Not sure who I’m writing this for or who but will share it anyway
can I maybe humanise piper Perri a bit?
Well post this scene she had a kid. Split with the dad. Got into a new relationship. 25 years old.
She left said 21 month old son in the care of her boyfriend. Returns to find the child hospitalised with multiple suspicious injuries and severe internal head trauma.
She started a gofundme to pay for his treatment. Trolled of course because porn star. The largest contributor was funnily enough an adult site.
Son didn’t make it. She requested his organs be donated so he could live on in other people. His death meant three other kids had longer / better lives.
The boyfriend went to court. Gave conflicting reasons as to how the injuries occurred during interviews then settled on the old fell down the stairs response. The cause of death noted as shaken baby syndrome.
That’s what I see when I see this meme. A mother whose kid was killed but had the grace and heart to use her son’s passing to help other kids live. One day these kids will see the meme and not realise they’re alive because of the choices of that woman.
She had sex on camera with some black guys in a taboo scene which plays on the white male insecurity fetish, which we now use as a shortcut to mean being taken advantage of. Weird, huh.
Your dad simultaneously saw you as the baby who slept securely in his arms, the child he saw through junior school, the teen who he tried to help steer past his own mistakes and the adult he wistfully spoke of with pride
Imagine how good he must feel to know that you remember him this way.
answerWild World by Cat Stevens You know I’ve seen a lot of what the world can do And it’s breakin’ my heart in two Because I never wanna see you sad girl Don’t be a bad girl But if you wanna leave, take good care Hope you make a lot of nice friends out there But just remember there’s a lot of bad and beware, beware
being perennially excluded from parents group, kids activities, volunteering, coaching and other social connective activities because you’re a male parent and might accidentally sexually assault someone
losing multiple male friends to suicide, and seeing society handwave it away as being less important than any other form of death, despite its incidence being 10 times that of homicide
being objectified as inherently dangerous, simply for having a penis, and worse still understanding why
starting each day trying to be good, and do good, and that still never, ever being enough
Hey so what happens to unused blood bank blood? Like the red blood cell stuff not the other stuff
I heard it has a life of about a month or so, so I assume it either goes to further research or it’s destroyed
If yiu could process blood otherwise intended for destruction, at the scales at which blood is donated in the us, I’d have thought it would be reasonably doable
answerFat Bottomed Girls by Queen Hey, I was just a skinny lad Never knew no good from bad But I knew life before I left my nursery (huh) Left alone with big fat Fanny She was such a naughty nanny Heap big woman, you made a bad boy out of me
At the heart of this is the unfortunate fact that nuance is lost in online discussion. The reason that the bear scenario is so notable is it is so polarising. “yes! That’s how I feel!” vs “you’re reducing me to a threat”
An honest and direct conversation between two peers is far more likely to have a lasting effect. Hearing what the lived experience is directly from the person who’s experiencing it is far, far more more compelling than the stark bear statement.
I don’t feel unsafe most of the time. But I have felt unsafe and vulnerable before. Thus when a female colleague told me about being followed by a guy in a park while walking her dog, and feeling torn between straight running away and keeping her pet safe, it resonated directly with me. I could see her reliving the experience and see her distress. She shouldn’t have to go through that. It’s not fair.
That conversation resonated far more completely than the bear tweet.
The reason I say in person is because if the amount of information which is transmitted via direct conversation is orders of magnitude higher than through eye contact, tone, language and body language.
If you and I were talking right now, I could maintain eye contact, rotate my shoulders so I face you, position my head in a way that says I’m listening, use my voice to indicate that I’m contrite, or uncomfortable, or supportive.
It can be excruciatingly uncomfortable for people who are used to having virtual tools abstract away the hard parts of interaction. But that’s exactly what (in this case) women are saying they feel. They feel, in the real world, they’re not safe. To me, the weight of that comes from a direct interaction rather than a news article or twitter post.
Stop cancel culture! (lemmy.world)
Non-binary (lemmy.world)
feeling old now? (lemmy.ml)
[Solved] [Folk] (lemmy.ca)
answerWild World by Cat Stevens You know I’ve seen a lot of what the world can do And it’s breakin’ my heart in two Because I never wanna see you sad girl Don’t be a bad girl But if you wanna leave, take good care Hope you make a lot of nice friends out there But just remember there’s a lot of bad and beware, beware
Anon tells a story about president Taft (sh.itjust.works)
I have to teach my daughter different things than my son (lemmy.world)
Iron (and glory) (mander.xyz)
cross-posted from: mander.xyz/post/13003496...
[Solved] [Rock] (lemmy.ca)
answerFat Bottomed Girls by Queen Hey, I was just a skinny lad Never knew no good from bad But I knew life before I left my nursery (huh) Left alone with big fat Fanny She was such a naughty nanny Heap big woman, you made a bad boy out of me
nuanceposting (lemmy.cafe)
:::spoiler Important clarification/FAQ I am not calling to coddle or excuse the behavior of bigoted men in any way!...
Am I supposed to ask stupid questions here, or *not* ask stupid questions?
It’s kinda how you read the name, innit?
If somebody spends the whole day watching fox or religious propaganda, gets worked up and all he can think of is owning a liberal or converting an unbeliever, is this person a victim or just gullible?
Let me explain the question:...
He's just... unbearable (i.imgur.com)
Solved: Name that song (pop rock) (lemmy.world)
Clue: the band is crowded house...
Terror Squad - Lean Back (lemmy.world)
Just the chorus, should be doable :)