Ilovechai

Ilovechai, 6 days ago

@autisticadvocacy pick up the pace
#runnergirl 👟🏃‍♀️🔥
https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=cSpnJjM1H24&si=mYgFF8nQYuaMqlaB

Ilovechai, 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd
#LateDiagnosedAutism #neurodivergent #recoveringfromreligion

Not sure how to describe it, but I'm feeling frustrated that despite the fact that my faith deconstruction began in 2015, and I officially left the religion in 2016; I still miss the closeness and belonging I once had. I'm Hella triggered by organized retreats or post religion gatherings... it seems to have the same flavor as church.. I get that people are wanting connection. Obviously so do I..
2/

Ilovechai, 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd
#LateDiagnosedAutism #neurodivergent #recoveryfromreligion

but so far, online spaces seem to feel the safest. I think being in a high demand religion with insta-friends masked some of my limits in socializing or maintaining friendships. Literally 4 to 5 in person 'friend groups' I attempted to engage in over the post faith years, all imploded 1-2 yrs later. I'm starting to fear I'll never have connections that survive beyond that now
3/

Ilovechai, 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd
#LateDiagnosedAutism #neurodivergent #recoveringfromreligion

(despite having 15-20 yr friendships before leaving.)
When you lose your entire support system, and you see red flags of manipulation or non-reciprocation miles away.... somedays it feels like I just have to accept that freedom of mind has to be enough, cuz trusting relationships was the price...
4/

Ilovechai, 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd
#LateDiagnosedAutism #neurodivergent #recoveryfromreligion

but here I am, trying to have spaces to find connection and ASD or post religion spaces seems to be the safest 🤔 (every time I decide to leave exreligious spaces from deconstruction topic burnout, I find my way back because its the place I find like minded people) I guess I'm just here to vent about how f*cking terribly cruel shunning is.
5/

Ilovechai, 10 days ago

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd
#LateDiagnosedAutism #neurodivergent #recoveryfromreligion

🤨 And how utterly burnt out I feel trying to rebuild a support system. Thanks to anyone who shared their energy to read this. 🥹🙏🏻

5/end

Ilovechai, 9 days ago

@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd

Thanks again for all those who have been so considerate and responded to this thread. It makes me curious if there's a discord space where you hang out? Those who offered DMs ...I'd be open to it, and it's also more comfortable for me to respond than initiate, or to chat in a more private space regularly before doing one-on-one (at least for me). So, if such a server exists, do share (either in DM or comments) 😉🙏🏻

Ilovechai, 9 days ago

@filmfreak75 @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd
🤩🥰 ty 🙏🏻

Ilovechai, 9 days ago

@arisummerland @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd 🙏🏻🥰 ty

Ilovechai, 9 days ago

@JoBlakely @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd
I'm glad you're finding benefit and connections that way ✨️🙏🏻I'll be curious about this idea.

Ilovechai, 9 days ago

@seanwithwords @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd

That's a healthy approach. One step at a time.

Ilovechai, 9 days ago

@janisf @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd

🤩👏🏻🌈💓

Ilovechai, 9 days ago

@Zeronior @actuallyaudhd @actuallyautistic

😎🏍👏🏻🤩 that's awesome

Ilovechai, 9 days ago

@arisummerland @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd
Thx. I looked and funnily enough I joined it in April, but didn't remember till check. I guess I'll try doing more than reacting to posts. 🫢

Ilovechai, 20 days ago

@servelan @MikeFromLFE

@autisticadvocacy @actuallyautistic

Ilovechai, 8 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy
Late Friday night shenanigans
Singing helps regulate my nervous system.
#happyfriday #goodvibes
#stim #actuallyautistic
#karaoke #ballads #singing #fedimusic #karaokenight
#specialinterest #actuallyautistic @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

Ilovechai, 8 days ago

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy
Singing helps regulate my nervous system.
#happyfriday #goodvibes
#stim #actuallyautistic
#karaoke #ballads #singing #fedimusic #karaokenight
#specialinterest #actuallyautistic @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

Ilovechai, 8 days ago

Singing helps regulate my nervous system.
#happyfriday #goodvibes
#stim #actuallyautistic
#karaoke #ballads #singing #fedimusic #karaokenight #lullaby
#specialinterest #actuallyautistic @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

Ilovechai, 14 days ago

@f1337 @actuallyautistic

100%
"PDA is characterized by a heightened fight/flight/freeze response to demands, leading individuals to actively avoid or resist requests, even if they are enjoyable activities."
https://rb.gy/0cs8as

Ilovechai, 14 days ago

@f1337 @actuallyautistic

I prefer: "Persistent Drive for Autonomy" to describe PDA. 😌