencer trips and how brands exploit whatever they can (youtu.be)
Transcript here: youtubetranscript.com/?v=zKcPGV6bGFM [you can skip to the first “(mellow music)” to avoid the ad]...
How do you understand federation?
I don’t really want a definition of what the fediverse should be or was initially envisioned to be. I just want to understand how people actually use it. I started wondering because I felt the talks about its current state and growth stumble in invisible misunderstandings about the basic nature of what we are using or how we...
When you have other tools, but are too used to the hammer
Lip balms here usually have a cap that you just pull to open, and that’s what I had been doing with the latest one I bought. Several times in the several weeks since I first opened it, I thought it’s really too hard an action. Today, maybe because I’m sick and weaker, I stopped to consider my repeated internal criticism...
Defeating Little Brother requires a new outlook on privacy (www.malwarebytes.com)
As far back as 2010, in a piece titled “Little Brother is Watching,” author Walter Kirn wrote for the New York Times: “As the internet proves every day, it isn’t some stern and monolithic Big Brother that we have to reckon with as we go about our daily lives, it’s a vast cohort of prankish Little Brothers equipped with...
Forming An Antifa Group: A Manual (itsgoingdown.org)
cross-posted from: slrpnk.net/post/6701613...
User accountability and complicated technologies
I’ve been thinking about the arguments that are increasingly common when dealing with tech: “it’s too complicated” and “I just want something that works”....
Having Fun Cycling – I’m An Explorer
I went for a ride this morning expecting to get a feel of my new tires. It was a thick fog day with all the people that think they don’t need lights (drivers and riders) getting invisible too fast for comfort, so no full speed downhill. I also missed my exit and the (dirt) roads look mostly the same for long stretches,...
From 2021: Online anonymity: study found ‘stable pseudonyms’ created a more civil environment than real user names (theconversation.com)