Is there a way to make objects stop teleporting from my hands?

I’ve been diagnosed by my former therapist but I feel things are getting worse these days.

I mean, I have my vape in my hand, and one second later it’s nowhere to be found. Maybe it’s in the bedroom where I swear I haven’t been in the last 5 hours. Maybe in a bathroom cabinet. Maybe on the table but I wouldn’t tell because my fuckin brain is incapable to discern any object in the middle of clutter.

Is there a strategy to remember where I’ve put something I was holding? It’s gotten to the point that I’m getting preemptively mad when something I’m looking for is not where it’s supposed to be because I know I’ll have to turn the flat upside down just to find it, just to lose it again a few minutes later and/or do the same song and dance for the next thing I need.

jeffhykin,

no

Death_Equity,

I just want to stop things from being imperceivable while in my hand or after just being put in my pocket.

The other day I frantically looked for my car keys while they were sticking out of the pocket of my clean pants I had just put on. I could have looked down and seen them, but instead I tore my room apart looking for them because they weren’t in the same spot I always store them.

DuckOverload,

Do you meditate? If not, start. Do you do a lot of screen-based entertainment? If so, cut back.

It could be that your issue is an innate genetic thing… but these are obvious and proven ways to improve your mental health and performance, and worth trying. Though meditation is difficult and video games are fun, so these aren’t particularly appealing, I know.

SendMePhotos,

Pockets, or never let it go. Thus is the only way for me.

0ops,

I just lost the fork I was stirring pasta with. I’m eating it with a different fork now. I didn’t leave the room, I don’t have a fucking clue where fork #1 went

randon31415,

Why is their a hammer in the fridge?

Lemminary,

Try the soulbound spell until the devs fix the lag spikes and inventory bugs.

Oh shit, wrong sub.

Flying_Dutch_Rudder,

The best way to combat this is everything has a spot. It doesn’t matter how inconvenient it feels, everything has a spot. The spot can move over time but it still has a spot. It does t matter how messy or unorganized it is, it still has a spot.
I suffer from this a lot, but drilling it into myself that everything has a spot has been the best way to fight it.

jdf038,

I agree. Have a basket for keys and wallet and stuff you take out in one place. Have a spot for your vape or headphones in say a computer desk drawer. It’s the only thing that works for me and even then I struggle.

413j0,
@413j0@lemmy.world avatar

Honestly just get a vape that is confortable to carry around in your pocket and has a good weight distibution so you can use it to fidget, I also vape and i had to design and 3d print one because it was by far my most commonly misplaced item. but since I made my vaporflask inspired squonk dna75c I just have it on my all the time and if I change location its either in my pocket or I’m fighting with it unconsiosly

wfh,

Dude I’ve been rocking a dna75c Odin mod for a few years, it’s indestructible and has the most reliable chipset I’ve ever used in the 13+ years I’ve been vaping (most other mods I’ve had had died in less than a year). But it’s massive, heavy and lacks a kill switch (like most mods) so tends to misfire if placed wrong in my pocket. I actually started to design a more compact 3D printed mod a few weeks ago that would be built around a dna75c or 100c.

I was also thinking going boro for the small form factor but no decent dna designs seem to exist.

Kolanaki,
@Kolanaki@yiffit.net avatar

Check behind your ears. If not there, check elsewhere.

dumpsterlid,

I am going to take a different tack here that might not be popular, there likely isn’t a way you can stop this tendency from meaningfully impacting your life in a stressful way.

You can, as you have mentioned, notice the emotional hardship that happens from experiencing this cycle over and over again. The grief and exhaustion that transmutes into anger in the moment you realize you can’t find something and finding it is going to be another wild goose chase can really hurt you over time, it is important to validate those emotions and give them their own space so that they don’t become intertwined with your basic mental cycle of trying to find things.

webghost0101,

Wait. I always thought my inability to discern objects within clutter was part of the sensory processing filters struggling within autism.

There is many neordodivergent overlap but now i am very curious how common this is within non autistic adhd

BillDaCatt,
BillDaCatt avatar

Start small with important things, like your keys and your phone, and create a contextual place for them. In the home they are always in the same place. The location should be convenient a table or a shelf is great. The important part is that you never set them down anywhere else.

When you are out, they are on your person but always in the same place. Never set your phone or keys down while you are outside of your home. They are in your hand or in your pocket. There are no other places to put them.

My phone is always either in my pocket, on the arm of my big chair, or on my desk on or next to the charger. I try to never put it down anywhere else. My phone is almost never lost. My keys are similar. They are either in my hand, in a keyhole, or in my pocket. I never put them anywhere else and I refuse to put them down anywhere but my pocket.

Get in the habit of refusing to put important things down unless you can put them away properly and they will get harder to lose track of. Once those habits are strong, slowly expand to more things having a specific place in your world and you will find that things go missing less often.

Reverendender,

I was hoping to get meds after my neuro psych testing to help with this.

Kalkaline,

Get rid of the clutter, which means you periodically get a trashbag and throw out the stuff you don’t need, or donate it if you think someone else will actually be able to use it.

Those tennis shoes you thought you might use for yard work 3 pairs ago? Toss them, no one is going to use them, not even you.

The leftover craft supplies from the time you thought painting would be a relaxing hobby 5 years ago, donate it.

It all goes out the door and into the dumpster or donation facility that day, no hanging on to piles to take another day.

wfh,

The problem is in the spaces I don’t control. My wife is messy, my infant daughter even worse 😓

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