Draconic_NEO

Draconic_NEO, 5 months ago

I already know what you’re getting at but arguments in favor of breaking gender stereotypes aren’t made invalid if the person who originally made them ends up identifying as trans. I know that lots of people like to use situations like that as “evidence that people who break gender stereotypes are just trans-in-denial” and/or a justification for harassing GNC folks (r/egg_irl and r/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns were especially awful about that back in their heyday) but it’s very important to recognize that GNC people are valid in their own right, and trying to generalize them as transgender is hurtful and enforces the toxic gender stereotypes that hurt people.

Oh and before someone tries to twist my words around. No a trans woman wearing a dress doesn’t enforce gender stereotypes, what enforces gender stereotypes is to say a person (i.e. a femboy) is trans because they wear a dress without their input on the matter.

Draconic_NEO, 1 day ago

I find it strange that many people here are against this when the alternative is a surgical treatment that often can’t be easily reversed, and even when it is, often lowers the likelihood they will have a kid.

Chemical solutions are way better in that regard because if they are done right they don’t damage any tissue and their affects are temporary.

Draconic_NEO, 3 days ago

Cis isn’t a slur the same way trans isn’t a slur, they are words to describe those particular gender identities and/or gender modalities.

I’ve heard it used in hostile contexts but I’ve also heard trans used in similar contexts as well. That doesn’t make these words slurs, they are descriptors used in a context that is hostile.

Draconic_NEO, 15 days ago

Yeah this meme as well as the original bear one were meant to be divisive and make people angry. That’s the point of these kinds of memes, they’re not really meant to be intelligent, they’re meant to stir up drama and make people fight.

Draconic_NEO, 15 days ago

I think they’re trying to argue that transgender women aren’t real women and that respecting them and allowing them to use spaces that align with their gender identity is endangering women.

That’s how their comment reads to me, the way they dismissed the meme gives off those vibes.

Draconic_NEO, 29 days ago

I don’t think that would really work since in order to make it anonymous it would need to be hidden from the other servers as well which would cause issues with moderation since if it’s never dealt with On the origin server a person could cause a lot of trouble with it, yeah you could have so that it would only be visible by moderators and admins but that also doesn’t really work if admins can view it since anyone can set up a server.

Draconic_NEO, 29 days ago

Yeah that would be very difficult to implement safely, and probably wouldn’t be worth the effort since the Federated model means that signing up for an account somewhere on the Fediverse is much easier already.

Anonymous posting might have been a necessary evil on the early internet before you had all these Federated servers, but nowadays having other servers fills the role of granting easier access since you can sign up to another one where that process may be easier.

Draconic_NEO, 1 month ago

Forgejo having Federation enabled would be great since it would allow people with Codeberg accounts to contribute in self-hosted repos without having to apply or beg for accounts on them just to submit issues and pulls.

Draconic_NEO, 16 days ago

That is too bad, but also at the same time I kind of lost hope for Gitlab after they jumped on the AI hype train, if they’re going full corporate they probably wouldn’t be a good candidate for Federation (both because other people would defederate them and because they wouldn’t want to because competition).

Draconic_NEO, 20 days ago

Where did you get the idea that Oracle can see their source code? That only applies if they host their source repository on Oracle, if they host the servers there chances are it’s binaries that are hosted on the server not the source code.

Draconic_NEO, 20 days ago

Yeah I don’t think this person knows what they’re talking about, they must either think ByteDance is hosting the source code on Oracle’s servers or they somehow think that binaries are the same as source code 🤷

Draconic_NEO, 20 days ago

They usually run Older Windows or MSDOS too, definitely not their own OS category.

Draconic_NEO, 12 days ago

I don’t and will not use blocking for users basically for that reason, it doesn’t actually solve anything it’s just pretending things are okay for you when they aren’t for everyone else. It’s probably the reason why reporting doesn’t happen as much as it should.

Even in harassment it is particularly useless because even though you stop seeing them and getting notifications they can continue replying in your threads, they can even use that to turn people against you. If it at least prevented posting and commenting on your profile I’d use it in those situations, but as it stands it doesn’t, so it’s useless to me, because if somebody is harassing me, the last thing I want to do is hide them while allowing them to keep harassing me, it gives them mote opportunities to cause trouble and removes my opportunity to report them for that trouble.

Draconic_NEO, 12 days ago

If you have that happen to you I recommend reaching out via DM either to your instance’s admins or the admins of the server their community is on. Give them the context of the report and also explain how that mod reacted. If a mod acts like that they are very likely an abusive moderator, so make sure to let admins know about that.

Draconic_NEO, 12 days ago

Also depending on what it is responding can just make you into a target for harassment when/if that person comes back on a different account. Best to just avoid it and not make yourself known to them.

Draconic_NEO, 11 days ago

You will likely hear the fan tear itself apart from outside of the room, such an event is absolutely loud enough to be heard from outside the door, plus the fact that the little bits of fan that are left afterwards will probably continue spinning and likely bumping into the ceiling (if it’s hanging from the wires).

Draconic_NEO, 11 days ago

Ceiling fan is going and a regular fixture put in instead. This seems like a closet or storage room anyway (there are no windows), no real need for a fan like that in a space like this.

Draconic_NEO, 13 days ago

Also ways to disable the call recording prompt they forced into it. They force that even in one party regions where you can record your own calls without needing permission from the other person.

Draconic_NEO, 15 days ago

Also pronouns aren’t necessarily dependent on gender, they’re dependent on the person’s pronoun preferences. Even someone who seems like they might use a specific set of pronouns based on their gender might use a different set of pronouns, as an example I knew someone who is a demiboy and they go by any pronouns.

CC: @magic_lobster_party

Draconic_NEO, 15 days ago

Which doesn’t make sense. Therefore my confusion.

There are people who do not identify as having a gender, this is commonly referred to as “Agender”. People who identify as Agender may not identify with the concept of gender, some may attempt to present gender neutral, while others may not make an effort to present any specific way. It’s one of the many NonBinary identities, that is people who don’t identify as exclusively male or female. I can understand though that for some it might be confusing as it has only been receiving mainstream recognition relatively recently.

Draconic_NEO, 13 days ago

I guess that makes sense, I don’t really get why it needs a separate word though.

Draconic_NEO, 12 days ago

Ah I see. That makes sense.

Draconic_NEO, 13 days ago

Yeah they’re definitely giving egg_irl vibes, I don’t know what femcel is though, is that something else like egg_irl?

Draconic_NEO, 16 days ago

Just thought I’d drop in to say, it’s possible to play it with your feet.