doesn’t even have to be a ‘wrong’ question. it can be an innocuous one.
i went out with an English teacher two weeks ago, from an app. We were chatting about books. She asked me what I was reading and I her, and she went OFF on me that i’m not reading female black authors and started mocking and deriding my interest because hers were ‘superior’ and I was clearly a ‘sexist’ since I only had one white female author on my list of recently read things.
least to say the date was dead at that point. I wasn’t going to ask her any more questions and be lectured/told off more. I finished my drink and left.
I’ve had so many interacts like this… say one ‘wrong’ thing, and the other person LEAPS down your throat about how awful and evil you are and how great they are. It’s insanity.