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vlrny

@vlrny@disabled.social

🇨🇦 Good-hearted weirdo; expert pillow-nester; lover of trees and dark irony (not necessarily at the same time).
#actuallyAutistic #chronicIllness #chronicPain
Was #yyc, currently Eastern Ontario, trying to put down roots in #Guelph
Pronouns: she/her/gurl!

Thx for CW on food photos. 🤢

I tend to start conversations I am too tired to follow up on, but ya'll just carry on, I'm lurking.

Header image: bare curly branches reaching to a blue sky.
Profile image: Is me. Dat's mah face.

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vlrny, to random
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If you are hurting, feeling lost and alone, there's a new tag:

Where you can just toot "I'm here" and know others are out there, holding space for whatever is happening too.

You're not alone.

I'm here.

vlrny, to random
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vlrny, to random
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For those of you grieving the communities you've lost on other platforms...

You're not starting from scratch, you're starting from experience.

You know who you are, and you know what you need. You already have a vision of what a healthy supportive community looks like, now you just have to cast about and draw those people together.

And you are doing that on a platform of people so excited to reach out and find YOU too.

It's rough right now, but it's gonna be ok.

vlrny, to random
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I'M A GROWN UP AND CAN GO TO BED WHENEVER I WANT.

goes to bed at 8:30pm

vlrny, to random
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I would like to know why with great vastness of the outdoors, a fly can find the door into my home, but once inside seems utterly incapable of finding that same door to get out.

vlrny, to Canada
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Fellow Canadians, did you know there's a movement to boycott Loblaws for the month of May to protest their profiteering?

https://www.cbc.ca/news/business/loblaw-q1-revenue-boycott-1.7190272?cmp=rss&utm_source=press.coop

[my cog is low, so if anybody has other links or resources, drop 'em in the replies!]

vlrny, to random
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For anyone feeling beat down or worn out, a reminder just continuing to survive in a society that thinks you are disposable is pretty fucking punk rock.

Your messy (currently) miserable existence is an act of rebellion.

Fight the power. ✊ Live through this.

vlrny, to ontario
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So, things are bad, I need an extraction. I will not survive a summer in this attic apartment with the levels of smoke and heat this summer is gonna produce.

I am basically looking for someone to "foster" me for a few months (deets in thread) in either the or areas. A kind of hippie room & board situation. Access to healthy food, and loving human contact.

vlrny, to random
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If yer feeling lonely, turns out scrolling and just ⭐ booping dah shit outta all those posts feels bloody lovely.

Also, there's the tag if yer on the quiet contemplation side of things. Sharing moments of peace.

We're not alone, we're just not all in the same place.

vlrny, to mastodon
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What I like best about

vlrny, to mentalhealth
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I'm seeing folks casting about trying to build their support systems, but not always clicking. Like the structures aren't there yet, lots of people are tooting out to crickets.

So this is a general call out pls share:

  1. active tags (or groups) that are helping you connect and be uplifted

  2. gaps or struggles ie "I can't find a tag/group for [ ]

  3. any tags/groups you are trying to launch

Let's create and consolidate and enliven the tags we need.

vlrny, to random
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Excellent article on loneliness, not just on the support and social aspect, but the problems with not feeling you have any control.

“Loneliness has always been explained as a deficit in the satisfaction of one’s communion or relational needs,” Ybarra says. “But in addition to communion needs, individuals also need agency, personal control and choice, and not meeting this need should also affect experienced loneliness.”

https://www.futurity.org/feeling-lonely-3066672-2/

vlrny, (edited )
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Ok I have some clearer call outs now.

@lonelinesscorps ]
we'll use this as a vehicle to help people connect both when they are feeling lonely (peer support) and as a place to share resources and projects for community building online or irl.

Plus need ~12 trunkies to help enliven the group and get the conversations rolling. Ping me if ya wanna help (especially if yer lonely).

vlrny, to random
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Best part of this week?

I've gotten really good at spelling "apocalypse."

vlrny, to Waterloo
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I am looking for an errand buddy in
I don't have enough cog to both drive myself somewhere and do anything once I get there. So looking for someone to do errands with. Either with your own car, or if you have a a driver's license and executive function we can use mine.
Hoping to build some new friendships and a mutually supportive network in my new home town.
Pls boost if you have connections in the area. Danka!

vlrny, to random
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vlrny, (edited ) to random
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How are mah trunkistas feeling this year?
...I made it multiple choice so you can have ALL the feels.

Comments welcome, let's share strategies and find a way through.
❄️💙❄️

vlrny, to random
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The tag is for anyone anywhere anytime btw.

Just a lil place where you can pluck a string on the interwebs, say "I'm here," and receive the rebounding echos of those who are also reaching out for a lil quiet human connection.

Take a moment, come alongside and be present with yourself and with us (whoever "us" is at any given moment).

You're not alone.

We're not alone.

There's power in that.

vlrny, to random
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Psst: new tag to help you find your peeps. Drop in on any of the tags too. We got ya!

vlrny, (edited ) to random
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I am gonna watch one of these classic movies starting sometime in the next couple of hours.
If anybody else has access to any of these and wants to join me for a bit of a toot-driven co-watch let me know. 🍿

UPDATE: We are watching Blues Brothers at 6pm(ish) EST. Gather your snacks and build your pillow nest! We'll muster on the tag. 🎶😎

Join us!

vlrny, to random
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This is your random reminder empathy isn't just about sharing someone else's pain, it's about sharing their joy, their humour, their wonder...

So if you are feeling tapped out from all the misery, it's ok to take a palate cleanse, soak yourself in happy things.

You can step back into the fray when your spirit's recharged.

vlrny, to random
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Woke up this morning to birdsong, thinking: cool I haven't heard that bird before. It was my nostril whistling.

vlrny, to random
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Look,
We are having a healthcare crisis.
A housing crisis.
A cost of living crisis.
And a climate crisis.
What we are not having is a pronoun crisis.
Yeesh.

vlrny, to random
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This season of giving, don't forget your instance. 💖 The fediverse is built on volunteers and donations.

Consider offering your time to help moderate. I am sure after the year we've had, your admins and moderators would appreciate a break or lightening of the load.

That's part of allyship. Giving a bit of yourself so everyone can have safe and comfortable community.

We're in this together.

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