It's interesting what alcohol has done to people I know since years

Good morning.

I am 31 and I scrolled through the pics on facebook from ten years ago and looking at current pictures of people I have no or barely contact to these days and I gotta say I am glad I hopped off that boat a few years ago.

Most of the people I know and hang out with back then were in the “Turbojugend”, kind of a fanclub of Turbonegro and all they (and I) did was get wasted to punk music. Looking back it was fun and don’t regret my early 20s but I am so glad I am not that person anymore.

I still have contact to a few of them and most of them are now 35+ year olds and still drink, party the same way they(we) did ten years ago.

It seems like they are having a blast but I noticed nothing changed. They are the same people they were ten years ago. I noticed it this weekend when I decided to go out to party again and oh man it was enough. I left four hours into the party. Since I don’t think the whole experience was wack. Drunk people yelling in my ear “REMEMBER BACK THEN? THOSE WERE THE YEARS” etc. some dude licking my cheeks smelling like he puked 20 minutes ago (he did) and other people yelling they got erection (song from Turbonegro).

If I look at the pictures they post every weekend I see exhausted people and emptyness. It’s actually so sad… dunno I don’t want to shame them, they are enjoying their lives.

It’s just crazy what alcohol does and the thing is, in this group “Turbojugend” alcohol is so normal. It’s really crazy.

BonesOfTheMoon,

I’m on a medication used typically for alcohol cessation, but I’m on it for another reason (anxiety disorder). I now can’t really drink beyond one drink, and so much of it tastes bitter. I never was much of a drinker prior, but now I really don’t get it.

downhomechunk,
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I’m 40 now and have been in recovery for over 8 years. A lot of people in my old circles never stopped partying, and many of them aren’t with us any more. I feel like I see a new tribute popping up every couple weeks on social media. More of my friends are dying than my parents’ friends.

OpenStars,
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I like to think of it like this: there’s nothing wrong with alcohol itself, it’s just a drug. It’s what you use it for (escapism?) that fucks you up.

ZDL,
@ZDL@ttrpg.network avatar

This, right here.

Kolanaki,
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I not only don’t like drinking myself because it tastes awful and makes me feel like shit, I don’t really like being around others who are drinking because drunk people are, at best, simply obnoxious and at worse straight up abusive. It’s hard to make friends with this stance since drinking is so fuckin’ normalized.

ZDL,
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The problem, I think, that you’re facing is that you’re being, and I quote, “simply obnoxious and at worst straight up abusive”. It’s hard to make friends with people when that’s their opinion of you.

And what’s worst is that your opinion is based on the worst drinkers. The problem drinkers. People like me (averaging, say, a drink every two days, hasn’t been actually drunk since sometime in the '90s, etc.) are going to be shying away from you if you start talking like this, largely because you’re coming across as a judgmental prick and I don’t like hanging out with judgmental pricks. (Nor do I like hanging out with drunks.)

Are you a judgmental prick for real? I have no idea and no way to know. I can’t read what’s in your mind. But I can hear what you say (and read your body language when you say it) and even though I’m not a drunk, not obnoxious, and not abusive, I’m still likely to shy away from interacting with you because you come across as obnoxious and even abusive, at least with this.

Flies, honey, vinegar, yadda yadda yadda.

Next up: obnoxious vegans.

Feathercrown,

It’s not “abusive” to not drink for medical reasons lmao what are you on about

h3mlocke,

Damn I can smell your douchiness through the fucking 5g bro, put the bottle down

ZDL,
@ZDL@ttrpg.network avatar

It’s amazing how many things you can get wrong in a single (agrammatical) sentence.

Kolanaki,
@Kolanaki@yiffit.net avatar

If you’re not a drunk, why are you taking my opinion of drunk people so personally, when it doesn’t apply to you? I don’t need to read your mind or body language to tell you’re a prick, because I can see that you are after you went off on an insulting tirade simply because I don’t like hanging out with drunk people, because I find them obnoxious.

How much did you have to drink before commenting? That’s a rhetorical question, BTW. I’ve already blocked you.

Feathercrown,

Dude the comments in this thread are WILD, like calm down, some people just don’t like to drink.

Chai,
@Chai@lemmy.sdf.org avatar

I can understand this. I get weird looks and teased for declining drinks or admitting that alcohol taste bad to me - I can’t tolerate it, it’s bad for a medical condition of mine and I’m not going to pretend to be someone I’m not just to fit in (the compromise is me getting a soft drink or water while the others drink what they want).

On the other had, I’ve had drunk family friends that were a pain to deal with, been cursed at by a drunken villager one time and had our property littered with beer bottles and other trash when they’ve been parties in our area.

squeakycat,

Indeed, alcohol abuse is so normalized it’s scary. I drink occasionally and rarely enjoy getting super drunk but it always annoys me when people base their whole personality off any sort of drug. Some people I otherwise really like would just constantly talk about drugs. It got very tiring and I eventually just stopped hanging out with them.

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