lapis

lapis, 7 months ago

In my experience, Better Help doesn’t provide a worthwhile service. They charge around $300/mo and will postpone and cancel your appointments so you end up getting in one, maybe two, appointments in a month, but with the added stress of needing to work your schedule around their shitty time management. My partner tried them out for a couple months out of desperation at the lack of local therapists who take our insurance and it was a net negative for her.

lapis, 9 months ago

I just wish it didn’t take so much longer to print than adaptive cubic at the same infill percent.

lapis, 9 months ago

Yes, adaptive cubic varies the density of the cubic structure to decrease filament usage while supposedly maintaining the same strength as normal cubic. And, in my own experience, gyroid always takes longer to print than adaptive cubic – sometimes it only adds a few minutes, but I’ve seen it add nearly half of the print time again for infill-heavy prints.

lapis, 9 months ago

SV06 Plus, SV07, and SV07 Plus all use the same nozzles. However, I think standard volcano nozzles would also work – I just haven’t bothered to try since I bought a five-pack of the proprietary nozzles off AliExpress and they work perfectly fine.

lapis, 9 months ago

I did the same thing around the same age (or a little older), and it also took me until my 30s to realize it wasn’t actually a joke.

lapis, 9 months ago

I really don’t understand the hate towards Hexbear – sure, some users may be problematically argumentative, but that seems to be true of many instances. Meanwhile, as a trans person, Hexbear was actually one of the first places I felt safe when I started looking for a reddit alternative, and, to me, that means a lot. I’m glad I eventually found Blahaj Zone (both the lemmy and hajkey instances), but Hexbear really does feel like a good, queer-friendly, solidly leftist space, which we need more of on the internet, imo.

Like, we may disagree with their politics at points, but I’ve seen conservative and neoliberal users from other instances being awful to Hexbear users far more often than the other way around. I also think it speaks heavily in favor of Hexbear that some of the anti-Hexbear comments on the previous meta thread were from transphobic users from other instances.

lapis, 9 months ago

The hell? I do not understand why anyone would remove the first of those comments, and the second is a bit abrasive but still not moderation-worthy, imo.

lapis, 10 months ago

Hexbear leans meme-tankie but on the flipside they’re very supportive of queer people. I don’t agree with them on everything, but I don’t feel unwelcome there either, so I personally disagree with both defederation and the comparison to T_D.

lapis, 10 months ago

Absolutely wild to me that moving off AWS + setting up the caching server will bring overall costs down by around a factor of ten. So glad y’all are capable of the advanced technical junk, and super thankful that you’re willing and able to host the various blahaj.zone instances!

lapis, 10 months ago

The hint in this case is “God bless you”

That’s actually the abuse showing through. It’s intentional passive aggression and a manipulative speech pattern. It’s meant to imply, “God bless you, even though you’re breaking his rules and making him sad and probably going to hell”.

And before you ask, I was raised evangelical, was deeply involved in ministry, went to bible school, and even worked at a church for a few years; I know how these people think because I was one until I saw the light and ditched their religion. The number of times I’ve seen “I’ll pray for you/them”, “God bless you/them”, and such used as insults is too damn high.

lapis, 11 months ago

is Lapis cool enough or