I liked people posting annoying commentary as quote-tweets a lot better than when they do it in comments. Quotes were easier to ignore - because it felt that they were meant for their followers, not for me to react to and to manage (esp. if I don't want to be flooded with notifications). Can't wait for the feature.
(Because this is #fedi: you may feel different about this. It is obviously fine. Be civil, don't mansplain - even if you are not a man.)
@vicgrinberg
While I'd ❤️ quote toots, I feel a little bit different. Replies under my post are like people coming into my house. It is my responsibility (and right) to counter or amplify their arguments.
With quote tweets, I lose control over the interpretation. It also can feel like being dragged into a hostile crowd.
I once had a professor quote one of my tweets with "That is nonsense" and his followers agreeing with him [1]. I felt bad the whole day.
@RaphaelWimmer I like the whole idea of "people coming into my house" because that's the reason why I dislike it: it feels like my responsibility to make sure it's civil (since other guests may see it) and to counter even where I think that disengaging is a much better strategy.
Mastodon gives one no control over comments, so it's like I open my door everyone comes in and I need to clean up after them to make sure other guest are still welcome.
@vicgrinberg Yeah, I guess it depends a lot on who and how many people visit your house.
For me and my account, the chance to foster a good discussion outweighs the minor inconvenience of addressing the very few problematic posts.
@RaphaelWimmer (as a side note: I really enjoyed the peer discussions I could have on twitter, but my community did not move her for the biggest part ... :( I do miss this. )
@vicgrinberg Side note: your warning against mansplaining makes me slightly uncomfortable in a similar way. To me, it also conveys the not-sohidden threat: "take care not to disagree with me too hard, otherwise I might label it as mansplaining and tell everyone that you are sexist.
I'm pretty sure that you don't intend this interpretation.
But your warning causes me to be extra careful with my wording and maybe even avoid commenting. I wonder if others might feel the same or if it is just me.
@RaphaelWimmer honestly - given the kind of comments I tend to get here, I'm fine with folks being somewhat uncomfortable and thinking twice before commenting. Because many clearly don't otherwise.
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