@futurebird
Some time around 20yr ago (2002, maybe?) I was sitting at a coffee shop working on a paper when a very small trans student org plonked down at the table next to me and starting talking about the issues they were grappling with—really basic stuff like “how do you go to the bathroom on campus?”
It was one of those moments when things I thought I knew suddenly got thrown into confusion, and I was never able to think about gender the same way again.