I’ve fallen into a deep gaming rut lately. What helped “get you back into” gaming and rediscover the magic of video games?

I, like many gamers, grew up playing Pokémon Red and Nintendo 64 and was obsessed with Nintendo products. I graduated to a PS2 and PS3 and became super into Metal Gear Solid and Call of Duty and Fallout. Also spent a ton of time with the Guitar Hero series. I loved the escape gaming brought me and it genuinely helped me relax.

Fast forward a few years and I hadn’t really played a video game between the years of like 2011-2017. College, moving cross country and busyness of life kept me from gaming. Finally in 2017, I bought a Switch and Breath of the Wild and felt the same magical feeling I remember when I first started playing Ocarina of Time, or the first time I booted up Metroid Prime, or Metal Gear Solid 4. I started to get into online gaming and made a lot of friends. I played my Switch frequently for a few years.

During the beginning of COVID lockdowns, I turned more to reading than gaming and my Switch gathered lots of dust. I ultimately ended up buying an Xbox Series S when it was announced because I’d never owned an Xbox system and Game Pass really intrigued me. I went through a phase of being very into Destiny 2, Halo, Gears of War, Forza Horizon…a bunch of games I had never played before.

Then, a divorce, a new job change, another cross country move brought new levels of stress to my life. I lacked an attention span strong enough to focus on a video game. FPS’s seemed boring, online games couldn’t keep my attention long enough to get through a match, and eventually I’d just leave a game on the pause menu while I messed around mindlessly on my phone. Gaming wasn’t even a way for me to decompress anymore, it seemed more like a chore I was procrastinating—which sucks.

I’ve fallen deeper into this lately, as more life changes have come along. I work a stressful job with long hours. I’m now a stepparent to two young boys. The little free time I have I spend walking the dog, reading, and trying to just let my mind settle and decompress. Let alone, if I try to turn the Xbox on or have the Switch on my lap, it turns into a whole event where the kids want to sit and watch and participate and ask tons of questions (which is fine, but sometimes I just want to do something by myself for me!)

I miss the time of my youth where gaming was a relief and a release for me. I miss how I felt when I first got a Switch and felt so excited and so nostalgic and reinvigorated and looked forward to playing a game! Now…I feel like I can’t even consider myself a gamer.

So. That’s a long winded way to ask if anyone else has gone through similar ruts, or fallen away from gaming, and if so, what games helped you get that spark back? What games brought you back to that nostalgic feeling you had when you first got into gaming? What games help you decompress after a long day? What games have you recently become obsessed with in such a way that you look forward to playing them and are always thinking about them?

I want to get back into gaming. I want to feel the magic again.

Khalic,

Happens to me regularly. I stay away from video games for a while, read a book, go for a walk or some other activity, cool, do something tangible. Give it a few days at least.

Khalic,

Happens to me regularly. I stay away from video games for a while, read a book, go for a walk or some other activity, cool, do something tangible. Give it a few days at least.

FlashPossum,

Contrary opinion - it's OK to give up hobbies you don't enjoy any more.

Gaming was an important part of your life at one point. You remember it fondly because currently you are lacking something in your life, so you're thinking - I used to enjoy gaming so I should enjoy it again.

Doesn't work like that - people go through phases. Find what you enjoy now. Yes, maybe it's gaming again. Maybe its something else - hiking, fixing motorcycles, partying ... who knows. Experiment with activities until you find something that will make you burn again!

itay227,

I agree with this, it’s ok to find something new. Maybe you’ll come back to gaming after a while.

Widget,

FPS’s seemed boring, online games couldn’t keep my attention long enough to get through a match, and eventually I’d just leave a game on the pause menu while I messed around mindlessly on my phone.

My partner does this.

One, you might have ADHD. I can't say, but you could look into it.

Secondly, you need to have some time to let your brain rest. When you bounce between tasks like that, you're never actually not doing something. People think of doomscrolling as taking a break, but really you're replacing your intended task with another task and there isn't a time where you do no task.

Evolone,
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Definitely need to figure out if it is ADHD, depression, or a combination...

On your second point: I also need to work on this. I find myself constantly "doing something". I'm listening to music while typing this; when I walk the dog, I'm listening to an audiobook or podcast. Same when I'm doing dishes or other chores. I rarely have "chill time" - or give myself that.

ultrasquid,
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There are plenty of indie games which offer new and unique experiences which aren't just "shooter" or "online shooter". My recommendations would be Celeste, a platformer about a girl who climbs a mountain, and Hollow Knight, a metroidvania set in a dying kingdom, but there are plenty of other great ones as well.

Kaizo107,
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I've found, at least in myself and friends, burnout comes from playing one game or one type of game, and getting bored with that specifically. You need to find something new, but I can't really give any suggestions since that's entirely subjective.

I fell off gaming for a while because my job got crazy. The Switch and specifically Breath of the Wild pulled me back in. Then I honed in on Monster Hunter World in particular for a long time and kinda burnt out because a different job got very demanding of my time, and it wasn't even a change of game, but just getting a better internet connection so I could actually participate in multiplayer that pulled me out of the rut.

Keep it varied and it'll stay interesting. A buddy of mine just tried to swear off all veeja because he declared himself an addict. He's not an addict, he just burned out after playing nothing but Elden Ring for a solid year. He took a break for about a month and now he's right back on ER with renewed passion.

Zebrazilla,
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Two words, Steam Deck!

This amazing device has awakened something within me, rekindling my passion for games in a way that I haven't felt in decades. After 23 years, and after restarting and attempting to play through it countless times, I'm finally on a solid trajectory to finish the original Deus Ex for the first time!

HidingCat,

This does sound like something beyond gaming; you do have a lot on your plate like you said.

At different points in my life my gaming time also changed, depending on what my priorities are.

Eventually the want to game comes back and I'll spend a weekend or two on something fun.

It does sound like you're burnt out in general, and I'm not sure more gaming might help. I think the first thing to do is to find a way to establish some "me" time, like a solid block of an hour or two where you can do something for yourself. Doesn't have to be gaming, but it has to be for you. Once you can get that going you can work gaming into it, or some other hobby.

Evolone,
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Yes, I definitely need to work on getting more "me" time. I am just...so exhausted. All the time.

The only time I seem to have for myself is in the early mornings when I go to the gym. Or when I'm commuting to work. Or when I'm walking the dog. All other times I am either working, or with family at home and constantly being pulled in different directions. It is a lot, and it is hard to find the balance that I think my body and mind need right now.

HidingCat,

Man, I sympathise, that's really asking for burn out.

With the exception of gym times in the morning, none of the other times sound like "me" time, more like, "not getting disturbed" time. You'll have to find a way to carve that time out yourself. Talk to the family, I hope you'll find a way to get it!

Hawne,
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Like many before me said, explore other interests. Then when you get back to gaming try moving out of your comfort zone. If roaming on open worlds has been your thing for years try switching to a neighboring genre such as battle royale or coop monster bashing for instance, or even try switching to a totally different genre like puzzles or fps. Challenge yourself to new habits and gameplays, and do not hesitate moving on to another genre if it's just not your thing.

KKSakura,
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If you feel burnt out, take a break from your game

Within gaming
Try out a different genre or a different game, preferably something simple
Pick a random game from your library and play a short chapter or 2

Outside of gaming
Spend more time on your current hobbies
If picking a new hobby, try doing hobbies that take you outdoors like running, walking or outdoor sports

tikitaki,
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I want to get back into gaming. I want to feel the magic again.

this amuses me because it sounds like something a drug addict would say. you have that initial magic and then over time you're not using to feel the magic but just not to feel sick

my advice, OP? stop playing video games if you're not getting enjoyment out of it. it's your brain trying to tell you something. do something else with your time and go back to gaming in the future and it will be fun again.

JakoJakoJako13,
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@tikitaki @Evolone have you ever played Subnautica?

tikitaki,
tikitaki avatar

yes i loved that game

N0_Varak,

My go to when I'm feeling burned out is something with a small, self contained narrative. Something I can pick up and be done with in like 10 hours of total time. Pretty much anything published by Annapurna has immediately captured me. As a suggestion, I'd say give Outer Wilds a try (not Outer Worlds, the RPG from Obsidian though).

bozo,
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I don't know your personal tastes, but if I had to recommend one recent game to help anyone break a rut, it would be Hi-Fi Rush.

Too many games, especially those in the AAA space, are more focused on being bloated engagement treadmills over simply being fun, concise experiences. I'd recommend seeking out shorter, offline games that don't rely on RPG elements. It's also ok to just take a break from gaming altogether.

Evolone,
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I actually just downloaded this on Game Pass. Looking forward to it!

Zummy,

This sounds awfully similar to my life.

For me, all the added stress and changes made it impossible to enjoy any of my hobbies. It took me a while to figure out how to decompress, manage the new stressors in my life, and slowly incorporate my old hobbies back in again. They came back full force too!!

So if you're like me, just focus on making sure your house is clean, you're eating well, getting outside some, working out/walking a little if able, and you have a good mental process to attack work and commitments and get them done on a timely manner and hopefully the gaming will spontaneously come back.

Best of luck to you!

riktor,
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I pretty much exclusively played shooters growing up. Call of Duty is the big one. I haven’t played COD in almost 10 years.

I got to a point where gaming was pretty stale. I was playing on a console mind you. I made the jump to pc gaming and the amount of diversified games rekindled my enjoyment. Playing MOBAs, mmorpgs, and even shooters that are pc exclusive.

Long story short, need to diversify. Play games in categories you’ve rarely dived into before and find something new. Playing the same 5 or 6 game series is bound to get boring for anyone.

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