@julia I am not a psychologist, but I am someone with an objectively poor memory. Personally, I have found that learning to accept the reality that sometimes your body just does not form memories when you wish it would have is a much healthier approach which, if internalized will eventually spread compassion to those around you when they forget something.
It is a simple strategy with no blame, no falsehoods, no gaslighting, and it help others not feel like failures when you share it.