What can you get to within a 15-minute walk of your house?
A recent YouGov survey asked Americans what they think they should be able to get to within a 15-minute walk of their house.
Of these choices, I can currently walk to all of them from my apartment, aside from a university (no biggie, I'm not currently studying, although there is a Tafe within walking distance), a hospital, and a sports arena.
How many can you get to with a 15 minute walk from your house?
Some people think the “wrong sort of people” will come to a neighborhood if there’s a bus stop. Like they’re going to get on the bus, break into your house, and get back on the bus holding your tv.
I live in Brooklyn. Almost all of these are well covered. It’s pretty great. Hospital, mall, and sports arena are a little outside a 15 minute walk.
I think “places to see live music” should be on the list. There’s one by me but it tends to be for bigger acts. If I want to see a smaller band play I usually need to travel a bit.
You’re probably talking about Robert Moses? Park commissioner, city planner, huge asshole. There’s a huge book called The Power Broker that’s a fascinating history of him and the city.
It also mentions a part where one of his lead engineers came to him and was like “if we build it like this, it’ll cost basically the same and if we want to put train tracks in the future it will be easy. If we build it your way , it’ll be impossible to put a train here without a ton of expensive work”.
feeling 'trapped' in monogamy.
so i've(20m) have been in this wonderful relationship with A(20f) for about a year now, and as I disclosed from the begginging that I was looking for a open/poly relationship, she knew it from the very start and we agreed to that. Fast forward a couple of months and we close down the relationship because she doesnt feel secure enough, which was also a completely valid request. After we opened it back up she went on a date with someone, made out and then proceeded to tell me that this is not something she wants to go look around for, after that we closed the relationship again. Since then neither her nor me have been on any dates and any discussion even hinting towards the topic elicits an we should try it at a different stage of our relationship when we are more secure. This makes me feel trapped and controlled, especially since she knew about me wanting a non-exclusive relationship from the start. Any advice?
we close down the relationship because she doesnt feel secure enough, which was also a completely valid request
No it wasn’t. Her options there were leave the relationship or seek therapy. Asking you to change the relationship model to something you don’t want is a reach. Rookie mistake I understand how it happened. But there’s your problem. This person can’t or won’t do non monogamy. If you want non monogamy, leave.
It’s fine if she doesn’t want to date anyone else. I know a couple where the one of them doesn’t, and the other has a sprawling polycule. They’re happy
It’s not fine if she wants to control what you do. She will never be secure like that and you will be miserable.
I dated someone who was very insecure and controlling. It was horrible. Nothing was ever enough and their metamours suffered.
Eventually they had some breakthroughs in therapy and now are extremely poly, but they had to get there themselves. Trying to control other people to make themselves feel secure was doomed.