Penguinblue

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

That's like a different, more gross kind of ADHD tax.

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

Wasn't it Sony wanting a reset in case no agreement was reached with Disney so they had free reign to take the story wherever that wanted?

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

Looking at the pictures there seems to be a lot of Technic inside and, from what I can tell, only the nose and wheels go up and down so I'm interested in seeing an in depth review of this.

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

All of her videos are really good but this one is great. It's a really helpful way to think about our struggles with motivation and has helped me remember to put things in place.

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

I just checked the activity on the post and can't see any down votes. This channel is really great, this video especially.

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

There's plenty of news instances so I'm sure your posts will be welcomed.

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

There has been a few posts about this person, I blocked them and their magazine so I remember, and there was no consensus on those posts. It's a question for @ernest as he runs the show.

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

Hello from kbin, I was having this discussion with someone on another post about users views of the Reddit alternatives. I made a comment that I slightly prefer Raddle to the rest of the Fediverse because it is a closed community, largely for anarchists and queer folks. I've definitely noticed a creeping toxicity since I opened my account with kbin after moving from Reddit when everyone else did and, to prove my point, was reduced (down voted) by a conservative reactionary, judging by their posts.

Federation is a interesting and I wonder how things would be here if politics was less reactionary and more about discussion and consensus. Any instance benefits from federation through an increased user base but that necessarily comes with the impact of not being able to manage who is in that user base.

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

This is the answer. I started writing something then realised I'd just rewritten what you had written in different words. Autistic people tend to be less able to recognise what their body is telling them. I recently said to my partner that I have been exhausted and really tired and she responded that I'd had a busy week, done 9 hours of driving in heavy traffic and terrible weather and had poor sleep. I thought there was something really wrong with me, she pointed out perfectly valid reasons for me feeling the way I was.

It's called "interoception" for anyone that wants a new special interest (or to add to theirs): https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/professional-practice/interoception-wellbeing

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

This is a valid point but Amazon also sells a lot of books based on pseudo-science and debunked claims. It's pretty clear they are not an ethical company so they absolutely will do nothing to stop AI generated books.

For anyone that thinks AI books are not a problem, I recommend this article and the Behind the Bastards two-parter that goes along with it: https://shatterzone.substack.com/p/ai-is-coming-for-your-children

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

Our stories sound similar. Calm, relatively stable upbringing and then mostly self isolation leads to symptoms being unrecognised until children and other stresses build up and the symptoms are no longer under control.

The best suggestion I can give you is learn to accept your limitations (I'd say that to anyone, really). Managing two children is stressful for most people, for you even more so. That's a fact and it's OK. You get overwhelmed when there's too much going on. That's a fact and it's OK. Sometimes we aren't going to be able to cope in life. That's a fact and it's OK. So in this situation, you now know that you will find it too difficult to manage your kids where you are without support from your wife. That's a fact and it's OK.

Maybe you could arrange to take them somewhere else that has less sensory stimulation next time, or you agree with your wife that she has time to do things like shopping when you are at home with the kids. It's difficult to give suggestions without knowing where you were, but hopefully you get the idea.

Depending on how old your children are, speaking to them to ensure they know not to run away without you (and reinforcing the boundary when they do run away from you) can also help. (Most) Children like having responsibilities.

Mostly forgive yourself for not being able to cope in that situation. Modern life doesn't allow any parent to be perfect, but we can aim to be good enough and that's even more the case for neurodivergent parents. Give your kids a hug and tell them you love them then accept their love when they give it back. I definitely struggle with that but recognise how important it is.

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

They identify as a man because gender is defined externally to the individual. They were born, the doctor saw a penis, said, "it's a boy" and those around them reinforced male norms onto them: parents tend to cuddle boys less than girls; enforce stoic principles (men don't cry); encourage rougher, more violent play; and encourage more independence. There's plenty of references for these points so I didn't feel the need to provide any.

Most people don't challenge their identity if they don't need to and changing parts of your identity can be traumatic (ask queer person what coming out was like for them). The crisis of masculinity, as with any cultural crisis, is just a conservative, reaction to something that challenges them.

Gender is cultural and temporal so changes all the time; high heeled shoes used to be worn by rich Persian men, pink was the color that boys wore because pink was thought to be a watered down red, the color of the British army that they would, of course, eventually join. The Male Breadwinner model is an interesting way to frame the idea that the man is provider for the family. Prior to the Industrial Revolution the whole family provided.

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

Something I do really like about this site is the ability to see the activity of posts including the reduces (down votes). So the guy that reduced the post above appears to be far right, judging by their activity. Fun!

Penguinblue, 9 months ago

I can definitely imagine that it happened/s on Reddit, yes. The thing that feels the saddest about doing that is that it really means nothing in no meaningful sense. Its such a impotent form of rage where they aren't debating or even telling you you're wrong, they are marginally impacting others' ability to see the post.

Penguinblue, 10 months ago

I really liked r/menslib, it has a good balance and the toxicity was dealt with very well. This is what a new community would need. As someone else brought up, this was discussed this week, I actually thought you were the same person.

Penguinblue, 10 months ago

This is exactly what I thought. The story here is that the human race has a massive child abuse material problem.

Penguinblue, 10 months ago

The website FeedSpot can be a good way to search for rss feeds. Search for a topic and go down the list to see what you like the look of.

Penguinblue, 10 months ago

I only go to places that are usually busy at quiet times, though I know for some people that's not possible. Otherwise I plan out a route to get through the store as quickly as possible (having something to focus on helps me) and wear noise cancelling headphones and listen to something I like, usually a podcast. If it is very busy and I can't take it anymore I go to the quietest part of the store for a minute.

Penguinblue, 11 months ago

You may already be subscribed, OP, but Fall of Civilizations podcast did an episode of the Bronze Age Collapse. It's a great pod generally for history nerds.

Penguinblue, 11 months ago

As an update I just tried and it's working. I've been getting 505s a lot today, obviously server strain.