What is one generally common thing a lot of people do or believe that you cannot understand?

wagesj45, 10 months ago

The Korean belief in fan death. Blows my mind.

ivanafterall, 10 months ago

Hey-oh!

wagesj45, 10 months ago

wish i could say i meant to do that lol

ivanafterall, 10 months ago

That just makes it all the better. Doing it on purpose just sucks the air right out of the room.

AmidFuror, 10 months ago

Chill with all these fan puns.

curls, 10 months ago

I don't understand why people hit their children. I grew up seeing my siblings get beaten in front of me and then I tried to be as obedient as possible so I wouldn't get beaten as much. I feared my parents so much, I started having anxiety attacks from a younger age and not only acted neurotic about things that could possibly get me in trouble but would piss myself if I was sure I was going to get hit. I have told people this and they just say I was hit too much or I'm too sensitive, that's all, it's still fine to hit your kid. I've heard people defend being beaten with branches, shoes, belts, brooms, hangers, and cables. It made them "strong" and how else can a child understand right from wrong. I took a class on childhood development and the texts overwhelmingly say don't hit your kids at all. I cried reading those textbooks, someone finally agreed with me. I have a friend who is expecting, they are religious and said they will be hitting their kid because essentially God wants them to. It was very hard to hear those words.

1chemistdown, 10 months ago

Are you sure you have a friend expecting? Because, everything you wrote says you need to get away from people like that.

AGuyAcrossTheInternet, 10 months ago

Child protection services will be happy to hear about this. And if you're in a country where they actually do anything, even better.

density, 10 months ago

hopefully the thing they do isn't house the children with sex predators, engage in eugenics, etc

justlookingfordragon, 10 months ago

“You can not teach a cat to stay off counters and tables”… uhm… yes, you can. Get a spray bottle, invest a week or so of your time, repeat the process if necessary, and eventually the cat wil stay off surfaces it isn’t meant to be on. In addition to that, provide hiding spots they ARE allowed to be on/in if the urge strikes them.

I’ve had cats my entire life and they all managed to learn that rule eventually - some sooner than others, but they DID learn it. Even the current furry little drama queen in my life respects that rule, and he’s an half-feral asshole otherwise (still love him tho).

I never understood why some people just let their cats roam around wherever they please, let them walk over the kitchen counter and table, let them sit inside pans and pots in the kitchen kabinet, let them steal food off of their plates, and don’t even TRY to teach their pets that this is not an okay behaviour because “you can’t teach cats”.

density, 10 months ago

my one cat loved playing with the water spray. also splashing around in the bath and even would stick his whole head under the running tap. luckily he never showed the slightest interest in countertops. water would not have stopped him.

I am always really worried if they go on the counter they will walk on the hot stove. But honestly I have also had cats my whole life and it has never been an issue except if there is a specific food they want up there. Had a couple that might try a quick leap-and-grab once in a while if they think you're far enough away. Out of a dozen cats I've never had one that would just wander around on counters or sleep in the cupboard or any of that. I cannot recall any specific effort to prevent them from doing so. but I don't mind cats on the table so they go up there. i'm very casual with my table it is full of stuff. they go there because I like to talk to them while I eat. I think whoever you know is probably training their cats to go on the counter. Do they feed them up there or something?

justlookingfordragon, 10 months ago

One of the two families I’ve seen this with don’t feed their cat up there in the actual sense, but also don’t make much of an effort to stop it if the cat just goes up there and eats whatever is within reach. Cat swiped the bologna from your sandwich? “Oh well, la-di-da, gonna make me another sandwich then and wait until the cat is done with the first one so I can throw away the bread.”

Luckily they don’t have children, so Toxoplasmosis won’t affect an innocent bystander, but still … no. Just no. I’ve never allowed any of my pets to do that. They might get the last bite of my food after I’m finished, but only if they didn’t beg too obtrusively and it is something they can easily digest. Not to mention that it can’t be healthy in the long run if they just allow their pet to eat lots of “human food” all the time.

The other family does indeed feed their cats on a shelf in the living room so the dog can’t get to the cat food, but they didn’t teach their cats that other elevated surfaces might not be okay, and I swear those cats know dang well that they’re allowed to do whatever the f- they want. One of them jumped into their fridge once, with all the casual confidence it could muster. Instead of picking the cat up and removing it from the fridge, he went to fetch the treats to coax it out, and then couldn’t seem to understand it when I told him he’s rewarding a bad behaviour. Judging by their furniture they also don’t mind their cats scratching the couch. The dog on the other hand is well behaved.

In both cases, the entire family (at least the ones I’ve met so far) seem to think that cats are, by default, un-teachable, so they don’t even try. And in both cases they think I “got lucky” with my own cat as he does indeed respect boundaries despite being an asshole in a couple of other aspects.

I’ve not met any other “direct examples” so far, but whenever I’m telling someone else about this it happens astoundingly often that they just shrug and go “oh well, you can’t teach cats anyway, what do you expect…” - I have seriously no idea whether this is a cultural thing (I’m German) or whether I’m just surrounded by weirdos, but either way it happens way too often for my taste.

density, 10 months ago

removing a cat from a fridge sounds like a very straightforward thing to do and treats shouldn't be required. you just grab the cat.

some friends of mine made this very beautiful thing in the living room to feed cats up high where dog couldn't get it. shelves kind of staircased around the room about 1m, 2m and 2.5m high. cats loved the 2.5m perch. it was put together out of antique furniture that matched their style, not ugly carpet cat furniture stuff. i doubt they would tolerate cat on countertop or cat in fridge or cat in cooking pot.

one german lady I knew told me that if my cats sleep on my bed it means I should move my bed. Apparently in germany it is widely believed that cats like bad "lay lines" so anywhere they sleep indicates bad energy. Ever since then I have imagine cat owners in germany endlessly moving their bed around a room trying to find the one location where the cat will no longer be attracted to it. So maybe the problem is that the countertops of your friends have all been build along strongly dangerous lay lines while yours have not been. Now you are full of "good lay line privilege" pretending it's all due to your hard work. Have you ever even once suggested to these friends that they should move their counters?

justlookingfordragon, 10 months ago

That comment honestly just made my day, lol. I think I’m going to do that for real. If they so strongly believe that cats can’t be trained despite knowing about evidence that suggests otherwise, they might believe that bad energy thing as well.

you just grab the cat.

Amen. Total no-brainer IMHO, which is why his reaction irked me so much.

Ragnell, 10 months ago

Honestly, i don't get government conspiracy theorists. Yes, they investigated UFOs during the Cold War because it was the COLD WAR and they wanted to see if Russians were sending spyplane. Yes, the Pentagon believes in UFOs because it literally means Unidentified Flying Object, so yeah they believe they could be a weather balloon or something. No, they probably haven't actually met any aliens.

Every actual government conspiracy -- MK-ULTRA, COINTELPRO -- is something we know about because multiple people leak it because 3 can keep a secret if 2 of them are dead. It's always just one unit like the CIA and FBI because getting all levels of the Federal government on the same page is a damned nightmare. It's been 80 years since Roswell, it would be in freaking Wikipedia by now with sources.

tal, 10 months ago

Yes, they investigated UFOs during the Cold War because it was the COLD WAR and they wanted to see if Russians were sending spyplane.

Project Blue Book was Cold War, but military interest in unidentified flying objects and thus public interest was earlier, back to World War II.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foo_fighter

Royal Air Force personnel had reported seeing lights following their aircraft from as early as March 1942,[11][12] with similar sightings involving RAF bomber crews over the Balkans starting in April 1944.[13] American sightings were first recorded by crews from the 422nd Night-Fighter Squadron stationed in Occupied Belgium during the first week of October 1944. At the time, these were erroneously believed to be Messerschmitt Me 163 rocket-powered interceptors, which did not operate at night.[14] However, the bulk of the sightings started occurring in the last week of November 1944, when pilots flying over Western Europe by night reported seeing fast-moving round glowing objects following their aircraft. The objects were variously described as fiery, and glowing red, white, or orange. Some pilots described them as resembling Christmas-tree lights and reported that they seemed to toy with the aircraft, making wild turns before simply vanishing. Pilots and aircrew reported that the objects flew together in formation with their aircraft and behaved as if they were under intelligent control, but never displayed hostile behavior. However, they could not be outmaneuvered or shot down. The phenomenon was so widespread that the lights earned a name – in the European Theater of Operations they were often called "Kraut fireballs", but for the most part called "foo fighters". The military took the sightings seriously, suspecting that the mysterious sightings might be secret German weapons, but further investigation revealed that German and Japanese pilots had reported similar sightings.[15]

On 13 December 1944, the Supreme Headquarters Allied Expeditionary Force in Paris issued a press release, which was printed in The New York Times the next day, officially describing the phenomenon as a "new German weapon".[16] Follow-up stories, using the term "Foo Fighters", appeared in the New York Herald Tribune and the British Daily Telegraph.[17]

In its 15 January 1945 edition, Time magazine carried a story titled "Foo-Fighter", in which it reported that the "balls of fire" had been following USAAF night fighters for over a month, and that the pilots had named it the "foo-fighter". According to Time, descriptions of the phenomena varied, but the pilots agreed that the mysterious lights followed their aircraft closely at high speed.[18]

The "balls of fire" phenomenon reported from the Pacific Theater of Operations differed somewhat from the foo fighters reported from Europe; the "ball of fire" resembled a large burning sphere that "just hung in the sky", though it was reported to sometimes follow aircraft. There was speculation that the phenomena could be related to the Japanese fire balloon campaign. As in Europe, no aircraft were reported as having been attacked by a "ball of fire".[19]

The postwar Robertson Panel cited foo fighter reports, noting that their behavior did not appear to be threatening, and mentioned possible explanations, for instance that they were electrostatic phenomena similar to St. Elmo's fire, electromagnetic phenomena, or simply reflections of light from ice crystals. The Panel's report suggested that "If the term 'flying saucers' had been popular in 1943–1945, these objects would have been so labeled."[2]

You then had the concern over the Japanese fire balloons:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fu-Go_balloon_bomb

And then, the year after the war ended, the flying saucer craze:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1947_flying_disc_craze

Ragnell, 10 months ago

Which is normal during a war, they don't know what sort of tech the enemy may have developed.

It wasn't even just flyingThere were rumors of a nasty ground-based sonic weapon on the ground in WWII.

tal, 10 months ago

Oh, yeah, not disagreeing with the high-level point you're making, just talking about the timeframe.

Ragnell, 10 months ago

Yeah, I didn't think about pre-cold war. I knew there were sightings in WWI, but didn't realize there were official investigations,

barnyard_noise, 10 months ago

I cannot understand the people who do those annoying social media “pranks” that involve making a mess for some poor retail person/janitor/cashier to clean up. Especially because the most direct explanation is that the videos gain traction—to which I then ask, who are the people that watch those videos and go “heck yeah I love this”??

Eggyhead, 10 months ago

A few years back there was a social media moron who came to Japan and pulled some stupid & offensive shit. I was actually living & working there at the time and, while I’m not a violent guy, I desperately wanted someone to go knock his teeth in. He had zero comprehension the shit he did for his pos channel meant more xenophobic discussions toward those of us who had/wanted nothing to do with him.

Ganondorf, 10 months ago

If this is the same person I'm thinking of, eventually a bystander did get angry enough to have a physical altercation with them at one point. They either overheard him or recognized him and shoved him, then told him off.

Eggyhead, 10 months ago

I hope so. He deserved it.

sailsperson, 10 months ago

People who dislike these videos and comment on them to say that the perpetrators are morons also contribute to the tractiosn it gains because algorithms love engagement, corporatations love engament, so they'll happily show the videos to more people in the vicious cycle of engagement.

niktemadur, 10 months ago

This is why I hate the constant bombardment of trump/musk/reddit/etc posts. Or toxic-flavors-of-the-month like Andrew Tate.

People feeding the noise, and I bet you most of them are convinced that "It's okay if I do it, because I'm being ironic, I'm above it all".
No they're not, they fixate on the most negative shit that floats across their field of perception. And there are always enough of these "I'm special, I get a pass" people to make the noise reach maximum level all the goddamned time.

sailsperson, 10 months ago

Sometimes you also think that you're the one who's got it all figured and can provide something so insightful, so powerful, so eye-opening that you're going to change someone's life, and consequently, the world, for the better - we like to feel special and big, but we're not.

Flaky_Fish69, 10 months ago

orion's arm project

has a basic, but easily understood explanation. basically, if both relativity and causality hold, true FTL travel is impossible, no matter how it is you acheive it. (in the OA universe, wormholes are accepted because the ship itself is not actually going FTL, and therefore not breaking causality)

my understanding of why an alcuibierre drive wouldn't work is that space time itself has some energy(and therefore some mass,) all you're really doing in that system is replacing the reaction mass from being matter to being... uh... space. But my understanding is that of a highly unscientific mind trying to understand...uh... sciencey shit.
 
 
 
In any case, some things to point out? the fastest man-made object is currently the Parker Solar Probe which is planned to reach a top speed of about 190 km/s at it's fastest. (it's basically falling into the sun, using Venus to loop around and gain speed.) That's about .0006 c. At that speed, it would take about seven thousand years to reach proxima centauri (the nearest star at 4.2 light years.)

the energy necessary to accelerate even a few kilograms to a speed that could arrive at earth from another star (any other star), in a reasonable time frame is... appropriately described as astronomical. Any species technologically advanced to do so would be advanced enough to recognize that the only thing that's really unique about our system is... well, us, and all the other life that evolved to be here. So there goes economic incentive. Cultural curiosity? sure maybe. but they'd be technologically advanced enough to understand that we nuked the shit out of our selves, and that we're fucking psychotic. Which removes that.

Religious mandate? Oh. Great. Space-Mormons. (of course there's space-mormons,) This is dubious as then, said proselytizers would definitely defy the world government to preach. (kind of like that idiot that got dead trying to proselytize the Sentinelese people.) Religious mandate to wipe us out of existence? we wouldn't be having this conversation.

Curiosity? is tempered by the whole 'oh, they nuked themselves,' thing. Any technology used to get here could be reverse engineered and used to get there- and we're psychotic enough to nuke ourselves... there's absolutely no telling how we'd actually respond to aliens. probably not how Star Trek portrays our First Contact... (well. except in the mirror universe. That might be more accurate.)

c) In the mathematically improbable situation where intelligent life did manage to get here, why would they be tiptoeing around in the background for seemingly 80 or so years when they are clearly technologically superior to us and nothing humanity has available to itself could remotely stop them? It seems silly to imagine these incredible lifeforms getting here and then having an "oops we crash landed" event.

alien abduction stories replaced vampiric...er... visitation?... stories. it's just pop culture intruding onto people's imaginations.
But yeah. Any society capable of getting here has no need to tiptoe around- they can do what they want. The shinnanigans are... more likely us either misunderstanding things (ie military prototypes, whatever.) or straight up fraud (because, you know, that's happened.)

Reliant1087, 10 months ago

The only likely scenario I envision is unmanned probes arriving centuries or more later with the messages. No one might be around to receive them then though.

Flaky_Fish69, 10 months ago

Ooo. Got a new one.
Homeless individuals, specifically, will sometimes go around to exterior ashtrays collecting buts to scavenge tobacco.

They reroll them to either smoke them themselves or sell off for a buck.

Now, I find smoking nasty to begin with, but smoking some one’s leftovers leaves me gagging

GizmoLion, 10 months ago

Diagramming sentences.

Shit makes no sense to me no matter how many times I look at it lol.

Ragnell, 10 months ago

I never saw the point until I had to figure out the mission statement that our unit was using to keep everyone "focused." They send officers to these leadership classes that teach them the same sort of stuff business guys learn, so the things are full of corporate buzzwords and are one runon sentence.

Well, I looked up diagramming sentences, plugged in the parts of that mission statement and I was able to memorize it, break it down, AND explain it to the airmen.

Diagramming sentences is useful when you have to make sense out of a very poorly structured sentence.

GizmoLion, 10 months ago

I understand why people do it, but that's not the topic of this thread lol.

brainfreeze, 10 months ago

There’s that one guy who thinks that alien civilization sent Oumuamua to us. At least that’s a semi-original take on it.

paper_clip, 10 months ago

Nah, the thing sent by an alien civilization is Phoebe, which is loaded with the Protomolecule.

Reliant1087, 10 months ago

That’s really cool. It would be sad if the object had some stuff written on it but we never saw it because we didn’t get close enough.

HubertManne, 10 months ago

well I mean if using star trek logic then relativity and newtons third law is not to much of an issue as the tech just breaks it or the bubble is outside of it or something and of course there is the prime directive. Lately for me its anyone who thinks bit coin is a good thing.

Ganondorf, 10 months ago

Star Trek science breaks down very quickly when taking Third Law into account; Even the impulse drive wouldn't work as described by the franchise. Warp drive is the wibbly wobbly sciency part that breaks tech, though, absolutely agree.

HubertManne, 10 months ago

I think this does not take into account the magical artificial gravity and structural integrity fields. All the technology is basically magic but if you accept the logic then it should be fine. You can't really start accepting the logic unless you accept it all.

Pons_Aelius, 10 months ago

Star Trek science breaks down very quickly when taking Third Law

That's because it was written by scriptwriters not physicists.

This is not a put down. The science in Star Trek (and in every other sf universe) is there to serve the story and advance the plot, not the other way around.

Can't afford exterior shots of shuttles landing in the original series? No problem, simply create a transporter and make up the science to explain it.

blivet, 10 months ago

Yeah, unless you want to watch the show spending every moment objecting to what is on screen, you have to accept the core premise that future scientists and engineers know so much about space-time that they can essentially manipulate it at will.

Iam, 10 months ago

Building on your point, I cannot understand why the dominant paradigm in the “UFO community” is set on the phenomena being A)unified (all anomalous aerial phenomena are UFOs, and B) all UFOs are physical non-terrestrial beings piloting nuts and bolts craft.

At least, that side of the community/discussion is the loudest from where I’m sat.