fraying, 
One of my least favorite reply guys on social media is the “you’re just noticing this NOW?!” guy.
Yeah, man! We notice things when we notice them. If you agree, welcome me to the fucking club.
Are you the punch-clock of timely awareness or a builder of solidarity? You want a prize for noticing it first, or do you want to actually change it?
Pointing out that someone is late to the party is not what good hosts do, and just makes people less likely to try and help in the future.
