I’ve experienced burnout throughout work and education since I was sixteen. Usually around once every 12-18 months. I’ve accrued a lot of associated trauma....
I feel driven to respond after reading your response to BugleFingers (whose response I agree with). It really sucks you are feeling shame about your difficulties with working. I believe a lot (not all) of the difficulties that neurodivergent people have with work isn't anything to do with them, but about the pressures of living under the tyranny of late-stage capitalism.
I don't think you not being able to work without burning out is evidence there's something wrong with you, I think it shows that most people don't get any kind of support in finding sustainable work. I hope you can find a way to forgive yourself for whatever you feel are your failings around employment because you've done nothing wrong.
Apart from what BugleFingers wrote (especially doing work you are interested in), I found self-employment/freelance work to be life changing. I like being my own boss because I can choose when I work and when I don't (with restrictions, obviously) and have found a way to make it work for me and my family.
It feels important to say it took me time to get to a point where this was financially practical, though. I went through a lot of jobs where I went through a cycle very similar to yours (don't listen to the person trying to diagnose you with more disorders; you getting depressed from work doesn't equal another diagnosis). I found my profession by doing jobs that seemed interesting and honing down what I actually liked. I think it's about balancing out what is important to you (e.g., making money, having nice things, having free time, ext.) with what is necessary (e.g., housing, food, bills, etc.).
I hope you can find a job that works for you, OP. Good luck.
I want to seize important territory from a significantly stronger ruler. Using one of the Intrigue perks, I’ve managed to abduct his primary heir. While I work on bolstering my army, I figured I’d ask if you all know the answer to this....
I formed Rum by repeatedly abducting the Byzantine heir then killing the emperor. It gets easier the more you do it as chaos is seeded in the opponents realm.
I came across everyday topic on Techlore Discussions about free and open source keyboards for Android and discovered this little gem. It is FlorisBoard, a virtual keyboard for Android which respects privacy of the user. I can sigh with relief and finish my search for that singular keyboard for typing stuff on the go....
The DWP have published the results of a survey on the public’s attitudes to a worrying list of new powers it is considering acquiring, allegedly in order to combat fraud, error and debt in the benefits system....
Gotta keep the poors down so they don't threaten the ruling class. Hopefully nothing comes of this but they way this country is going I really wouldn't be surprised.
Using a social perspective to autism, I would appreciate if there were a way to classify someone as autistic without calling it a disorder. Yes, we have difficulties, but from a social perspective, a lot of them come from society being structured to meet the needs of allistics. They get guidance, acceptance, and ultimately...
Words matter, otherwise verbal assault wouldn't constitute a hate crime (at least in the UK). You used an ableist word and that matters. The word has an interesting history, in case anyone is interested (see below) and using it is ableist given it used to be a psychiatric classification. I am assuming you wouldn't use the 'F' word to describe gay people or the 'N' word to describe black people. Those are just words, too, what makes them different?
Also, taking the "science doesn't care about your feelings" line of thinking is really lazy. We don't have to keep the status quo. In fact, it's generally good if we don't. I can see from your responses that you aren't interested in discussion, so I'm leaving it here. It's OK to be wrong about things sometimes. Maybe you are wrong about this. Maybe not, but maybe you are.
But isn't this the entire point? You like to call yourself that, and that is perfectly fine, but ultimately all of these words come from psychiatric diagnosis, from the DSM. That is where the labels were defined, that is where our cultural understanding of the neurotype comes from.
Our culture has defined that you are disordered because of your way of being, you've been diagnosed as such. Another culture, a former culture will not have defined it that way. So you calling it a disorder is not based on anything absolute, it is based in a cultural understanding.
I was diagnosed with autism level 1, not aspergers, because: 1 - We now understand that describing people based on 'functioning' is extremely damaging to the individual; and 2 - Asperger tested on children for the Nazis, and I think we can all agree that's not cool.
All of this is cultural, we didn't know about the damage of functioning labeling at the time that diagnosis was accepted (or the whole Nazi thing), and so our cultural understanding of the condition has changed.
Understandings of disorder are cultural, not absolute.
We realised that labeling people based on their level of functioning was extremely unhelpful and debilitating so they changed it to level of need. Also Asperger worked with the Nazis and may have been one.
No it's not. From the National Autistic Society:
"Asperger's syndrome’ (often shortened to Asperger’s) is no longer used as a diagnostic term for autism and is considered controversial due to the history of Hans Asperger, which is summarised below.
Historically, Asperger syndrome was used as a diagnostic term for some autistic people who did not also have a diagnosis of a learning disability. Broadly, it is now agreed that what was referred to as Asperger syndrome is part of the autism spectrum and there is no need for a separate term.
Some people who received a diagnosis of Asperger syndrome continue to use this terminology to refer to themselves. Others do not, usually for two reasons: because the term is no longer used officially; and because of revelations about the Austrian psychiatrist Hans Asperger, who Asperger syndrome was named after and who was complicit with the Nazis."
Did you complete any forms before the assessment? I had to complete a few forms before assessment which asked me questions based on the diagnostic criteria which then went towards the psychiatrist's final evaluation. Assessment styles seem to vary wildly between services and counties, though.
To answer your question more directly, though, yes, I thought of loads of things I forgot to mention in assessment afterwards. But then I was given my diagnosis at the end of the assessment so it sounds like your psychiatrist deals with things differently, at least in that example.
If I can give you some advice, I'd suggest you put it out of your mind for now until you get the result and if you do not agree with the result, appeal with the extra information (if you can). It would be a good idea to start a log of supporting information when you remember it, as well. Keep it somewhere handy, like a small notebook you keep on your pocket or a notes app on your phone. I think that's good advice for everyone going into an assessment.
This relates to the BBC article [www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-66596790] which states “the UK should pay $24tn (£18.8tn) for its slavery involvement in 14 countries”....
I'm not sure if you are an ignorant apologist or outright racist but it feels important to comment on this given the number of uovotes this post is receiving. From an article from Slate I will link below:
"But, as historian Marcus Rediker writes, the “ancient and widely accepted institution” of enslavement in Africa was exacerbated by the European presence. Yes, European slave traders entered “preexisting circuits of exchange” when they arrived in the 16th century. But European demand changed the shape of this market, strengthening enslavers and ensuring that more and more people would be carried away. “[European] slave-ship captains wanted to deal with ruling groups and strong leaders, people who could command labor resources and deliver the ‘goods,’ ” Rediker writes, and European money and technology further empowered those who were already dominant, encouraging them to enslave greater numbers. Both the social structures and infrastructure that enabled African systems of enslavement were strengthened by the transatlantic slave trade.
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Bottom line: Why should this matter? This is a classic “two wrongs make a right” ethical proposition. Even if Africans (or Arabs, or Jews) colluded in the slave trade, should white Americans be entitled to do whatever they pleased with the people who were unlucky enough to fall victim?"
This has been going on for years, including inside the EU, for those wondering. You can test to see if it happens for you by going to a flight website, getting a price for a flight, then go back a few times to search for the same flight.
The question of what you do to fight it is by clearing the cookie for the website, using a different browser and/or changing your location/block tracking (use a VPN or tor). Usually clearing the cookie is enough.
Shrinking might be a good positive depiction of positive masculinity (I don't think it is, he's a toxic asshole who puts his stuff on everyone else) but I couldn't get over the fact that he's supposed to be a therapist. I'm a psychotherapist and Segal's wildly unethical behaviour, never mind the unethical behaviour of his workmates (who should have reported him) made me really dislike this show. I loved Ted Lasso and Shrinking is not on the same level.
Citations Needed podcast had an episode about the link between the colonial settler myth and eating meat (episode 139) which was really good. (Summarising very badly) Eating meat became proof of the settler dominion over the land, animals and peoples (Native Americans) of the West and was pushed to maintain the narrative.
Edit: I also recommend a recent episode of Maintenance Phase where they debunk the paleo diet and have past episodes on Peterson.
My guess is that you are not part of an oppressed group? It is very easy for those used to privilege to criticise those from less privileged groups for wanting their own spaces because they have not experienced what it is like to be othered.
The point is to be free from the oppression that they experience often on a daily basis, not to keep their ideas unchallenged.
The idea that underprivileged groups create echo chambers is laughable when you think of the number of explicity conservative social media platforms.
As I said to someone below, my guess is that you are not part of an oppressed group? It is very easy for those used to privilege to criticise those from less privileged groups for wanting their own spaces because they have not experienced what it is like to be othered.
The point is to be free from the oppression that they experience often on a daily basis, not to keep their ideas unchallenged.
We’re going over sensory issues in adult-diagnosed autism therapy. The therapist suggested I find ways to feel squeezed/hugged. So far, I’ve intuitively been using:...
I have a favorite hoodie that does it for me. It was my wife's first gift to me so there's sentimental value and it's really comfortable because it's so old. Buy a size larger than you normally get to avoid tightness and buy something a little more expensive for the quality (so it lasts longer) and softness (I'm assuming you don't like rough clothes).
A fern is a plant. A plant is supposed to get pollinated by bees and whatnot. Yet ferns have sperm swimming around and fertilizing the lady-bits of other fern....
Only flowering plants are pollinated by bees and even then not all of them. Ferns evolved before flowers existed so of course they need a different way to breed.
I want to get back into creative writing, and for work I prefer to take handwritten notes (I have my own weird shorthand and it helps with retention). I’d also like the ability to write at night and not disturb my partner....
If I had the choice I would have gotten a Supernote A5X because they are a more ethical company, conscious of sustainability (their pen nib does not need replacing) and they provide a road map for updates so you know what's coming. I'm not able to get one, however, because I live in the UK and shipping and taxes end up nearly doubling the cost.
That said, from what I read, the best writing experience is with the reMarkable, though as others have said, the subscription service is a frustrating addition. They give you a year free when you buy new. This was my best option and I'll be getting one soon.
I also looked at Boox which has color options and a back light but the writing experience isn't as good because there is a gap in the screen where the back light is meaning its more like writing on a white board than paper.
How does one find a career that won't cause them burnout?
I’ve experienced burnout throughout work and education since I was sixteen. Usually around once every 12-18 months. I’ve accrued a lot of associated trauma....
CK3 War Score question - Preemptively abducting an Important Prisoner?
I want to seize important territory from a significantly stronger ruler. Using one of the Intrigue perks, I’ve managed to abduct his primary heir. While I work on bolstering my army, I figured I’d ask if you all know the answer to this....
Are there any notable content creators that focus on content other than niche tech and US political on Mastodon?
I’m hoping to find more general, less nerdy content or infuriating American news. 99% of what I see and is recommended to me is just that....
FlorisBoard | FOSS keyboard that respects your privacy (florisboard.org)
I came across everyday topic on Techlore Discussions about free and open source keyboards for Android and discovered this little gem. It is FlorisBoard, a virtual keyboard for Android which respects privacy of the user. I can sigh with relief and finish my search for that singular keyboard for typing stuff on the go....
[UK] DWP considers powers of arrest, seizure and collecting information on where claimants spend money (www.benefitsandwork.co.uk)
The DWP have published the results of a survey on the public’s attitudes to a worrying list of new powers it is considering acquiring, allegedly in order to combat fraud, error and debt in the benefits system....
I would appreciate a diagnosis or classification of autism that isn't described as a disorder
Using a social perspective to autism, I would appreciate if there were a way to classify someone as autistic without calling it a disorder. Yes, we have difficulties, but from a social perspective, a lot of them come from society being structured to meet the needs of allistics. They get guidance, acceptance, and ultimately...
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How are slavery reparations fair?
This relates to the BBC article [www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-66596790] which states “the UK should pay $24tn (£18.8tn) for its slavery involvement in 14 countries”....
Browser Fingerprints Lead to Price Discrimination (monero.town)
Not only is it legal, it’s much more common than you’d think. Companies charge different prices based on your browser fingerprint....
If You Love Ted Lasso ... Don't Miss These Other Great Depictions of Positive Masculinity - The Peabody Awards (peabodyawards.com)
Meat and masculinity have been bound together for centuries – and that’s no accident (www.theguardian.com)
Safe spaces are important
cross-posted from: lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/2421185...
Looking for squeezing recommendations per the therapist
We’re going over sensory issues in adult-diagnosed autism therapy. The therapist suggested I find ways to feel squeezed/hugged. So far, I’ve intuitively been using:...
TIL: ferns have sperm that swims (www.thoughtco.com)
A fern is a plant. A plant is supposed to get pollinated by bees and whatnot. Yet ferns have sperm swimming around and fertilizing the lady-bits of other fern....
Recommendations re writing tablets e.g. reMarkable
I want to get back into creative writing, and for work I prefer to take handwritten notes (I have my own weird shorthand and it helps with retention). I’d also like the ability to write at night and not disturb my partner....