I’m a 32 yr old male with ADHD, chronic pain, past trauma, sleep issues, low testosterone, and haven’t had much stability in my life for the last 5 years. I don’t think I could have gotten through it without therapy. A good therapist will help you work through your thoughts and emotions and feelings and give you the tools to be able to function and get through those times when you are overwhelmed.
Please feel from to reach out if you want to talk more. I’ve been where you are with deciding what to do and would love to help.
In the mean time I have a couple books I would recommend that really changed my perspective.
Iron John https://www.amazon.com/Iron-John-Book-about-Men/dp/0306824264
(Not sure of your gender) This book is about what it is to grow into a man. Not a manly man or traditional man or anything like that, but a real man who embraces his masculinity and femininity. Talks about how we need something more than our parents to grow. I think it’s still a amazing read no matter what gender you are because it does help make sense of why so many men are the way that they are.
Ohhh I see I see! I am really glad you commented and explained that. That makes total sense and I did not think you meant it in a negative way, I think that it’s the perception of it to a large amount of people is probably negative. Including me, but I guess that’s where context comes in like some other people have been saying.
I get your point now. I just don’t like grouping the two example peoples into one category because I think they are inherently vastly different. Again, I think it really is perception.
And we are definitely in agreement with you last paragraph and the upside down social pyramid.
I have definitely seen it used outside of that. Again, I think the effects are largely unintentional but from an outsider looking in could be very off putting.
Yes, that is exactly how I feel! It honestly makes me kind of sad because I truly love how awesome of a space a lot of these communities are and I think people don’t realize the effect that words and attitudes like that have on the greater experience and vibe.
Hmm. I think you’re right to an extent. I think the gatekeeping you’re talking about should come from the server level and block anything from meta or from other servers with those kinds of people.
Using the word “normie” can be off putting to people we do want on this platform which is kind of my point.
I mean not get too far down that rabbit hole, but I would argue that we are all human beings first and we all belong to many different groups, not just one.
This makes a lot of sense! And I would argue if you just met me you would 1000% put me in the normie category. Buuut if you got to know me you would come to find out I’m a goofy uber nerd who works with a bunch of software engineers and loves technology and gaming and reading scientific journals on particle physics.
I quite frankly don’t want to be in either group because the entire concept of normie vs not normie is kind of silly in my opinion.
Definitely elements of this resonate for me, but that’s why I think it’s just silly. They are a needless way of creating division where there doesn’t need to be.
To me how you are talking about this is kind of exactly my point. The “normie” you are describing just sounds like an asshole and I think that’s the negative connotation and exclusion I’m talking about.
What would you categorize me as? I surf, skate, lift weights, travel, was in a fraternity at a major university, have a beautiful wife and live in suburbia in California close to the beach, started my career in finance and sales (not anymore though). On the flip side, I have ADHD, I have a masters in pharmaceutical sciences, I work with a team of software engineers, I game, tinker with my PC, I read scientific journals on particle physics and a ton of sci-fi and fantasy, I read tech blogs every day, I love the fediverse, etc.
See what I’m getting at? Like it is totally creating an unnecessary and unhelpful division in my eyes.
I personally am quite against it. I joined Lemmy to stay away from the toxicity on Meta’s platforms. I don’t want any corporate bodies on the fediverse either and possibly doing to the fediverse what Google did to XMPP
I mean isn’t that the beauty of it? You don’t have to subscribe to anything meta and you can join servers that actively block it. I think it’s a good thing if it gets more users on activity pub so our communities can thrive.
Lol no I do not want Facebook content. I think I probably didn’t explain myself properly. I hope the fediverse gains more legitimacy and exposure to more people because of this and some of them come to lemmy and kbin and others. I don’t want anything to do with Facebook or it’s algorithms.
EDIT from my other comment:
“No I do not want Facebook content. I think I probably didn’t explain myself properly. I hope the fediverse gains more legitimacy and exposure to more people because of this and some of them come to lemmy and kbin and others. I don’t want anything to do with Facebook or it’s algorithms.”
I’ve seen lists of songs with deep lyrics, songs that are upbeat but depressing at the same time, songs not on the radio, and other things like that… But I have never seen a list of songs that are just super fun to sing....
Is therapy worthwhile?
Hello,...
Rant: I hate the term “normie”.
Posted this in a small community, curious to know what everyone here thinks....
I don't get people that are here in the fediverse and *want to bring over* the content that is on FB, IG, TikTok, etc.
This has come to mind because all the chatter about Meta federating....
Opinions on federation with Meta's new threads? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
I personally am quite against it. I joined Lemmy to stay away from the toxicity on Meta’s platforms. I don’t want any corporate bodies on the fediverse either and possibly doing to the fediverse what Google did to XMPP
What are some fun songs to sing karaoke to?
I’ve seen lists of songs with deep lyrics, songs that are upbeat but depressing at the same time, songs not on the radio, and other things like that… But I have never seen a list of songs that are just super fun to sing....
Booted up a classic for the first time in forever… I’d like to claim credit, but it was 100% my dad when I was a kid. He would whistle after I went to bed and I would “sneak” watch him play. One of my favorite memories growing up. Legend.