Kedly

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Kedly,

Who tf thinks the 90’s looked like the 1st picture… I WISH the 99’s looked like that!

Kedly,

Yeah!

Kedly,

Hey, dont leave out attention whores! Hurting yourself so your audience can laugh is ANOTHER reason some of us got into spicy food!

Kedly,

I mean, at the end if the day, any damage I do to myself is minor. Dont worry, I’ve had 30 years to fine tune my obsession with attention so that its not harmful to myself or others. Also, I live in a metropolis, I cant afford pet rent xD

Kedly,

Day and Month of Birth is a basic check to see if you are who you say you are, if you are refusing to give even basic details like that I can see why the medical staff who deal with you would give you confused/annoyed expressions

Kedly,

This falls into a “if it aint broke, dont fix it” kind of thing. Month and Year Birthdate are fairly low privacy info that everyone remembers and are used to giving out" it gets used for so many different checks because we all have the understanding that we give this info out to businesses that need them, switching to other things that in a vacuum would be a better fit in that one specific category in only a tiny amount just isnt worth the confusion and pushback that changing it would cause.

Kedly,

Meanwhile its the opposite for me. Character assasinating everyone who wasnt a fan of the bear meme and mods deleting any post that wasnt fully inflammatory has made me second guess whether I want to be here far more than the Tankies ever did

Kedly, (edited )

Tbh, I might just give Gaiaonline another shot, yeah my knowledge of world news’ll suffer a bit, but maybe thats not a bad thing

Edit: These downvotes are proving my point, this particular comment has nothing offensive in it whatsoever. Oh no, I’m thinking about going back to a Early 2000’s anime dress up forum, what an awful person!

Kedly,

Nope! Its still alive and kicking!

Kedly,

Recently a LOT of my emails with hotmail have been getting blocked at the server level, they arent even reaching my junk mail, which makes troubleshooting why I’m not getting emails a nightmare, ESPECIALLY in this day and age if 2fA

Kedly,

Came here for the tiny hand

nuanceposting rule (lemmy.cafe)

seen this post elsewhere? click for explanationThis post got banned from !memes for reason “Troll Posting” which is Very Disrespectful in my opinion. 😕 I mean this meme with full respect and love to my fellow community members and I was proud of the discussion and support it was creating. EDIT: POST RESTORED YAY....

Kedly,

The fact that is post got removed for trolling is exactly why my feelings towards the bear meme have evolved from annoyed to “Reminded of the multiple times women have attempted to use cops as a weapon against me”

Kedly,

For fucks sake maybe part of the problem is men are ALWAYS told to shut up and that their problems dont matter as much as literally any other population. I initially responded to the meme with annoyance, but understanding, but the constant creep of aggression that it keeps coming back with has started to trigger my own baggage.

Kedly,

One of the times I was living with an overly controlling roommate who was trying to control who I dated and what I ate, when I started making clear that they did not get to dictate who I dated and what I ate, they started picking fights over smaller and smaller things. This culminated in them screaming at me through the door as I was showering that I needed to stop showering without first turning the bathroom fan on, and when I told them to leave me alone they opened the bathroom door and turned it off themselves. I was not and had never been in a romantic relationship with this woman so I ended my shower as fast as I could and tried to escape to my room while she proceeded to scream at me. She continued to follow me into my room and I had to physically push her out of my room and use my body as a barricade against the door to stop her from getting in. Eventually when she couldnt push her way in she said “Fuck it, I’m doing it” and called the cops to say “SHE” felt unsafe. I called a friend, shaking, and they came to get me. And from that point I never entered that building alone again, and only came back to get what few valuables I didnt want to leave behind

Kedly,

I did end up checking it out, but I gotta be honest, it being specifically a men focussed place and the only thread about the bear meme was how it effected women and not a discussion on how demoralizing it is/the effects of having to grow up your entire life with constant and consistent messaging that men have it better, and men are more violent, and men need to stop being bigoted/toxic, was really offputting.

I was raised in a feminist household and I have had plenty of strong and political women in my life, so I understand the statistics and the politics and the nuance, and yet even so that messaging has had a negative impact on me. So a mens space that isnt taking the opportunity to talk about that aspect of this situation is really disappointing.

Kedly,

Smash Sassin*

Kedly,

Ah yes, this IS about the bear meme. Maybe this is a lesson that doubling down on an inflammatory meme is the worst way to attempt to get a point across, claiming that people annoyed with the meme are attempting to silence you is just trippling down.

Kedly,

Look, the bear meme was annoying but understandable, but the way that people are immediately attempting to character assasinate anyone annoyed by it or attempting to have a nuanced discussion about it is pushing people away.

Kedly, (edited )

Basically an overgeneralized meme representing the very true and valid fear women have towards strange men, where if they were stuck in a forest and had to choose to be stuck there with a strange man or a strange bear, many women would choose to be stuck with a bear, started cropping up on lemmy. Unfortunately this meme ALSO hit on the lived experience that a lot of men have had where they’ve grown up their entire lives feeling like they’ve been villainized and made to be the source of all societies ills, and so they voiced, with varying levels (and lack of) nuance why this meme upset them as it felt like a further villainization. This caused more friction than nuanced discussion, and more memes that more directly antagonized those who didnt appreciate the meme started cropping up, and now we are here

Kedly,

This meme is based AF

Kedly,

Let us talk, dont immediately shut us up if we aren’t actively harming the discussion, let men know that their feelings are valid too but that they dont overshadow others feelings (jumping straight to that second half is NOT helpful). Let memes like this one exist without deleting them for lumping them in with the angry assholes

Kedly,

It could be including how much food has gone up as well

Kedly,

This is a risky site to admit you’re a landlord on xD

Kedly,

This was the comment I was looking for! Thank you!

Kedly,

Yeah, its still often a struggle for me to, but I just woke up at 8am today naturally on a weekend, so its slowly changing me over

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