Hi @FfaerieOxide. Beehaw has one rule: Be(e) Nice. This kind of personal attack isn’t really in the spirit of Beehaw, and I’d like to ask you to please reconsider how you interact with users on this instance. You can disagree with someone without being insulting or demeaning.
Recently had a conversation with a good friend about dating, and it had me curious about how everyone on Beehaw approaches dating. Tell me a bit about how you date! Here’s a few prompts/thoughts I’m curious about:...
I wasn’t going to comment on this because I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for 15 years at this point, but one thing I noticed in the comments is really interesting to me.
Pretty much everybody is saying they know they’re attracted to someone physically/sexually right away, and that was not my experience when I was dating regularly. Maybe I’m odd, but I always found that most of the time I would get to know a person first and then I would start to notice things about them that I found attractive and kind of mold my way of thinking and looking at them around those things that I was attracted to in them. Sure, there were exceptions, there are people out there where I was just like - damn everything about that person is hot (my wife being one of those) - but I dated women with a wide variety of physical features and really the only commonality was that I liked being around them. The physical stuff was secondary (although still important) for me.
Better than last week, so far. I made a decision earlier in the week to try something that I’ve been wanted to do and pitched a cowriting project to my sister, who was really enthusiastic about the idea. We’ve both struggled to write in the past, I think we both have a hard time getting stuck on details. I feel like there’s a real chance that having a writing partner will help us both push through those times when we get stuck on a word or phrase or detail, because we tend to obsess about different things.
Also, she’s better at punctuation than me, which is good because my approach to commas is usually just to sort of sprinkle them liberally wherever I would naturally pause. I know that isn’t right but so far it’s a habit I haven’t been able to break.
Having kind of a rough week with wrestling with identity stuff. Things are generally good for me, but I just keep having these questions about myself coming up and I can’t seem to just drop it. Not sure where any of it is going, or if it’s going anywhere, but I’m getting kind of tired of it tbh…
Yeah I’m with you, I don’t think there was a better way to do this (and it needed to be done). I don’t think Hbomberguy did anything wrong. But the whole episode has just left me (personally) feeling bad and I don’t love how much joy some folks seem to be getting watching somebody get taken apart. Not accusing anybody in this thread of that, I’ve just seen it in other places.
I’m not sure that I agree that we should dehumanize people just because the do something wrong or commit a crime. I think all sorts of people deserve sympathy, even those that have done wrong. I’m not saying at all that Somerton shouldn’t have to face the consequences of his actions or that what is happening to him is worse than what he did to others, but I don’t think that justice and empathy are mutually exclusive.
This was a really interesting look into the ways that board game mechanics can represent real-world systems in a way that provokes understanding or empathy.
There were also a couple of references to Gloomhaven that really made me laugh:
In 2021, researchers analyzed the ten thousand games with the highest rankings on the Web site BoardGameGeek, and found that, between 2000 and 2020, the average number of mechanics in new games had increased from roughly two and a half to four. The 2017 game Gloomhaven, which held the highest rating on the site for years, utilizes nineteen mechanics.
and
“Not everybody enjoys killing monsters in dungeons,” said Isaac Childres, the designer of Gloomhaven, which is about killing monsters in dungeons.
This video really made me realize how disconnected I’ve gotten from the top 40. I’m not one of those that is gonna go on a diatribe about pop not being real music, people are allowed to like whatever they like and music doesn’t have to be complicated or deep to be good. But I hadn’t realized how little I was listening to the radio these days. A decade ago I would have still probably been listening to radio stations in the car most days and so I would have some exposure to the top 40 as I was switching between stations, but I didn’t recognize a single song on this list, with the exception of the two really controversial ones - which I only recognized because I saw some of the backlash against them. I also noticed that Todd pointed out several times how much less it takes these days to get a song on the top 40. I wonder if that is because of how fractured the general listening public has gotten as radio has less sway when it comes to making hits. If anybody has any articles/videos on that I’d love to see them.
I’m trying to expand my library of classic game/game-inspired music. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. I’m including some music that I particularly enjoy for reference....
I don’t know how “pure” you want your chiptunes to be, but for my money Master Boot Record is some of the best stuff out there. I would definitely say it’s at the very least gaming inspired if not pure chiptunes, and it kicks all kinds of ass. They’ve done a lot of covers of classic game music - Bloody Tears is a great one, as well as their cover of the Doom theme. But I really love their original stuff too. Internet Protocol is a 10/10 album to me.
Slightly less chiptunes but still absolutely gaming inspired is their side project Keygen Church. Tenebre Rosso Sangue from the Ultrakill soundtrack is probably their best known track. It’s sort of a chiptunes adjacent castlevania-metal vibe? It’s hard to describe but it absolutely destroys.
@Scary_le_Poo and @jarfil: if the two of you have a disagreement on another thread, please work it out between the two of you like adults there; don’t spill it over into other, unrelated threads.
@Scary_le_Poo, these types of personal attacks are not acceptable on beehaw. It is possible to disagree while still being kind and without resorting to angry or abusive language. Please try to remember beehaw’s guiding principal when interacting with others in the future.
Hi @lolcatnip, we have one rule on Beehaw: Be(e) Nice. If you disagree with another user feel free to express why, but low effort, drive-by insults aren’t really in the spirit of this instance.
Hi - Beehaw mod here - we very much give a shit. We try to stay on top of things as much as we can, but we’re all volunteers with lots of other things going on, and !Technology is our most active community. If you see something that you feel needs attention, please report it with an explanation in the report reason so that we can take a look at it. We don’t always take action, but we always look at and evaluate user reports.
This is literally the article that is linked in this post. I’m not sure what you’re getting at, or if this is another one of those odd UI issues between lemmy and kbin…
I tried to report a comment, but when I click the Create Report button it turns green and doesn’t do anything else. Usually, the Create Report button goes away after a successful report.
Hi, sometimes the UI has issues where it won’t give feedback that whatever action you tried to take worked, but often on the backend it has. If you’re referring to the report you made in !gaming, then I’m able to see it in the mod queue.
I understand frustration with potential spoilers, but to be fair this scene was in a livestreamed demo that Larian hosted that went viral before the game even launched. It’s not been kept particularly secret and I don’t think it’s probably a major plot point.
From my memory, folks were hanging out in the discord (the discord came before the website as a group of folks who wanted to start a different kind of community) and were talking about possibilities for the site. Early on there was talk of developing something from scratch (in fact, I think a working prototype was developed before it was decided to pivot to lemmy) and the admins needed something to name the github repo. As I recall somebody stuck their head in and just said the word “beehaw” and it stuck. I could be mixing things up, the timeline is a bit fuzzy and it’s possible there were other discussions happening that I wasn’t aware of. But as far as I remember it pretty much came out of nowhere and everybody just kinda shrugged and said, “that’s the one”.
More seriously, it's not just you. I'm getting them as well and I'm pretty sure everyone is. They usually resolve pretty quickly though. I think we're just getting a lot more users than we ever have in the past, and the server bees are struggling to keep up, especially since they have to work around a lot of jankiness with the Lemmy software.
It kind of reminds me of Reddit when I first started using it. Reddit downtime was basically a meme, it crashed often enough that there was a whole "downtime bananas" trend where people would draw stuff on bananas during downtimes and post them when the site came back up.
Folks, there is important, valid discussion to be had about meat eating both from ethical an environmental perspectives. I'm not sure that !Technology is the place to have that discussion, however.
More importantly, this thread was not the way to discuss these issues, particularly on Beehaw. The behavior in this thread was not nice, and is not the way that these types (or any type) of discussion should be conducted.
I'm not saying that you are solely at fault for the thread getting out of hand, but I hope we can agree that when things devolve to the point that we're talking about murdering other users and eating their corpses that the discussion has probably gotten out of hand.
I think there are ways of discussing even controversial topics without the conversation spinning out of control, but I know that this topic in particular touches a nerve with a lot of folks. Just please try to be mindful of whether you're escalating or deescalating the argument in the future.
From violations of privacy, to the mainpulation or even maliciousness at its core, I think marketing at it's current state is poison to society. But I also think it might be a necessary evil. What would be a good alternative implementation of advertising look like? Or do we even need it? If the former, how would advertising look...
Hi @bear_delune, we'd like to avoid these kinds of low-effort comments in !politics when possible. Please make an effort to contribute to the discussion more when commenting in the future.
I'm probably going to delete my account or at least cut back drastically on my usage, but I'm currently the only active mod for a small fan sub for an old fantasy book series. I don't really want to leave that sub unmoderated but I'll have to find another user willing to take on mod duties before I feel alright abandoning Reddit altogether.
I must confess to getting a little sick of seeing the endless stream of articles about this (along with the season finale of Succession and the debt ceiling), but what do you folks think? Is this something we should all be worrying about, or is it overblown?...
The thing I'm more concerned about is "move fast and break things" techbros implementing these technologies in stupid ways without considering: A) Whether the tech is mature enough for the uses they're putting it to B) Biases inherited from training data and methods.
LLMs inherit biases from their data because their data is shitloads of people talking and writing, and often we don't even know or understand the biases without close examination. Trying to apply LLMs or other ML models to things like medicine, policing, or housing without being very careful about understanding the potential for incredible biases in things that seem like impartial data is reckless and just asking for negative outcomes for minorities. And the ways that I'm seeing most of these ML companies try to mitigate those biases seem very much like bandaids as they attempt to rush these products out the gate to be the first out the door.
I'm not at all concerned about the singularity, or GI, or any of that crap. But I'm quite concerned about ML models being applied in medicine without understanding the deep racial and gender inequities that are inherent in medical datasets. I'm quite concerned with any kind of application in policing or security, or anything making decisions about finance or housing or really any area with a history of systemic biases that will show up in a million ways in the datasets that these models are being trained in.
Fedi Garden to Instance Admins: "Block Threads to Remain Listed" (wedistribute.org)
How do you date?
Recently had a conversation with a good friend about dating, and it had me curious about how everyone on Beehaw approaches dating. Tell me a bit about how you date! Here’s a few prompts/thoughts I’m curious about:...
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A YouTuber was accused of plagiarism. His apology highlighted a larger issue among creators. (www.nbcnews.com)
The Personal, Political Art of Board-Game Design | The New Yorker (www.newyorker.com)
Todd in the Shadows: The Top Ten Worst Hit Songs of 2023 [44:12] (youtu.be)
Best chiptune/gaming-inspired music?
I’m trying to expand my library of classic game/game-inspired music. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. I’m including some music that I particularly enjoy for reference....
The developer of The Day Before seems to be deleting evidence that it was ever an MMO game (www.pcgamesn.com)
Trump's Plans If He Returns To The White House Include Deportation Raids, Tariffs And Mass Firings (beehaw.org)
So it looks like Trump has read the fascist playbook or something. I’m not surprised. I am concerned....
Are people reading articles before posting them? (imgflip.com)
Prison Health Care: Last Week Tonight with John Oliver (HBO) (yt.artemislena.eu)
Clarence Thomas Secretly Participated in Koch Network Donor Events (www.propublica.org)
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'Dad, people are sending me pictures of bears': Baldur's Gate 3 boss Swen Vincke 'wasn't ready' for the bear sex scene to go so viral (www.pcgamer.com)
When your son's friends start sending him bear pics, you know you made a splash.
Logo was changed, Beehaw~!
We hope this logo will look more friendly to people 💖...
Where did the name “Beehaw” come from?
I know it’s “Yeehaw” with a bee, but where’d that idea for a name come from?
every single time I send a beehaw link to my wife on discord, we get 502 error for 5-10 minutes after, as if we were being rate limited? I'm a bit lost what's going on
unless everyone else is getting those same errors and they just happen to perfectly correlate with when i send a link on discord...
Twitter's new TikTok copycat is filled with animal cruelty videos. Elon calls content "Edgy" (www.nbcnews.com)
What would a world without advertising (as we know it) look like?
From violations of privacy, to the mainpulation or even maliciousness at its core, I think marketing at it's current state is poison to society. But I also think it might be a necessary evil. What would be a good alternative implementation of advertising look like? Or do we even need it? If the former, how would advertising look...
Megathread for Reddit Blackouts and News - Day 3
hey everyone. if you want to post links or discuss the Reddit blackout today, please localize it to this thread in order to keep things tidy! Thanks!
Is the whole AI apocalypse thing overblown or not?
I must confess to getting a little sick of seeing the endless stream of articles about this (along with the season finale of Succession and the debt ceiling), but what do you folks think? Is this something we should all be worrying about, or is it overblown?...