Without going through your experiences, I can’t fully understand how you have personally been punished for being a man.
You want to know my personal experience?
There’s so so much I could say. But I’m not comfortable with publicly trauma dumbing.
Without giving away too much, I will say that an event accord when I mearly 6, when I told, I was meet with scoffs of disgust, and called a lier, and the events continued for some time, years later, after I had already repressed it deep down and everyone forgot. My little sister comes out about a similar event that happened to her, and she was meet “omg!! That’s horrible!! We need to take immediate action, you should’ve come to us about this sooner”, note that we came out to the same people. More over, it likely wasn’t even the first time it happened, it’s just as far back as I can remember. That’s all I’ll disclose, if I think about it to much I’ll trigger an episode.