Sometimes, in a split second I get this kind of sadness when I see something.
I saw a guy with his son and he was showing him how to fill the car with petrol.
Nothing special. Unless you’ve never really had a father. Then you think about all the other stuff you had to learn by yourself; like shaving, driving, finding your first job and hundreds of other small things you don’t normally think about.
I suppose there’s pride in having navigated from age 14 till 41 by yourself. But it’s a poor 2nd place prize.
Yeah that last part I know all too well. I’m so fucking grateful that I’m nothing like my father. I learned early that he was bad. But it took a hell of a lot of work and effort to correct the bullshit he instilled in me.
I felt this with some of the dads at my old workplace. Hearing them having to leave on time to go watch a game or going to a 9 day fortnight so they could spend more time with their kids. I kinda teared up for a bit thinking about how my dad never bothered. If he picked me up he was often late and I once spent 90 minutes waiting on the kerb (in the day before mobiles). The only time he ever came for an accomplishment of mine - the highest one I ever had - he made it all about himself and was a total embarrassment.
I saw a lot of that when I worked in manual labour. These guys were rough around the edges but they genuinely cared about their families and would do anything to make sure they were safe, happy and secure.
The way they talked about their kids, you could tell deep down they loved them. Even if they had this tough guy exterior.
Sometimes I tear up when I see families in public having fun and just being happy together. Lucky I always wear sunnies outside.
I feel this so, so hard. I can usually ignore things in real life, but I don’t watch family movies or shows very much because they make me feel the same way, and if I ever do something or have an experience that feels like my idea of normalcy I end up in a euphoric like state for a few hours before crashing really hard and ending up really sad for the next few days
I’m the same with any family related media. It just hurts. I know about that euphoric state you’re talking about. For me, they happen when I succeed at something I’ve been working hard at. I feel really good for a while, then the thoughts of “wish I had a family (that’s average) to celebrate with”.
All my victories are silent.
I lie to people when ask me about my family. I made up a story about how they are all overseas. Stops the weird vibe that happens when you tell the truth.
I think you deserve all the hugs in the world for having to feel that way 🫂 That’s heartbreaking. I know you can’t do anything about how it all is and you’re unbelievably bright and level-headed and observant for all you’ve been through, but I hope so much you do find your own family when you become independent and get some of those happy family vibes in your real life. The physical feeling of belonging and security is absolutely unmatched. May you get to experience that for real with good people who will be there for you :D
I am not taking this footy tipping thing very seriously - I had 2 minutes to spare when I remembered I hadn’t done it yet. Luckily, you can just tip tonight’s game, save it and then do the others after that one is locked in.
This is a much easier round to call than last week. There were a few I wasn’t sure what to choose last week. This week, not so much.
I’m dusty and frazzled from my unexpectedly hyper extended trip thanks to trespassers on the track and my overall confusion around inspecting a car and trying to decide what can slide and what’s risky. I get different answers from different people about how important documented logbook servicing is.
Folks with a working class background tell me it’s not everything if it clears a pre purchase inspection and drives ok, and won’t impact resale value that much, plenty of people just get their mates to do the servicing and it’s turned out fine. Everyone else is like no way… rather even take a similar car with some aesthetic panel damage if it’s got a solid logbook.
Hahaha hahaha absolutely zero chance of it being available at the budget I’m after! That was very nice to enjoy when I had my work car. But well out of my range with car prices being what they are. Right now I just need an affordable old thing to do basic commutes and a few weekend drives over the next year or two and then I might pass it onto a young relative.
My “real” car spend will likely be in 2-3 years time.
Log books, particularly logs where the owner paid for the service tell you that regular maintenance mattered to the owner. It’s an indicator that the car has been cared for and looked after.
But they aren’t everything. And their lack doesn’t say that the owner didn’t look after the car.
That’s the thing with the second point, it’s hard to decide whether it was just the owner being negligent or just looked after it in other ways.
However, adding onto the fact that it was an ex-auction car before this person bought it… and then left the country and has got her mum to handle selling it… is really adding up to some ???
Please guys remember to post your meals on !foodaustralia. I just had someone from Spain post which is pretty cool. Special thanks to @bull and @PeelerSheila for their regular contributions.
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