I think you’ve got part of it right from my recollection and experiences, but not quite the full thing. I think Obama’s success actually lead shitty people to lash out more, which brought trump to power, which emboldened those shitty people to stop hiding it and actually be proud and display it. I think the racism and shittiness was always there but people kept more of a lid on it. We just aren’t able to pretend it isn’t who we are more broadly anymore.
The comment you replied to is “no record of this comment” for me. What did they say? I was thinking brown recluse because of if the “violin mark” on its back, but I didn’t want to duplicate a comment I can’t see
My experience may not be everyone’s, but I’m in my mid 40s and I practice this for the most part and consistently run into it with new partners as well.
There are some things that are pretty obvious. But once things are getting going I always ask if it’s ok before I take another step further if it isn’t abundantly clear and asked for.
I learned dating in the days of “the guy must make all the moves and asking is a mood killer.”. I like how things are now. I like that asking is not just accepted but generally becoming the norm. In a way it’s kind of like dirty talk, saying the things you’d like to do. Even if the other person isn’t ready for what you’re suggesting it can still lead down other fun paths that they are ready for and willing to do
Of course this is all YMMV with different cultures and different people. But this has been my experience.
Yeah, professional training can be really helpful. Especially if they’re interactive with you as well so that you learn how to train while the dog is being trained. Imo a training course is only as good as the owner will be after, if that makes sense.
One thing I read once and applied to my last dog and my friend has done with his: use as the hand gesture for sit bringing both your hands up to your chest, like kids do when afraid. Dogs tend to respond to visual commands as much as or more than vocal. This way if someone is scared of the dog and makes that scared gesture, the dog will (in my experience in most cases) sit.
And in general, consistency is the most important thing. In the end, teach your dog whatever commands you want with whatever cues you want, but consistency is the key across the board. This includes initially how anyone interacts with your dog during the initial training phases, if possible. This helps reinforce the specific training you’re doing and that not just you should be able issue commands
Oh thank you for this. I’ve seen the lockdown but I never really looked into what it does. Not that I am one to frequently be in a position where I’m concerned about being forced to thumb my phone, but it’s nice to know. Even being a middle aged white dude, one never really knows when you might be perceived as having looked at a jack boot the wrong way.
I had a dog when I caught it that first July, so I kept walking her. I obv kept wide of people but still walked my dog and got plenty of sunlight. I don’t know what’s real and what isn’t as far as what’s going to help with reducing the intensity of this things but im glad I kept getting exercise and vitamin D, and I’m also glad Paxlovid is out there for people who catch it now. Rest, fluids, the med, and still getting a little sunlight and low intensity exercise would be my 100% non medical professional recommendation.
Browsing all, I came to say something snide about your levels of frustration, then I saw the community name and kind of chuckled. I know I’m not adding any value with my comment here, but just wanted to make a note of my turn around.
I mean, you said it yourself and I went and checked. On March 7, there was a us embassy alert to avoid large gatherings over the next 48 hours. Wouldn’t be much to check it out before executing and replan.