Oh god, to be clear, I'm not saying people who love each other and want to spend their lives together shouldn't get married, YOU DEFINITELY SHOULD, I'm just saying people continue to become who they're in the process of becoming after that peculiarly finite moment in time and it's okay if the person you become is not completely and COSMICALLY compatible with the person the other person becomes. Like people aren't static things and it is only dumb archaic traditionalist horseshit that dictates "YOU MUST COMMIT TO STASIS."