Does anyone think life was better 15 years ago?

So I don’t really know how to ask this question because I can’t quite explain what I really mean or want to ask.

I am now 30 years old and I couldn’t be in a better situation than currently. My job is fun and providing me enough money to live a happy life and pay my own built house (I am a nurse). I have way more free time than lets say even in my childhood. I remember coming home from school and feeling anxiety cause of exams. I remember nursing school, it was hell for me.

Now all I have to do is go to work and when my shift is done I am off and can do whatever I want whenever I want. I don’t have to ask parents to drive me somewhere, I have my own money, I have my own house, I can play video games all day… and still, I don’t know why but nostalgia is real.

I am not even sure if my feelings are real. I can only give silly examples like coming home from school, logging into world of warcraft with friends and having a blast. But I don’t think it was like that. We were all just in skype and everyone was minding their own business in that game. We had good laughs though.

I don’t know. My life should be so much better than it was 15 years ago but I miss the 2000s era. It all just felt so different. I remember the hot summers going to the lake with friends.

Now? I don’t know. Maybe it is because it seems like I am the only one that has so much “time” and no one really joins anymore. While I have a wife and no kids and most of my friends don’t even have a wife yet (so no kids…) they still are somehow busy and don’t go to the lake anymore, don’t play video games anymore, don’t do anything. I actually wonder what they do all day.

Life felt more exciting back then. Maybe because I had goals and now I am “done”? But this should feel good. I am happy that I am “done”. House, wife, job. Those were the things I wanted back then and now I am more than happy to have those things.

Resol,
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I was still a kiddo back in 2009. To be fair, it was actually pretty enjoyable to me.

weeeeum,

Check out Kyle Hill’s video on generative AI and the dark forest of the internet. Everything is competing for our attention and fighting for it. Technology has allowed for bots, misinformation, shitty articles, ai generated text to be widespread. There has been a trend to find smaller, closer knit communities that have REAL people as the rest of the internet has become much more hostile.

I believe that spills into everything else around us considering how much of daily life hinges on networking and wifi.

Minotaur,

Some of it is nostalgia, but I have to say I do at least really miss when tech was in that 90s-2006~ era.

It just felt like… a much better balance. Enough to bring information across the world, enough to play a fun video game or make communication and business easier but… not so overwhelmingly dominant where it “replaced” a lot of real life.

Other than that, most things are better now I’d say

FlyingSquid,
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In my specific case, definitely not. My daughter was born 13 years ago. She changed my life and myself for the better in so many ways. It’s also been super challenging, but also incredibly satisfying.

I don’t think anyone should have a child unless they absolutely want one, but it has been the best thing that ever happened to me.

chaosppe,
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Since you ruled out money and free time. Maybe it’s to do with health and diet? I recently switched my diet and honestly feel so much better. I was the type to eat little veg and high fatty foods before.

shinratdr,
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HurlingDurling,
@HurlingDurling@lemmy.world avatar

Fun fact, the 90’s where 30 years ago

rdyoung,

Liar…

Wanderer,

I agree.

Sounds like you might want to consider quitting your job and travelling for 6 months, or go work in another country before you get too old. That’s what I did.

But back to your other point. I’m convinced 90’s and 00’s were better times. Things were easier, more free, there was more free time, there was more community. People were happier and less prone to anger you could actually joke around with people and life wasn’t so serious. Now it seems like everyone wants be a victim of something and just fuck up everyone’s lives.

Back in those days if someone couldn’t take a joke you just tell them to lighten up and have some fun. But people just want to be the victim.

arran4,

In contrast 2009 was a actually a very bad year for a lot of people. I think what you’re feeling is pretty normal. Try create some new fun, don’t do too much in terms of recreating things except to confirm / dis-confirm memories.

scytale,

Because even if you have enough money to live comfortably, you now have adult responsibilities compared to when you were 15. Back then you didn’t have to worry about paying taxes or maintenance/repair of a house, or taking care of your health as much as you need to in your 30s. So you’ll feel more nostalgic about the time were you lived a little more carefree.

solitaire,
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My life personally is better now than it was 15 years ago. I have some nostalgia for the late 00’s, and if current me could go back I could build something better than I have now - just working not “lol I just memorize lottery numbers” or whatever - but back then I was fucking miserable. Abusive living situation, deeply mentally ill, broke and not yet equipped to deal with it all.

jaschen,

44 male with a wife since 25yo. I want to say I was in the same boat in my early 30s. But things changed once I had my kid. Like life completely changed. My mindset changed and I don’t have those feels anymore. My priorities changed. I just have joy seeing my son grow up.

Not saying you should knock up your wife. Just saying that you have to have a purpose. My friends without kids went into teaching and became a mentor for underprivileged kids. My other friend became a kids counselor. Both have no kids but found purpose.

iknowitwheniseeit,

My son turns 15 in two days. I’m super happy having him around, so yes life is better for me than 15 years ago. 😆

Opafi,

My oldest one is about to turn 14. Man, 15 years ago I was in my mid 20s, at the University. We were out partying on Tuesdays, I learned so much new stuff, I met young and enthusiastic people every day, I was just married… You bet my life was different 15 years ago.

shinigamiookamiryuu,

Fifteen years ago, I would’ve been nine. Too early in life for me to know what “good life” is, not that I’d call it good.

stackPeek,
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I don’t think so. Especially if you live in a developing country

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