Others have already commented on the insanity of her forcing you to go to a bowling alley with a migraine, so I just want to add: eat? At a BOWLING ALLEY? Goodness, the food alone would be horrible enough without a migraine. I’m so sorry and don’t blame you for taking some time to distance yourself from your mom.
Some bowling alleys have good food. There's one big one in my city that has a gigantic Boston Pizza, arcade, escape rooms, and more all in one building. The Boston Pizza is great. They have solid food.
Others have already commented on the insanity of her forcing you to go to a bowling alley with a migraine, so I just want to add: eat? At a BOWLING ALLEY? Goodness, the food alone would be horrible enough without a migraine. I’m so sorry and don’t blame you for taking some time to distance yourself from your mom.
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To answer a few points, my mother is in her 90s. She is not suffering from dementia, but she doesn't deal well with not getting her way. She throws tantrums in public. So it is easier just to go along with her wishes. One of my sisters had the police called on her for elder abuse once because my mother was throwing such a fit about how mean her daughter was to random strangers. Edit: if you've seen the episode of Malcolm in the Middle where Lois's evil mother comes to visit, and they call the police on her when she refuses to leave, and she plays the pity card to the cops and almost gets Hal arrested? That's my mother.
This trip was the first time I had seen her in 2 years. I took her to the casino with the agreement that I would wait outside, but of course she pretended to be looking for me in the casino, security called me thinking she was lost, and when I went in she insisted we go eat there rather than heading back to the vacation rental. I couldn't exactly leave my elderly mother there and go back to the vacation rental without her.
I got home a week ago and don't plan on calling her for a while. I am still pissed off.
My sympathies to you, (not that you need it but) it sounds like a really rough time! I don't know if I'd have the energy to deal with adult tantrums when I have a migraine so I completely understand and don't blame you for taking time for yourself now that you can.
I have chronic migraine. It can be very difficult for people to understand that not all of my migraines are severe because they have a family member/friend that has them and every time they have to be in a dark room, no noise, etc. A lot of my migraines are moderate and I can mostly function but it is miserable. I have gotten pretty good at saying not today.
Oh gawd. Sitting through all this when having normal stress headache itself is impossible. I would have puked and collapsed into a fetal position. Not sure how you even pulled it off. Also time to get a new mom.
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