nemobis, 3 months ago to random

Did anyone write about the #ReplyGuy problem in a #NonViolentCommunication framing? Surprising if not.

#ReplyGuys #NVC

fullfathomfive, 4 months ago to psychology

I love this piece from Marianne van Dijk's newsletter about Request Blind Spots. It's not just hard to ask for help, sometimes we don't even realise we can.

#psychology #disability #nonviolentcommunication #nvc #askingforhelp #selfcare #selfadvocacy #chronicillness

Until one summer. I was flying to Sardinia for a holiday with my partner at the time. We started to approach the island, the plane was descending and there it was: excruciating pain. But this time, somehow I reacted differently. I think it was a thought popping up that was something like: ‘why suffer?’. As I could barely speak, I asked my partner to call a steward and explain the situation. At first the steward said he didn’t have anything. Then his eyes lit up and he said he might know something and that he would be right back. He returned with two plastic coffee cups and told me to put them on my ear. That's right. I had to place coffee cups on my ears. There were wet, hot tissues in them, that were supposed to relieve the pressure. Just holding cups to my ears like a mad person already made me smile a bit, but I was even more delighted to notice that..it worked! My pain was at least half as bad. And even more so, I got a huge sense of support. So here’s my message to you: ask yourself whenever you are uncomfortable and you are not asking for help: ‘why suffer?” and ‘could this be my Request Blind Spot?’. You might also ask others where they think you are not asking for help when you could.

rafa_font, 9 months ago to mastodon

Is #Mastodon a non-violent social network?

#NonViolentCommunication has 4 tenets:

1. Observe without judgment
2. State your feelings
3. Express your needs
4. Make a request

Read what others say without jumping to tell them they're wrong.

Something to say? Focus on how you feel. Find out what you need and say it out loud.

I'll go:

I see that discussions are more civil in Mastodon compared with Twitter.
I feel calmer and more confident than in Tw
Can you tell me what you think of this?

strypey, 10 months ago to random

I feel uncertain these days that I can give someone an honest compliment, or speak with genuine admiration to someone about a mutual friend, without being suspected of sarcasm or some kind of ulterior motive. Do I just have some kind of psychological issue I need to work on? Or is it that our culture has become deeply weird about compliments? Collective irony overdose from 20 years of Gen X eye-rolling (Disclaimer: I'm at the younger end of Gen X)?

strypey, 11 months ago to random

"At times you use force, to prevent violence. But not in the form of punishment, to make people suffer, because you have judged them as evil."

#MarshallRosenberg, 2010

https://piped.video/watch?v=DgaeHeIL39Y

#NonViolentCommunication #violence #pacifism