@vlrny@disabled.social
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vlrny

@vlrny@disabled.social

🇨🇦 Good-hearted weirdo; expert pillow-nester; lover of trees and dark irony (not necessarily at the same time).
#actuallyAutistic #chronicIllness #chronicPain
Was #yyc, currently Eastern Ontario, trying to put down roots in #Guelph
Pronouns: she/her/gurl!

Thx for CW on food photos. 🤢

I tend to start conversations I am too tired to follow up on, but ya'll just carry on, I'm lurking.

Header image: bare curly branches reaching to a blue sky.
Profile image: Is me. Dat's mah face.

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vlrny, to lonelinesscorps
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Bad news is I am back in the stupid town and stupid apartment that nearly killed me to pack up my life and move it to Guelph (yay!)

Good news is I have access for an installation of !
Choices this round:



Starting between 5pm and 7pm my time.
Let me know if you are interested and which movie.
@lonelinesscorps

vlrny, to random
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Important question!

Which if these emojis represents the mwah! chef's kiss of perfection?

🤌

👌

Hopefully there is a consensus and I didn't just start an internet fight...

vlrny, to Netflix
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So what are people bender watching these days?

I am looking for slow compelling dramas that aren't dystopian. Pops of humour always welcome, as is utter bloody silliness.

Pretty much any language as I use subtitles even in English.

Have Netflix, Britbox, CBC Gem.

vlrny, to random
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For all sorts of reasons, and no reason at all, I am having a really rough day.

Ergo I welcome any toots of: cheer, support, hope for humanity, badly punned memes, validation, or anything other general mechanisms of blowing sunshine up my butt. Because apparently I am unable to generate any of my own.

🌬️🌞🍑

vlrny, to fediverse
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Ok hive mind!

I am looking for sources for watching science documentaries (NOVA, Nature, National Geographic, BBC Earth... And other awesome stuff I probably don't even know about) that isn't via YouTube. I am fed up with their unrelenting greed.

So need suggestions on doc-heavy streaming services, and/or a #peerTube buddy to help me find stuff if it's there, and/or advice on an applebox app that filters out these unrelenting intrusive ads on YouTube. 😤

vlrny, to random
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vlrny, to random
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If you are hurting, feeling lost and alone, there's a new tag:

Where you can just toot "I'm here" and know others are out there, holding space for whatever is happening too.

You're not alone.

I'm here.

vlrny, to random
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Well, I'm going to go for a walk, can't remember the last time I moved my body, urk.

Then I think I need some utter bloody silliness. Who's up for an installation of
later this aft?

If you have access to any of these movies and are free for a couple hrs later today, give a wave, we'll work out deets.

(or organize your own movie watch cohorts)

vlrny, (edited ) to random
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I am gonna watch one of these classic movies starting sometime in the next couple of hours.
If anybody else has access to any of these and wants to join me for a bit of a toot-driven co-watch let me know. 🍿

UPDATE: We are watching Blues Brothers at 6pm(ish) EST. Gather your snacks and build your pillow nest! We'll muster on the tag. 🎶😎

Join us!

vlrny, to random
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I was a dog, but because I was so good they moved me up to human status.
...sort of

vlrny, to random
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Well here's an interesting thing I learned about myself this summer:

When I feel gross with a kind of vague headache and I can't figure out what's wrong... I've let myself get too hot.

The heat sickness creeps up on ya, I am still trying to catch the early signs.

What other signs have my fellow noticed? (pls share tips for cooling down fast too!)

vlrny, (edited ) to random
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Exploratory question:

Are there fedi/mastodon options for creating private lil discussion enclaves a la chat groups/rooms? Perhaps using groups or lists (features I haven't really explored the functionality of)?

I am pondering gathering some folks for side discussion, out of the public eye, for deeper collective conversations.

vlrny, to random
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For those of you grieving the communities you've lost on other platforms...

You're not starting from scratch, you're starting from experience.

You know who you are, and you know what you need. You already have a vision of what a healthy supportive community looks like, now you just have to cast about and draw those people together.

And you are doing that on a platform of people so excited to reach out and find YOU too.

It's rough right now, but it's gonna be ok.

vlrny, to lonelinesscorps
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I don't have a solid plan yet but vaguely pitching watching something from the internet archive sometime after 4pm today (circa 6hrs from this toot).

Anybody interested? Movie choice TBD so you pitch yer vote for something fun.

@lonelinesscorps

vlrny, to Canada
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Petition to "call upon the Government of Canada to create and implement a disability emergency relief benefit to provide immediate support to people with disabilities while awaiting the implementation of the Canada Disability Benefit."

Please sign and share this link everywhere you can.

Poverty is crushing disabled ppl in Canada (including me). We need your advocacy. 💪🧡

https://petitions.ourcommons.ca/en/Petition/Details?Petition=e-4514

vlrny, to random
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I keep blowing out my cog and then being physically fried and wobbly for the rest of the day (which also destroys my eating). Trying to recalibrate to something sustainable. My new mantra:

Think less; move more.

I am surprised by how much this brain exhaustion is wrecking my physicality. Gotta focus some love on my not-brain; ironically, maybe to increase available cog. 🤔

vlrny, to random
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Ok, editing a video to toot costs too much brain, so I'll just tell you..

I have a lil wee grey mouse that lives in the attic and comes out and eats manky plums out of the dead plant basket on my fire escape. I call him Atticus and he is adorable.

We have become quiet friends, he's super chill now and doesn't even startle when I move around the space.

This morning he sat and groomed in a sunbeam while I drank my coffee.

I am in love. 💖

vlrny, to fediverse
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This week's theme:

Got someone you'd really like to see join? Well grab 'em by the hand:

  1. help them pick an app

  2. help them pick an instance

  3. have them post an toot, including their special interest tags

  4. tell them about and - cheer them on, boost their toots

Ease onboarding by smoothing out the learning curve; help lead the way!

vlrny, to random
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So much of what is going on these days is just so awful and overwhelming I often don't know what to do but sit (meditation) -- getting grounded before you take any action is usually a good idea anyway.

I often don't know how else to support people, or seek support myself. We are all so disconnected geographically, I wonder if we can connect via a tag.

vlrny, to random
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I actually had to get out of bed at stupid o'clock this morning just to see what all the noise was about.

Two ravens, perched directly above my place calling out to all their friends in the gloaming dawn.

Yeah that doesn't, like, bode, or anything.

vlrny, to random
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For anyone feeling beat down or worn out, a reminder just continuing to survive in a society that thinks you are disposable is pretty fucking punk rock.

Your messy (currently) miserable existence is an act of rebellion.

Fight the power. ✊ Live through this.

vlrny, to random
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Hey ya'll, I'm back!

Apparently I had to step away to watch the rest of my life burn down.

...sorry about all the smoke. ;)

Particularly vexatious as I can't find marshmallows; those smoldering embers are now perfect for roasting!

vlrny, to random
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Apropos of nothing (and everything):

It is way more fun to lift people up than to tear them down.

vlrny, to mentalhealth
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@lonelinesscorps
The thing I struggle the most with loneliness wise is my cognition. I often just don't have the words for banter and especially miss having deep chats on a variety of topics. This is particularly frustrating when I am physically isolated and online stuff is my main way to connect.

I long to be in a room full of people all quietly not talking, just being physically present.

What flavour of loneliness gets to you?

vlrny, to random
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