I’ll start! I invested in a cordless vacuum, primarily because it came with a pet hair accessory but turns out, I love to use it for a quick dopamine hit! Getting a room or two to look clean-ish without the commitment of finding an outlet and dragging a chunky vaccum across the room is a massive help!
I enjoy washing dishes, but only once I’ve started or when I don’t have to do it… So I try and trick myself into thinking I’ll just wash a few things, half-assing something is better than not doing it at all, right? I end up usually washing most or all of it anyway. I can do it scatterbrained, like wash some, dry some, put some away, wash a few more. I don’t have to focus on just washing. And I’ll sing along to the radio and look through the kitchen window and see what the dog is doing.
I also put the dish washing liquid into a pump dispenser and inside the handle of the dish sponge to make the process easier.
That’s true, best to use it in oxy-powder/stain-remover form that’s been formulated for fabrics and so you can get one for whites and one for colours. Should work for pretty much all of these stains.
Adderall 2 days in a row now makes me paranoid, and I’ve never really been able to get a doc to prescribe vyvance or anything else, and frankly at this point, I’m afraid to do stimulants. Strattera made me feel weird....
I am managing and kind of not managing really. Recently quit smoking and vaping and went off coffee so my brain has been a bit frazzled. But it’s getting back to normal.
Biggest help is working longer hours but fewer days and having my shift segmented so that I get downtime between busy hours. I do three days a week and on a workday don’t pressure myself to do any housework. On my days off I’ll catch up on sleep and housework.
I also have a diagnosis for autism so to me it seems like I can manage some symptoms of my ADHD easier thanks to ASD. But I also then seek a simple life and don’t do anything much besides work and looking after my dog and my partner. I’ll go out when I’m on holiday.
We have our arguments as well but we’ve gotten a lot better at arguing, now we can sort of pull back and express how we feel about the issue, not that the other person must be wrong for disagreeing.
And you’re right, I would’ve had a lot bigger dent on that confidence before and now instead of wallowing in it for ages I’ve grown angry cause I know I’ve not been treated right.
I’ve slowly built up confidence working with people and being more social and felt like my feelings and opinions were respected, but then had them outright ignored. I don’t know if I’m still bitter thinking that a coworker I thought of as a friend is less so a friend but at the same time it’s given me a push to apply for jobs higher up in my career since I don’t need to feel like I’m leaving my friends behind. I’ve been thinking I need another year before I’d feel confident enough to train to be a nurse rather than a carer but I might just find out if I can start sooner.
Then sometimes you just wanted to ask what something means and your partner is so used to you asking them to repeat they repeat what they said and no w everyone is confused.
...but at the same time want to hold on to useless stuff or hobby stuff you don't have the energy to do. I feel like if I didn't have so much stuff I wouldn't have all the clutter to make me feel anxious, like there's just so much stuff. I have a very small wardrobe (well, boxes of clothes since I haven't had the energy to go an...
What is something like a hobby or skill that you belive almost anybody should give a try, and what makes your suggestion so good compared to other things?...
Learning a new language. You learn a bit about how languages work, understand other cultures a bit better, usually learn new vocabulary for your native language, understand the relationship between different languages, learn the roots of loan words and generally helps your brain stay healthy, even by only studying the basics.
To be honest I'm not a native English speaker so your advice is probably more useful anyway. My husband is British and has studied plenty of languages, finding Swedish and Norwegian definitely the easiest to pick up. Romance languages have more complicated grammar but you'll find a lot more TV and movies to watch to casually pick up a bit more of the language, which I find useful because I only speak English as well as I do from watching a lot of TV (first with subs) when I was younger.
Did anyone else have a weird experience with math? I could always do it in my head, really fast, get the answer, it's correct... But then I couldn't show my work or prove it, meaning it was useless. I'm curious if this is an ADHD thing? If so, does anyone know why?
I can barely count to a hundred without struggling, I keep forgetting what the next number is and repeat the number in my head to keep track of where I am until I remember what comes after 47.
Also just can't do mental math, I've memorised basic calculations rather than understanding them so if it's something I don't use a lot I start doubting myself and spend ages breaking it down without being able to keep track of it all.
I've heard of dyscalculia being common with ADHD people but my schools never tested for it.
Yeah I'm hungry and want some food but there's nothing quick/easy to make in my fridge. I've been microwaving potatoes to eat with butter for the past few days.
In reference to the awful /r/ADHD subreddit which is the most anti-ADHD place online I have ever seen I would like to know if this place will follow their horrible example or actually allow neurodivergent people with ADHD to consider it a home?...
Yeah it's not like I'd want people to feel bad for having negative feelings about their ADHD, but it might be more helpful to channel those feelings to a more positive change rather than wallowing in it. Had the sub been named r/ADHDvent I don't think people would've been so annoyed but I've heard it was difficult to post anything positive as it would get deleted under the rule of "no toxic positivity".
ADHD is such a personal thing as well it should be up to the individual to define their feelings on it. Currently I don't like to consider mine a disability mostly due to feelings of being an imposter and having one therapist suggest it may be more of a trauma related thing, but I think that should be my right to define how I feel about my ADHD and how it affects my life since it's a question of my experiences. For someone else it will affect them a lot more and they'll struggle a lot more.
I remember it being very negative in that most posts that you'd see just scrolling through it were complains along the lines of "ADHD is the worst" and "just been fired for the fifth time" and it wasn't until my husband noted that he had heard it being a terrible sub that I realised the atmosphere was purposely that way. They discouraged self-diagnosis to the extend that seemed unhelpful, even though it could be argued that how can someone seek a diagnosis if they don't first self-diagnose? And generally seemed to consider ADHD as a curse or a disability, regardless of whether and individual would feel that way. They were openly against neurodivergence as a term:
"We consider the neurodiversity paradigm to be harmful to people with ADHD, both directly in terms of its stated goals and indirectly via constant attempts to silence us for disagreeing with them."
Yeah and in fairness it can be easier to find something to complain about than come up with positive or even neutral topics but I found most interesting conversations to be about small things I didn't think could be linked to ADHD.
Also that's true, if it's all Americans it's hard to find out what it's like to get a diagnosis in another country or what meds are being prescribed etc.
For me its when someone tells me to bring them something. If i try to find something that i need, i will find it really quickly. If someone is asking me to find something for them in a room, it is like i become blind and even if its in front of me, it is really hard to find it.
I’ve got a good memory, but talking with my partner he will often say “I told you this before” and it’s just completely gone over my head cause I’ve been slightly distracted. I’ll be listening but things don’t seem to register and it’s worse when I’m distracted by the fact that I am having to put so much effort into listening. Edit: typo
He'll be back with the milk someday but till then: (lemmy.world)
This thing I found and thought was funny (lemmy.world)
Shaking my head (i.imgur.com)
What are your "favorite" chores and how did you make them ADHD-friendly?
I’ll start! I invested in a cordless vacuum, primarily because it came with a pet hair accessory but turns out, I love to use it for a quick dopamine hit! Getting a room or two to look clean-ish without the commitment of finding an outlet and dragging a chunky vaccum across the room is a massive help!
Guide to stains (lemmy.world)
At the party vs on Mastodon (sopuli.xyz)
For those unmedicated, how do you manage?
Adderall 2 days in a row now makes me paranoid, and I’ve never really been able to get a doc to prescribe vyvance or anything else, and frankly at this point, I’m afraid to do stimulants. Strattera made me feel weird....
What do you feel is the best part of your autism? Worst?
I like being able to spend literal hours focused on one thing. It makes the time I'm able to be productive longer....
Living with a programmer be like (sopuli.xyz)
Ask the audience (lemmy.world)
The what now? (lemmy.world)
DAE want to just throw out all the stuff?
...but at the same time want to hold on to useless stuff or hobby stuff you don't have the energy to do. I feel like if I didn't have so much stuff I wouldn't have all the clutter to make me feel anxious, like there's just so much stuff. I have a very small wardrobe (well, boxes of clothes since I haven't had the energy to go an...
First days home (sopuli.xyz)
Why the long face
Baby dog not very happy with not being able to fit herself between us in bed no more.
What is a good hobby/skill that most people should give a try, and why so?
What is something like a hobby or skill that you belive almost anybody should give a try, and what makes your suggestion so good compared to other things?...
ADHD and math
Did anyone else have a weird experience with math? I could always do it in my head, really fast, get the answer, it's correct... But then I couldn't show my work or prove it, meaning it was useless. I'm curious if this is an ADHD thing? If so, does anyone know why?
You’re not hungry. You’re bored. (programming.dev)
Is this place actually going to allow people to post?
In reference to the awful /r/ADHD subreddit which is the most anti-ADHD place online I have ever seen I would like to know if this place will follow their horrible example or actually allow neurodivergent people with ADHD to consider it a home?...
ADHD simulation (mastodon.social)
What is the most annoying ADHD trait that you have?
For me its when someone tells me to bring them something. If i try to find something that i need, i will find it really quickly. If someone is asking me to find something for them in a room, it is like i become blind and even if its in front of me, it is really hard to find it.
Blossom demands attention (sopuli.xyz)
She won't be ignored.