Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice....
Thank you. As woman with autism, it’s weird. Women nts, some tend to unconsciously expect me to behave like a woman. They operate with stereotypes, assume women should be emotional, touchy feely, into romantic comedies, etc. So when I’m logical, to the point, talk about math, science, some can’t compute. And some guys, they expect me to behave as a stereotypical female, treat me as such. Then they realize I’m not, am logical, etc, and their demeanor changes, start treating me as one of the guys.
I’ve met compassionate, emotional men, and analytical nerdy women. Just, so weird, how gender becomes such a big deal for some.
It’s not emotional, social. It’s mostly text communication. Like, “I’ll meet you at the front gate 215pm.” Female cm, we meet at the front gate 215pm. Male cm, 15 min later, im still waiting, then angry text from him saying he’s waiting somewhere else.
I text him. Ask him to tell doctor to fax insurance approval to pharmacy. Instead of doing that, he spends the next 3 hours sending me a series of texts criticizing me, telling me it’s my fault, not his, repeatedly pointing out, trying to get me to admit how irrational I was being.
All I’d said was “at the pharmacy. Can you tell the doctor to resend the insurance approval please?”
Yep. I’m grateful for the people who choose this work. Sucks they’re constantly overworked, under paid, such a frustrating often thankless job. I try to remind them, hey rough job, but you’ve made a difference for me, so ty.
Rewatching ds9 right now. I know it was rushed, forced. I know trying to replace a long-term character doesn’t work often. If it was an entirely different trill, not a dax, it would be better....
Been thinking about how quantum physics are connected to chaos theory and the properties of closed dynamic systems.
Will spare you that. Part of it is the human mind doesn’t have the processing of all configurations, all the possible states of an entire systems, simultaneously.
Humans do have abstract thought, critical thinking. We can observe, record data, notice patterns, trends. By chaos theory, humans discovered they could write math equations to describe the behavior of complex systems. With quantum physics, humans trying to figure out how localized realities in a system related to the behavior of system as a whole.
We use scientific method because we can’t comprehend the infinite. Math equations are shorthand, a trick we use to make up for our shortcomings. Science and math is awesome.
Can’t answer question directly. Just, when I was your age, there was so much I needed to learn. Every person takes time to figure things out, overcome shortcomings, work thru stuff.
At 21, lot to figure out, discover, learn. For me, cuz childhood abuse, trauma, autism, I was a mess. No idea how to have healthy relationships, positive communication, etc.
So, could be your dude is just young, figuring stuff out. Or could be something else. Only way to know is to ask, talk about it. No assumptions, no judgment. Communication is key.
Might be useful to research how to communicate effectively. How to talk about stuff in not about criticize, instead seeing other person’s viewpoint, meeting half way. Problem is, other person may not want to or be able to.
You’re doing good, asking questions. Keep doing that, and good luck.
I used to love doing web design. Was perfect career for me, a mix of creativity and coding. Websites then were art, creative, took risks. Then cms became standard, sites all looking the same. Sites are more user-friendly now, but I miss the wild, weird internet of its early days.
I’m in a catch 22 situation. I want to go to a four year college, but I was previously placed in the remedial track and have a poor academic standing. If I go to a community college, I could improve my grades, but the material they cover is a replacement for high school classes and I’d be precluded from signing up for entry...
I don’t do well in traditional semester college cuz adhd.
So, never went to college. Started in fast food, last job was 75k/ year tech job.
I took a lot of short term accredited programs. ROP certifications. LearnIT. Studied on my own to test MVP certifications for excel, PowerPoint, word. You can study on your own to take A+ certification exam. I took community college non credit classes about various applied arts.
So, I’d show up at job interviews with no traditional college degree, but a ton of certifications, short term classes, etc. They were fascinated by my diverse tech skills, it showed I had ambition. So I got a lot of jobs easily this way.
Also, try being a career temp for a while. If you prove you’ll show up for the gigs professionally, they’ll send you to more assignments . I did this for a decade, got phenomenal skillset, different industries , lot of diverse experience.
I kept trying to design my dream hermit cabin in sweethome 3d. Was getting nowhere. Started playing Sims 4, found designing homes using sims build mode is so much easier.
I tried to open a bank account at a credit union while homeless. Had $42k on my direct express card, finally on SSI, lump sum was for the previous year while unable to work.
No debts, never used a credit card. Couldn’t open a bank account. Had to go thru a program that assigned me a fake credit card debt that I had to pay off for 6 months to get my credit score high enough.
Borderline schizoaffective, psychotic features. Constantly questioning sanity. Reality often surreal. Dbt, cbt has helped the most. If I practice mindfulness, grounding exercises daily… when mind spirals, reality starts to explode, easier to come back, keeps me tethered.
Tho, once as kid, when I became convinced I might be a disembodied brain floating in a jar, started to seriously freak out. Came home in terrorized panic, flipping madly thru my bookshelf, and reading “summa theologica” finally made the panic stop.
Sometimes, when I’ve researched something and compiled a ton of useful information about a topic… wish there was a lemmy for that. Kind of the opposite of asklemmy.
Goodwill stores, at least where i live, are good for people in shaky situations. More accepting of people with special needs, circumstances. Mention cuz, not the type of work you’re looking for… for me, been out of work so long (8 years), me getting a p/t job at goodwill, committing, proving i can keep it, it’s the only way better paying jobs will take me seriously.
Would like the 75k per year tech job I had b4 becoming homeless. But have to be realistic, start small.
As this is a new community I thought it would be fun to get to know each other by sharing our most and least favourite series. (We’ll do the films another time)...
Currently rewatching Voyager. Love the dynamics between seven, tuvok and the doctor. Tsunkatse is on right now. Eagerly anticipating the episode when icheb shows up.
Why are male social workers so different?
Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice....
My issue with ezri dax
Rewatching ds9 right now. I know it was rushed, forced. I know trying to replace a long-term character doesn’t work often. If it was an entirely different trill, not a dax, it would be better....
What are the strengths of the scientific method? What are its weaknesses?
[serious replies only] Relationship advice
Hi everyone!...
What do you believe was the best era of the Internet and why?
What's your love/hate game? (lemmy.zip)
Mine would have to be League or Warframe tbh.
How do you like to cheer yourself up when you're sad?
Feeling a bit down tonight. How do you guys like to lighten up?
Ways to improve academic standing without going to community college?
I’m in a catch 22 situation. I want to go to a four year college, but I was previously placed in the remedial track and have a poor academic standing. If I go to a community college, I could improve my grades, but the material they cover is a replacement for high school classes and I’d be precluded from signing up for entry...
Lemmy, have you used free software to design your dream home?
This is just for messing around to see in digital form the house that I dream of in my head. Is there a truly free one that does a decent job?...
If hemroids are common and can openly bleed, and people poop with hemroids, how do people not get infected buttholes all the time?
TIL personal credit scores only started in 1989 (en.m.wikipedia.org)
I always assumed credit scores were an integral and historic part of the American financial system....
When you question your reality, who do you turn to?
Which shows do you think ended too soon, or went on too long?
Users with personal music libraries, how do you decide what to download?
I recently made a post asking about getting spotify cheaper via vpn....
What small community do you wish was on Lemmy?
Particularly one that you personally would like to post/comment in on a regular basis
How to find a temporary job / part time job while you are recovering from depression/anxiety?
I’ve been struggling with anxiety and depression for several years now, and finally got to a point where I can take care of myself day to day....
Your username has suddenly become your only means of staying alive. How bad is it?
Share your favourite series (lemmy.zip)
As this is a new community I thought it would be fun to get to know each other by sharing our most and least favourite series. (We’ll do the films another time)...
Now that you have settled here on Lemmy. What is your impression of it?
To me it feels like a matured Reddit. (At least most of the time 🙃)