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bumpus

@bumpus@mas.to

🏳️‍⚧️ GenX lady with GenZ kids, a wife, and an unfinished project or six. Married to the lovely https://poweredbygay.social/@Treatsandcats

This account is for posting about trans stuff, mostly.

Here for the support, kindness and general awesomeness of the trans community on Mastodon. Not here for any new romantic relationships.

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bumpus, to random
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Did you know?

chamomile rhymes with anomaly

True Facts™️!

bumpus,
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@jens I do now!

Impossible_PhD, to random
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Day two of slow-rolling boudior shots. 💅

Just sitting in a chair.

Not very sexy at all. 🤭

bumpus,
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@Impossible_PhD You look incredible, thank you for sharing. I am now looking forward to my own boudoir shoot. One more thing I didn’t know I needed until I needed it!

Impossible_PhD, to random
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That feeling when you realize something about your neurodivergence that neatly explains a whole bunch of oddities, including why you can't shut off, or even really dial the information grinder in the back of your fucking head down for a while, despite the fact that you've always desperately wanted to

And the reason why means that you will never be able to, because it's everywhere, all around you, at all times, and will be forever.

Good times. Good times.

bumpus,
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@Impossible_PhD I was diagnosed with ADHD recently. There are treatments for some symptoms, if not a cure. The evaluator suggested I should be evaluated for Autism, for which there is no treatment. So yeah; I have very different feelings about these things, but knowing neither one is never going anywhere, ever, is a thing I think about a lot.

bumpus, to random
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Last year at this time I knew I was trans but was having trouble picking a new name. It was 1 year ago today when @Impossible_PhD nudged me to choose from my heart rather than my head. And so I went with Nora, and I have not regretted it one bit. Happy name day to me!

schizanon, to pdx

My stomping grounds

bumpus,
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@schizanon We are practically neighbors! Hello neighbor.

bumpus, to random
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Bad news everyone, we forgot to cancel our 30-day trial subscriptions to 2024 and now we have to keep it for the whole year.

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    bumpus,
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    @rooster My target is Goth Mom, first cousin to the emo MILF. May all our dreams come true.

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    bumpus,
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    @Terra Taking ownership of your life can be terrifying. But you’re doing it, and you’re doing it scared which is the definition of bravery. You’re gonna do awesome and it’s going to be amazing. 9 days!

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    bumpus,
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    @rooster Self love is denser than dysphoria, so it makes sense.

    bumpus, to random
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    Before transition: gets dressed in tshirt, jeans and a hoodie.

    After transition: gets dressed in tshirt, jeans and a hoodie, but it takes 4 times as long and I look 10 times better.

    Conclusion: worth it!

    bumpus,
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    Even when it’s not a great hair day, I’ll still take this over any pre-transition look.

    bumpus, to trans
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    My first year of HRT is complete! Like an iceberg, the changes you can see are but a fraction, the biggest changes are inside. It’s been just an amazing year of joy, growth, excitement and sadness; all things I felt much less of in the preceding years. This year has been full of tears of joy and tears of sadness and everything in between. HRT and transition have made my life more vivid, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    A photo of Nora on her 365th day of HRT. She looks more feminine now. She’s smiling at the camera while sitting on a couch, wearing round gold-rimmed glasses, silver hoop earrings, a vivid blue necklace and a black lace top. She still has the long purple hair, now with shimmering fairy hair sparkles.

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    bumpus,
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    @Terra I didn’t let myself dress as a woman for Halloween because it felt too close, I was afraid others would notice how much I enjoyed it.

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    sigh so it’s Christmas Eve and in about six hours, my baby sister, her daughter and daughter’s fiancé will arrive to have an early dinner with us.

    Of my four siblings, she is definitely the one I would prefer to have over but that isn’t necessarily saying much considering how I feel about the other three. And while I love my baby sis, I can only handle her corporate jargon speak and evangelic Christian view of the world in small doses.

    In my best Roy Kent voice
    Faahhhhhck.

    My wife thinks I should come out to my sis. She’s leaning kinda hard on me to do so but… sigh

    Fifty plus years of being her big brother… her oldest brother. Arguably the one who has been the most stable of her siblings. I don’t want to take that away from her.

    Plus yesterday I went to her house to help her with some electrical stuff and other things here and there and she said some things that make me feel it isn’t worth it to come out to her. I’m surprised at her Boomer™ way of thinking despite being nearly nine years younger than my older GenX ass.

    Since I started three and a half years ago, I’ve maintained a pretty hard “need to know” policy regarding my transition when it comes to friends and family who knew me before. And right now, I don't think she needs to know.

    bumpus,
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    @WrenArcher That’s a rough situation. Is the long term plan to come out eventually? Or do you think this state of affairs is a rest-of-your-life kinda thing? @Terra

    bumpus,
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    @WrenArcher @Terra For me, coming out was about increasing my comfort, not theirs. It was easier for them not to know, but it wasn’t easier for me. Selfish? Maybe. Difficult? Often! But also liberating, as you well know by now. Whatever you choose, I hope this dilemma doesn’t detract from your celebrations, you are amazing and deserve all the joy!

    Impossible_PhD, to random
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    So, how's your family holiday going?

    And, why yes, my mother in law did write my name on the card in such a way that it looks like my dead name.

    image/jpeg

    bumpus,
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    @Impossible_PhD The card has a front side and a back side and they are both seriously ugh. I’m not sure I’d even want to look at the inside. Yikes.

    danirabbit, (edited ) to random
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    Costar is fucking wild lmao

    bumpus,
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    @danirabbit Suddenly interested in astrology for the first time in my life. That’s the kind of predictions I’m here for.

    Impossible_PhD, to trans
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    Recovering from cPTSD can be a difficult journey--but it can be the difference between surviving and thriving, for many trans people.

    This week on , we'll be Holding the Girl with @JoscelynTransient as she shares one of the most tender moments I think has ever been published on SGW. Come join us to learn more about recovering from trauma, EMDR therapy, and why it's important to take the time to heal.

    https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/holding-the-girl

    bumpus,
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    @Impossible_PhD I cried, this is so powerful. I love that the moment you were recalling, Joscelyn, wasn’t one of major big-T trauma, of dramatic or horrific events, it was a moment of quiet little-t trauma that still deeply hurt. It validates all the moments of little-t trauma I’ve had but couldn’t or wouldn’t acknowledge for what they were because they weren’t big-T Trauma. It gives me permission to feel those, too, and I desperately need to. Thank you so much. @JoscelynTransient

    bumpus, to random
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    Today is the 1-year anniversary of me figuring out I’m trans. It’s been a wild and wonderful year, with crazy ups and downs, but full of so much joy! Transition has been so good for me.

    Could you do me a favor? Please reply here and say “I see you, Nora.”

    It’s part of me coming to fully accept who I am, who I’ve always been underneath. And it acknowledges the wonderful community here that has helped me on my way. Thanks!

    bumpus,
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    @lisamelton Thanks, Lisa! I see you, too, with your recent struggles and triumphs and it’s incredible how at home you’ve been in this community.

    miriamrobern, to TransJoy
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    I am continuously gobsmacked how the significant changes to my outward appearance from are miniscule when compared to the internal restructuring going on inside my brain.

    I feel like a house that got a fresh exterior coat of paint while the interior was torn down to the studs, a whole bunch of those studs were replaced, and then a completely new floorplan was installed.

    It is DIFFERENT in here, now. Way more roomy, way more comfortable, way more functional. Just… wow.

    bumpus,
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    @lisamelton You’re so right that the mental shift is harder for others to see but for me the best part of transition. I am so grateful for the mental remodeling. I was beginning to think I’d never escape my dysphoria before I knew what it was. I thought I’d die in that old house, unhappily, unable to fix it to be how I wanted. Now I feel like I got a second chance at life, and if I spend the rest of my days remodeling, I’ll call it victory, I’ll call it joy. @miriamrobern

    bumpus, to trans
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    I’m so thankful for the kind trans people of mastodon. Without you, I would not be the woman I am today. This place has literally changed my life for the better with your stories, your advice, and your support. Even if we didn’t interact directly, your words have helped me find my way, and I am so grateful for all of you.

    bumpus,
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    @lisamelton Oh goodness, you’re so sweet, Lisa! Thank you. I got all dressed up and I’m not even leaving the house today.

    bumpus,
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    @lisamelton I have this constant dilemma, I want to present femme and now I’m hyper-aware that actually, most women around me wear pants, not dresses or skirts, and light to no makeup when I want a full face. I already stand out, it’s hard to want to stand out even more. But also screw em, I have decades of not presenting femme to make up for, and skirt go spinny so let’s go!

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    the best thing about getting an adult ADHD diagnosis is realizing that one daily pill can instantly make your life 80% easier and the worst thing about getting an adult ADHD diagnosis is realizing that one daily pill could have instantly made your life 80% easier 15 years ago

    bumpus,
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    @VeryBadLlama I just got diagnosed and am talking to my doc about meds very soon. I am both excited and really sad about that, since I’m nearing 50 and could have potentially fixed things long ago had I not been dumb. But who has time for regrets when you’re making things better? @cortex

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