I’m not trying to cause an argument but when Reddit pulled it’s bs - I said that’s enough. I gave up my Reddit addiction and didn’t open it or visit the site for over 30 days....
My niche hobbies are largely not tech related at all, so a lot of the participants have no knowledge or interest in learning about lemmy or learning about why leaving reddit would be a good thing in the long run. Even some of the subreddits rely on a really dedicated group of regulars to keep them alive, since for especially one of them, facebook is where the online community lives and thrives. And I’m also unfortunately not much of a content creator…
Hey, another fellow lolita!! I’m sorry to hear your local comms are so toxic. I live in Germany and I’m lucky that the comm local to me is incredibly welcoming and fun.
I’m plus size, but wear almost exclusively brand, so I have some experience with alterations too. I highly recommend checking if your pieces have pockets, because I’ve been able to extend the sizing of a dress by 10 to 15 cm using pocket fabric alone. I’m happy to answer questions if you’re interested in alterations.
I can only speak from my personal experience, but the online communities I’m a part of on discord are really friendly too. I’m on the plus size lolita discord, but that obviously might not be relevant to you. If you’re interested in finding a community, you might have to dig a little but there are friendly communities out there. But it’s completely valid if you’d rather just wear lolita by yourself. They are just clothes at the end of the day.
Sending positive vibes your way 💙 (I’m just up so I’m sorry if my thoughts are kinda scattered lol)
I recently learned “Arschgeige” in German, which according to the reactions of people I asked, is a pretty mean thing to say. I can’t get over the fact it literally means butt violin though.
It is fiddle as in a violin type instrument. The sheer absurdity makes me not be able to take this insult seriously at all. I don’t get how anyone does, but it’s apparently a really shitty thing to say to someone. You ass violin!!! lmfao
Environments you can’t interact with. There’s shit lying around and I’m rolling my way through here. I would really like there to be physics so that the world around me is affected by what I’m doing.
Too many invisible walls. Is it really necessary to stop me from jumping around the courtyard gardens (ff16)? Let me get all up close and personal with the environment. Let me yeet myself off a random cliff.
Related: buildings that you can’t go into. Yes the outside world might be cool and interesting but it’s so much more immersive and realistic if buildings have interiors that you can go into. Half the fun I have in the older Pokémon games is exploring and just checking out the unique towns, listening to the town music etc, but the newest Pokémon games… If it’s a building you can interact with at all, it’s just a menu screen?? No visiting random apartment blocks and department stores?
And then lastly, have few to no NPCs, and if the ones that are there just stand still and don’t do anything. It really annoyed me about so many of the kingdom hearts games, that you have these cool worlds that you’ve seen in movies and are explorable, but in all the spin off titles, there isn’t a single NPC to be found in any of the worlds. It’s so big and empty and boring. Let me allow myself to believe we’re visiting these video game worlds and viewing a snapshot of what fantasy life is like in this video game.
Quadrotiles had quadro playset when little. Quadro is like big pipes and tiles that people can build with. Quadrotiles used to make race cars and castles with brother who best friend and play in big garden. Best times. Quadrotiles now sad and miss brother. Live in different countries and 30 now.
Up until this moment, I was CERTAIN these were nsfw communities.
But yeah, fuck car centric infrastructures. People owning cars and driving cars… You can’t blame or hate the individuals who are just trying to survive. But you can absolutely hate how shitty the availability and maintenance of public transport often is (I hear it’s especially bad in the US?) and the car lobbying, which I hear is especially bad here in Germany. Profits are always prioritised, and the car industry is considered more profitable than providing good, affordable public transport.
I’ve been on a mini quest to try and get my Twitter account banned without doing anything strictly against the ToS and my first idea was to start messing with people who say something completely untrue, then refuse to back down under any circumstances. But that got me thinking, is it okay? I’m not outright insulting/cyber...
Considering someone arrogant is an opinion. And nuance is hard to convey over text. Maybe you should reflect on why you find a particular person arrogant and what it is about their arrogance that bothers you. Take it as a chance for introspection instead.
Ok, admittedly I was using typescript but honestly, I really enjoyed using JavaScript. I kinda feel like people who shit on it have never used it much, or aren’t very experienced, or it just wasn’t to their taste and they’re jumping on the hate train that the others like to conduct.
Definitely 2023 years worth of experience. I taught Jesus himself JS. Which, fun fact, doesn’t stand for JavaScript, but stands for JesusScript. I would never lie on the internet.
I’ll go first: “You have to have children when you’re young,” told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them....
The usual acne related ones, like washing my face more or using tooth paste on my spots. Turns out clearasil won’t fix your hormones.
Use olive oil instead of sun screen because it works better than SPF and isn’t full of chemicals.
When taking a taxi on a short stop over in Dubai, the taxi driver told me not to have blue hair (which I had) or no man will ever want me, while my then boyfriend was also sitting in the taxi, masquerading as my husband (we were wearing rings and just letting people assume we were married, which everyone did. Including the taxi driver!)
Work related: don’t make my code too “complicated” or my one coworker can’t understand it (read: my coworker doesn’t know what async means, and instead of him learning, I’m just not ever meant to do anything async… When processing huge amounts of data… Also, error handling is too hard, don’t do that either) yes, I will forever be salty about this. He deleted weeks worth of work while I had covid because he didn’t even try to understand it - his reasoning being “it doesn’t work anyway, so there’s no point in understanding or learning what I’m doing”
That would have been actually useful advice! I actually did start doing that a couple of years ago, and it really did help. It didn’t clear it up, but the acne hasn’t been quite as aggressive since. I also do other things now too, so I’m in a pretty good place for my face skin at last lol
I typed a long reply, forgot to hit send and my reply is gone lol
But yeah, we actually do use git. I was brought into the team to be the git “expert” of the team. But while I was away, not only did he delete my work, he replaced it with something that can’t work in the long term and then presented it to my boss, stake holder equivalent and the non-technical testers as the final version. His implementation was “finished”, mine was not and I was too angry to look at his work. So in the end, I made it crystal clear that this can never happen again and I made it super clear to everyone involved in the project that my responsibility lies in the X part, and if someone needs something done for the Y part, they are to go to my co-worker. So like a clear division of responsibility.
I also don’t have the time to un-fuck up his work. I asked him to integrate certain parts of the original implementation, but he threw a tantrum and yelled that I have no right to tell him what to do. (Ok but even if I were telling him what to do, I have 6 years of experience and a CS degree on his 1 year and no formal training, so like…)
Is this how most people type on mobile these days, drawing lines all over a keyboard instead of tapping the individual keys? I've never had an iPhone so I don't even know if they can do this natively, but I know you can switch keyboards at least, so it should still be an option if not.
There is definitely nothing wrong with you. There’s a reason the phrase “childlike wonder” exists. It’s normal for the newness and novelty of everything to amaze a child, and it’s normal for experiences to become routine to adults. Even if you do experience something new, there’s a very good chance that it’s similar enough to something you’ve experienced before. Brains are designed to find patterns and relate things back to past experiences as part of a survival instinct.
But there is also nothing wrong with people who don’t have the experience I described above. The above experience is probably more common for people with neurotypical brains. I’ve never been able to relate to “not feeling” or “feeling less”, even though it seems to be quite common. My feelings are always a live wire, dialed up to 100 (and honestly, I’m over people - including doctors - telling me how nice that must be). But there’s nothing “wrong” with my brain. It just functions differently, with different strengths and weaknesses. It’s like comparing a car and a motorbike. They have different driving sensations, require different skill sets and safety precautions, but they’re both vehicles that will get you from A to B.
How old were you when you began questioning/considering you weren’t “normal”? I’m in my 30s and almost all at once feel like I’m not sure what I am in most demensions and struggling to figure out what I feel about anything. I’ve been married, happily for a while, which adds a little to the confusion.
I had a few months of existential crisis when I was 21, but it was more related to a manipulative partner who was fetishising my queer identity as I was just figuring out who I was.
I’m lucky enough that I never felt not-normal and I’ve never felt the need to “come out” because I’ve never been in the closet to begin with. But I recognise what a huge privilege that is and I have been working hard on myself and my surroundings to try extend even some of that privilege to others.
(Eg I’m actively campaigning for change at my work place, which also has a wide reach to the public in the country I live in)
Now that I reread my own comment and read yours, I actually realise it was more than a few months of torment. It was a few months of figuring out my identity (which wouldn’t have been an existential crisis if it hadn’t been for the toxic relationship) and then a further 5 years of a toxic relationship after that. I’m glad I got out, but it sucks to bump into mutual friends who didn’t realise we were together in the past call my ex “the nicest person you’ll ever meet”.
Basking in the reflected edginess of queerness is also a perfect description of an element my past relationship. I’ve never heard it put quite so well lol
I’m also very glad you’re out of that toxic relationship. That sounds so gross and I hope you’re in a more loving and supportive place now.
It’s almost as if reddit’s first party app couldn’t even compete with third party apps. I used Boost for Reddit and now I’m waiting for Boost for Lemmy...
I’m missing some of the niche hobby subs, and I feel they’re unlikely to migrate. There are just too many resources built up. But we’ll see! If they come over, I’ll switch to Lemmy full time
I hope so! I just am unsure if there is much motivation for the communities to migrate over here. They’re mostly non-tech and even the subreddits for some of them aren’t super active. Hopefully the ones with the more active subs will at least make their way over :)
Is anyone else having trouble giving up Reddit due to content?
I’m not trying to cause an argument but when Reddit pulled it’s bs - I said that’s enough. I gave up my Reddit addiction and didn’t open it or visit the site for over 30 days....
What is a hobby you enjoy, but seems too quirky or obscure to bring up in most conversations?
Mine would be creating pen and paper ciphers for my made up secret communication needs.
What is your favorite insult in your native language that doesn't exist or cant be directly translated in English?
Ill start:...
What's your pet peeve in your favorite video game?
Mine is the lag in Stellaris, and lack of options to let me impact it. Like let me disable the ability for the AI to make habitats FFS!
Without using pronouns (me, he, she, it, etc) or articles (a, an, the), how did you come up with your user name?
Essentially, I want us to sound like cavemen....
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Is it unethical to troll arrogant people?
I’ve been on a mini quest to try and get my Twitter account banned without doing anything strictly against the ToS and my first idea was to start messing with people who say something completely untrue, then refuse to back down under any circumstances. But that got me thinking, is it okay? I’m not outright insulting/cyber...
Programming Languages (lemmy.ml)
No offence
What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?
I’ll go first: “You have to have children when you’re young,” told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them....
Do you use the swipe to type feature on your phone?
Is this how most people type on mobile these days, drawing lines all over a keyboard instead of tapping the individual keys? I've never had an iPhone so I don't even know if they can do this natively, but I know you can switch keyboards at least, so it should still be an option if not.
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Is it normal for a person to "feel" less as they get older?
I remember experiencing the world much more vividly when I was a little boy....
Meet Eddy! He loves belly rubs and is celebrating his first birthday today!
How old were you?
How old were you when you began questioning/considering you weren’t “normal”? I’m in my 30s and almost all at once feel like I’m not sure what I am in most demensions and struggling to figure out what I feel about anything. I’ve been married, happily for a while, which adds a little to the confusion.
Haven't touched reddit since July 1st
It’s almost as if reddit’s first party app couldn’t even compete with third party apps. I used Boost for Reddit and now I’m waiting for Boost for Lemmy...