@msquebanh When I started thinking about this 30 mins ago, I realized that most of the people who tried to justify abuse to me were also women. I wonder if they were looking for sympathy from me, or trying to game my emotions.
I don't know what the cause is/was. I mean, I have no idea, and any guesses I might have would be based on pure speculation. But I don't find it shocking... I just feel cold about them. I am trying to remember males who did this, or similar. I'm drawing a blank.