social media is like both email and browsing. we want server assistance with spam (unwanted tagging here) but otherwise no interference with our browsing (who we can connect to).
people here need to publicly embrace a new norm. no protecting users from stumbling on upsetting content but also no tolerance for intentional harassment. federate with servers with misinformation and unpopular opinions, but not servers that won't police their users that tag people with shit or poison hashtags.