Even before I considered the possibility that I might be autistic, I realised that “other” people usually spent a lot less time analysing & critiquing my behaviour than I might think. (They’ve got more important things to do!) Even when they did/do express annoyance or criticism, it’s likely to be both mild & momentary in most cases. Therefore my rumination is disproportionate.
The other thing I learned was to accept that other people have issues which influence their perception, thoughts & behaviours. Being considerate of other people’s needs (when we understand them) is one thing, but taking on responsibility for always meeting their needs is not ok. If someone is irritated or worse with me, it’s not necessarily my “fault”, or my responsibility to fix the situation.
As an AuADHD, RSD has been a big factor in my life & a cause of much anxiety. My boundaries have been either too rigid, or the opposite. Developing healthier boundaries has been a major focus & while I’m still learning, has helped me a lot.
@actuallyautistic@mellowfish@autism101 i do the walks, but meds and therapy didn’t help me unfortunately. I wound up hospitalized at peak medication. After that i quit all of what they had me on and things are nominally better. I started reading books again, i started playing in my old band that I dropped out of from anxiety. I feel like the system’s’ solutions were actually the problem for me.
@clouddweller@actuallyautistic@mellowfish@autism101
I've heard other people saying the same. There#s books about, how the industry fakes studies and that there is evidence, that the medications are not as effective as many doctors believe. Also gender data gap. medications produce up to 70 percent more side effects in women and are often not tested on females. Many are not as or not at all effective for women, when the do get tested.
@clouddweller@actuallyautistic@mellowfish@autism101
In Germany, a company sued a journalist. He called pharma industry a mafia. In court he was able to proof, that that industry does everything and is everything, we commonly associate with the term mafia. As a consequence, it is now legal to call that industry a mafia.
@autism101@actuallyautistic I feel bad because all the solutions I've shared are individual, but the root of the problem is that we live in a world that punishes us for being us. Fix that and I'm sure a lot of us would be less anxious
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