Being a cuckold is fun and doesn't deserve any hate

I like being a cuckold and I don’t understand the hate it gets.

  • It gets me off.
  • It gets my girlfriend off.
  • It makes it easier for other guys to get laid.
  • My girlfriend and I have more sex before and after a meetup because we’re both into it.
  • It doesn’t do anything detrimental to my self-esteem because I understand my self-worth isn’t tied to monogamous sex - plus if it did, my girlfriend and I could stop any time.

Everyone should be able to do what they want to do so long as they follow the basic concepts of enthusiastic consent. And when people follow that, I don’t understand the hate

southsamurai,
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It isn’t so much that the kink is hated, though by the very nature of it, there’s going to be opinions about the cuckholded guy. Society won’t be open enough for that to stop in any of our lifetimes.

The hate stems at least in part from the way the kink turned into an insult thrown around by assholes screaming “cuck” left and right because they’re assholes. Instead of it being a nice niche kink, it’s a social weapon. The kink gets tarred with the same brush.

yesdogishere,

he main problem is the germs and virii. sleeping around JUST ONCE, leaves foreign organisms inside your body which forever alter the likelihood of you dying. The more foreign germs you have after age 40? the YOUNGER YOU WILL DIE. And that's a FACT.

regular_human,

Go back to Facebook Mom groups, ya weirdo

idkwhatimdoing,

Lolol would love to see the studies on this. You seem like you must be a doctor or something, with this well backed-up, unassailable scientific truth. We got an expert over here guys!

NathanielThomas,

The idea or fantasy of it can be fun. The question is, once the semen is drying on your wife’s face and you go to kiss her again are you going to be able to handle it? Once the excitement has worn off and you’ve lived out your fantasy and had your “post-nut clarity” are you still cool with it?

If so, great! This is the best part of consenting adults having a good time.

But sometimes our fantasies don’t co-exist well with our reality. You may end up with trust issues or jealousy or feel that you made a mistake and all you’ve done is risk your entire relationship on it. I mean, there’s a joke in a Seinfeld episode where they’re enjoying discussing the fantasy of a threesome but when it comes right down to it, Jerry is like “I’m not an orgy guy!”

However, if you and your wife genuinely enjoy, are comfortable with, and continue to get off on cuck sex, I don’t see a problem.

Dran_Arcana,

This is the correct take. self-reflection, self-awareness, and self-honesty are key components to contentment in any facet of life. I often fantasize about eating cookies and ice cream every morning but I know I would be unhealthy and feel like ass. I’ll bet you though that there is a very small subset of people though who genuinely have biology compatible with eating a few tablespoons of ice cream for breakfast.

mojo,

Definitely an unpopular opinion lol

xc2215x,

It seems more of a porn thing than anything else.

NathanielThomas,

It’s a big porn trope, mainly because most cuck porn involves two white people where the man plays the “too small for his wife” role and the woman plays the “I really want a black man” role. In some instances the man is shocked, ashamed, and in other he’s turned on, and in the really submissive cuck porn fantasies he takes on a gay role.

usualsuspect191,

Part of it I think it’s that you’re describing what the general population would call swinging or hotwifing. Cuckolding has an implied humiliation/non-consensual connotation in the public mind so that’s why it’s seen as derogatory. A cuck isn’t having fun, or might not even know it’s happening.

Husband is on-board and good communication? Not a cuck

Husband is seen as weak/humiliated, wife unilaterally controls it? Cuck

Whether these definitions are “correct” or not, that’s the public perception

Ilflish,

I think being a cuck doesn’t mean not being on board, being a cuck usually means being a submissive part of the situation. It’s just used as a derogatory for being whipped but obviously being a sub in a relationship doesn’t mean your relationship is fake.

As an example, someone pressured into opening there relationship isn’t really a cuck. They are just whipped in an unhealthy relationship.

kemsat,

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    foggy,

    I found it interesting that Trump’s 2015 campaign and the use of the word “cuck” in a derogatory way seemed to happen in at the same time.

    That being said, it sounds more like you’re a stag than a cuckold. And yeah, kink shaming was never cool. Always seems like it’s the people having less sex that kink shame idk.

    idkwhatimdoing,

    There are so many different definitions and connotations with it both regarding the kink/lifestyle and the more traditional origin of the word. There’s something embarrassing about your wife cheating on you without your knowledge (and typically due to some shortcoming of the cuckolded party), and with that being the oldest and traditional definition, it makes sense that it wouldn’t have a positive connotation.

    Then you have the cuckolds who actually like to be emasculated and demeaned, who often talk about not being allowed to fuck their own wives and how superior other guys are at it. Seems like these guys want to be embarrassed by it and freaking flood the internet with porn of them being belittled, licking up creampies, doing a whole bunch of shit that people are obviously going to react to, and that’s sorta why they’re doing it. As someone with no interest in that, seeing it all over online feels similar to furry culture, which is easy to understand why it gets jokes and dragged on.

    Then you have the more swinger-y cucks who still have sex with their wives and stuff, but aren’t really the first thing people think of when they think “cuck,” since the other types are much louder and more notable. And still within this category, there’s definitely a suspicion among non-cuckolds that some of the guys do this because they can’t satisfy their wives, or because their wife wants to more than they do and they just go along with it. While that may not be true for most couples who actually engage in it, it does make it easy to see where some more traditional folks could find discomfort/humor in it.

    A lot of the reality flies in the face of these stereotypes, like couples I know where the guy has been into it and the girl has not, but it’s still easy to wonder (with a bit of comic derision) why some guy is so desperate to have someone else fuck his gf, especially/even when it isn’t even for her. Absolutely not endorsing any of these beliefs, but mentioning them because it feels pretty obvious to me that/why a lot of men would consider many of the different types of cuckolding embarrassing or something to make jokes about.

    Chozo,
    Chozo avatar

    Anybody who gives a shit what you do with consenting adults in the privacy of your bedroom doesn't deserve your attention.

    Markimus,

    I had to look up what cuckold is, though honestly you do you. “Cuckold” sounds kind of derogatory, kind of like the N word.

    As long as everyone on-board is consenting, I don’t see a problem.

    SulaymanF,

    If you decide to have kids, it puts a cloud over everyone whether the kid is legitimate.

    kitonthenet,

    Who cares

    SulaymanF,

    The kid getting bullied.

    throwawayolding,

    Birth control + condoms + pulling out + taking a break from the kink if trying to get pregnant

    Also discreet so minimal chance of rumors

    SulaymanF,

    If it’s discreet then why are you complaining of hate?

    throwawayolding,

    I’m not complaining, posting on unpopularopinion my unpopular opinion that it is fun and that I don’t understand the hate that does exist. I posted because I’m bored and I figured other subscribers to unpopularopinion would be entertained by my take

    Hank,

    We're in the 21st century and we have DNA-tests Einstein.

    SulaymanF,

    Sure, that totally stops rumors. /s

    Hank,

    I feel bad for you to care that much about how other people fuck without getting off from it.

    SulaymanF,

    It’s about how it harms others around them, dummy. Read my above comment.

    DrPop,

    The reason people use it as an insult is probably because it feels good to say. It’s so close to fuck and you know how we feel about that word.

    kitonthenet,

    Op I love you you are stronger than any US marine

    Sammy,

    We thank OP for their service 🫡

    throwawayolding,

    I love you too and I would take a rubber bullet for you

    Blamemeta,

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    kitonthenet,

    Cry harder

    tox_solid,
    @tox_solid@lemmy.world avatar

    What does that even mean?

    Anti_Weeb_Penguin,
    @Anti_Weeb_Penguin@lemmy.world avatar

    Ayo Sneako joined the Fediverse!

    throwawayolding,

    I’m js you should subscribe to the Creativity Kit is all

    /s

    AndreyAsimow,
    @AndreyAsimow@lemmy.world avatar

    If you guts are okay with it, then please go on. It’s nobody’s business what is going on in you bedroom.

    Fiivemacs,

    Well tbf it’s at least 1 other person’s business what goes on in their bedroom

    AndreyAsimow,
    @AndreyAsimow@lemmy.world avatar

    I see your point. But I’m sure (at least I hope) that they are having long conversation with the Third person before the invitation.

    throwawayolding,

    Gosh I can’t even imagine how awkward it would be (and shitty) to just spring cuckolding on a third without talking to them about it first

    Thassodar,

    I was invited to this situation once, before I even knew the word.

    AndreyAsimow,
    @AndreyAsimow@lemmy.world avatar

    Did you do it?

    Thassodar,

    I did not because the guy kept making excuses and asking me to describe what I’d do to his wife, instead of getting his wife involved.

    PsychedSy,

    “So, uh, Susan, uhm, well…who’s the guy jacking off in the closet there?”

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