PSA: If you have to sit there removing traits that your friends deem "unacceptable", such as trying to avoid your sexuality or acting like "an LGBTQ+" individual... protip: those people aren't your friends and doing that to yourself over long periods of time is not worth it. I sat there for YEARS repressing myself to be included in tech spaces who would've otherwise hated me for being publicly trans and queer. I regret trying to suck up and be "one of them" or "a good one". No fuck you, I am not hampering my personality to sit there and appease someone who very much wants my kind eradicated. Part of my recent techposting has been the fact I found a space where I can both be a kinky weird freak who's trans and gay while still being respected and able to talk to people about technology. A lot of the time I spent in those communities was negative to my mental health. Watching my acquaintances (if they can even be called that) spouting transphobic & homophobic rhetoric for years unend while not being able to say anything, and having to hide that part of me did a lot of harm on my mental health.
Do not fall for the "I don't hate gay people, I just hate the ones who make it their entire personality" thing. Listen, those people do not give a single shit about you and often times will straight up hate you regardless. I didn't make being trans about my personality, I sometimes talk about the issues I face as an LGBTQ+ individual. You know what those people say to that? "Why are you bringing this up? You're making things awkward. This is what I don't like about the LGBTQ+ community, you make everything about yourselves". No I'm sorry but I have a legitimate right to express my fear and anxiety regarding current active attempt to wipe people like me off the face of the earth.
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