Turns out exercise and purpose is good for kids. Breathing through disappointment is a buddhist technique, a letting go technique. But letting go is only half of mental health. The other half is going after things.
I love to dig. My dad used to get mad at me for failing classes in school, which happened often. He’d say, “Do you wanna go dig ditches for a living?!”
Now I’m a software developer and yeah I like it. It shuts my brain off. I wish I could do it part time or even just as an exercise but I live in a suburb and any time you want to dig you have to make a phone call and wait for someone to come out
Have you considered calling the locating service, get them to mark the entire yard, and then taking pictures so you know areas are okay to dig in going forward? I’ve been considering doing that for my yard just so I know where I can safely landscape.
I’ve done it before! I think its illegal to dig before calling. A friend of mine was digging in his yard and found an underground cable of some kind, almost took it out with a spade. Probably would have cost a pretty penny, with court fees to boot! Maybe I should take an ad out and offer to help dig for people. Maybe i could get a couple jobs a week, and I would do it for free or travel money and pizza at least
This, but it’s my ADHDAF ass stacking firewood with my dad. Eventually, when I was old enough, I even got to use the splitter and the sledgehammer. Now I’m a grown ass man and Pittsburgh is technically subtropical so he doesn’t heat the house with wood anymore, but in years of studying I’ve never found a more effective meditation than 3 hours of splitting and stacking firewood.
Hell yeah! I did this kind of thing a lot with my kids. Give them a backpack, a flip phone, lunch and drinks and tell them to go explore a hill visible from the house.
I had a great time with my brother in law a couple years ago shoveling snow off my parents drive…
So much so we continued into the road and did a houses length in each direction.
was fun (when we were done) watching cars struggle almost all the way up the road until they got to our bit, have a couple seconds of perfect driving experience, before re entering the icy hellscape.
It’s only 2 measurements of a 3D hole, I assumed depth wasn’t specified and it was 6 feet long and a yard wide. Traditionally graves are also 6 feet deep but that’s not always practical, so if it’s less you should put rocks on top to keep animals from digging it up. Since I’m pretty sure the kid isn’t going to bother with a coffin, even if OP is taller than 6 feet, their knees and spine are bendable.
I could of course be wrong and it’s six feet deep x 3x3. Not sure how a kid is throwing the dirt up and out, but possible. And easy to dump in a body, it’d just crumple down in there. Less suspicious in appearance too. Stick a little tree on top, water it in.
Or it could be measurements for a circle that is 6ft wide and 3ft deep. We don’t really have enough detail cuz they don’t say the shape but it doesn’t have to be square.
I unwittingly terraformed a huge swath of land that started flooding when they flattened out the gravel road to our house over the course of a month or so with a spade when I was 10. This post is weirdly accurate.
I sometimes think of going back there to see what happened since but I’m not sure if someone lives there these days.
People who need work always assume everyone else is like them, and anyone who says otherwise is a liar or defective person. Like morning people, or sports people.
I would happily spend the rest of my life not working.
I think they’re talking moreso about having anything to do at all, not just work. I think we all agree that work can be a drag. But if I didn’t need to work to make a living, I’d still be doing things - hobbies, learning new things, whatever. I’d rot away if I just sat on the couch watching tv all day everyday, for example.
yeah see im confused because i thought that’s what we were already talking about, but then people started talking about it again like it wasn’t already understood.
No, you guys were right. I overestimated OP, couldn’t imagine him possibly making such an inane statement. But yeah, he was literally saying that people don’t like sitting and doing absolutely nothing.
But presumably you don’t just stare at the wall. “Humans need something to do” is mainly bound to not just sitting around twiddling your thumbs. It’s the reason we get bored, the brain is annoyed at not having anything to focus on.
It doesn’t have to be literal work, just something you find engaging, be it going for a run, tending to houseplants, or completing your entire video game backlog.
And of course there is variation between humans. Some people cope well with having little to do, others always need to do something they find productive.
If anyone told that child to literally sit still and do nothing for an extended period of time, that’s some of the most abysmal parenting I can think of. I’ve literally never heard of it happening to any child except in cases of abuse.
It’s always particularly frustrating when someone accuses you of what they themselves are doing, not as a rhetorical tactic, but because they’re just too goddamn stupid to realize what they’re doing. I can’t just say to you “actually you’re the one missing the point” cause you’ll just go “nuh uh” like a 6 year old and ignore what I’m saying.
So anyway, I guess my point is, you’re probably not qualified to have conversations. Like at all.
The fact that you’re at odds with everyone else in the thread should tell you everything you need to know, but the entire point of the post was that giving their child something to do solved a lot of problems.
Humans don’t respond well to having nothing to do.
That’s not at all the moral of the story, because it’s a fair assumption that his child, like most children not experiencing abuse, was not told to literally sit and do nothing prior to being given a shovel.
Think about it for a second. Is there some widespread epidemic of parents forcing children to sit and do nothing? Do we really need a lesson that “hey this thing that no one does is bad”?
The lesson is that kids need physical activity. Not just reading or video games or doing homework. Which is not “doing nothing”.
The fact that you’re at odds with everyone else in the thread
Lemmings are the single dumbest group of online people I’ve ever seen, so that happens a lot.
How the fuck is it bizarre? What’s bizarre is saying people need to not sit and do literally nothing. It’s such a fucking obvious statement, it’s like saying people need to eat to not starve. Bunch of fucking morons on this site. If that’s a lesson you need teaching, you probably aren’t intelligent enough to survive without substantial supportive care
They were surprised that giving their child something physical to do was good for them. Something outside, dirty, and taking a lot of energy. That’s an important lesson, nowadays when do much of parenting is indoors and on tablets.
That’s the lesson. All you dumb fucks are missing it and it’s really blowing my mind that you think the kid was literally sitting doing nothing up until mom gave him a shovel. Not reading, not doing homework, not playing games, just sitting and not doing a damn thing.
It’s the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard of. And it’s pissing me off that our society could produce such stupid people.
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