Look, you’re never going to change the ‘lazy’ person, that’s just how they are. You’re also not going to change how the ‘hard worker’ person feels about the lazy person. What you can do is change how you react to this situation. You’ll need to set some boundaries. Tell hard worker “listen, lazy is my friend too and I really don’t like it when you talk about this person behind their back. It puts me in an uncomfortable situation and I would appreciate it if you would keep that topic to yourself.” Friendships evolve and this will either make it or break it. If it breaks, then hard worker was never that great of a friend to begin with. A friend respects boundaries.
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