Not recently. But few rules I collected/made up through years, that are quite usefull to me:
Just be nice to people. It is free.
Most issues can be talk through. Especially with your SO talk about every bad feeling you have.
Use pen and paper when solving hard (personal) issues.
Really try to be a good person.
Do not drink, smoke. It does you no good.
Do not play games in relationships. Always speak your mind, but always sugarcoat it. Especially sugar coat it to the people you love - you do not want them to feel bad or lose passion after critique.
Be passionate and notice and be interested in passions of others.
People are very deep get to know them.
Find a deeper meaning. Can be religious or philosophic, also here you can help yourself with a pen and paper.
You can decide what personality/character you have, but you have to work to get there. (Eg. You do not have to be grumpy, you can be nice,…)
Make yourself be good with kids. They will teach you a lot.
Be optimistic (but not naive). It is actually more helpful to leave life that way. Pessimists/realists are more correct. But correct is not useful. If you say “I will fail this exam anyway” and do not study you are 100% correct, but if believe you will pass it and study - you have at least some chances to pass it.
When people ask you “how are you?” Say “Excellent!” instead of “Fine.” And then make up a reason to why (eg “It is a very lovely morning!”). First you did not know how you felt anyway and will make yourself actually feel excellent, you will lighten everyone’s mood and if you are creative your response can be a great conversation starter.
buying the domain about us makes a good business idea, so basically you make subpages unaccesable from the landing page for other companies to have things about the company. go ahead use this business idea
I’ve come to realize that everyone is a product of their environment, in both setting and the human body that your conciousness resides in. You might be saying, “duh, you big dumb idiot”, but after REALLY absorbing the concept, I came to realize that people only ever do what they’re “programmed” to do. Its really helped me exercise empathy and reduce my level of frustration towards the people I encounter as I go through life. It’s also helped me be more introspective and suss out the origins of my own behaviors and ways of thinking.
Hope for whatever, or for nothing… or something. Sometimes what we hope for is stupid or will have unexpected consequences that will harm us. So, want less and accept more — work with what you got. But you still gotta give a push sometimes.
If your current choice (of anything eg. partners) is 90% of the way there, don’t spend all your time chasing for those last 10%, as if you do, more often than not, you will lose the other 90% for the sake of these 10%.
it took me 6 years working abroad to realise that I could speak more freely with a random stranger from my homeland, than I ever could with my (now ex-)girlfriend.
I went to japan once (pre-pandemic) and it was a little bit crazy how whenever us english-speaking folks would run into each other we were suddenly best friends. The people I work with would be lucky (good or bad, idfk) to see me speak to any of them throughout the entire course of a day.
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