Now, I know he'd dispute all of this - he's done it extensively on his project website in regard to those mails - and I cannot truly know if he did this at the project or not. (But of course, logic does imply such...)
But what I DID do was tell HRish dude that I COULD HAVE WRITTEN THAT FUCKING LETTER ABOUT OUR ORG, and that maybe, just MAYBE, our org shouldn't go to bat for the guy on this.
I think I even mailed our oversight group about it. It was a liability.
I certainly told one of the members, who TRIED to push for change when I made it clear to her that if all of this shit (not just this guy, remember - there was a lot more and many things I didn't explain here, believe it or not) didn't change, they were going to lose me, because I was fucking done with it.
She had her own agenda, mind you, but I was aware. There were always pushes to get the boss out of his entrenched position as the source of dysfunction.
But the fact is, I WAS ready to leave over all this bullshit, and it either needed to change, or I needed to leave.
It was too much. Those guys KNEW they had an abusive jerk on staff. But His Work (tm) was more important, and it didn't matter who got hurt.
And so my Boss, who KNEW I was at the edge of leaving over SO many things at this point, and the HR-guy, who I had literally TOLD I was thinking very seriously about leaving, had the fucking NERVE to respond to the rest of the oversight folks that I was just going through a hard time at home and that I absolutely wasn't going to quit and that I didn't mean what I had said because I was having emotional issues.
So do you want to know what the final straw that eventually made me leave was?
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