Its been something I’ve been considering, but also content with job and wouldn’t want to leave friends/family so not seriously considering it now. I’ll worry about it more when things eventually get worse…
The average modern person, by one calculation, spends more than 1,600 hours a year to pay for their cars, their insurance, fuel and repairs. We go to jobs partly to pay for the cars, and we need the cars mostly to get to jobs. We spend four of our sixteen waking hours on the road or gathering the resources for the car....
Sexualities generally refer to sexual attraction. Homosexuals are sexually attracted to people have the same gender, not to repeating the same sex acts over and over and heterosexuality is about attraction to people with different genders, not to novelty sex acts. Pansexual does not mean attraction to pans not to literally everyone or everything. Taking the words too literally is not really useful.
The differentiation of the ace/allo axis and the sex-favorable/sex-repulsed axis is particularly useful for aces, but it still has its use for allos as well (some people who have PTSD related to sexual activity may be sex repulsed, but can still experience sexual attraction). Lots of reasons to engage in and enjoy sex other than attraction to a specific person. Even allos often engage in sex with those whom they aren’t attracted to.
The major ace subreddits regularly had issues with sex-favorable people complaining about all the posts being sex-negative and sex-repulsed people (sometime simultaneously) complaining about too much sex-positive content. Would be more amusing if those types of posts didn’t waste so much space…
There are grey-aces (whom are still aces; black-stripe ace sometimes is used to refer to those with no sexual attraction) whom experience some sexual attraction some of the time.
But there’s a lot of aces who are surprised to realize sexual attraction is something people actually experience.
Why can’t aces be both? The “sexual” in sexual orientations has always referred to attraction. Sex repulsed aces are like victim-playing US Christians in most of the interactions I see. They bully and make fun of anyone who has sex and then play the victim when asked to not insult others.
If sex is something at least one party desires. No one should be pressured into sex they don’t want, but no one should feel bad leaving another person over the lack of sex either.
This is like saying “yes, gay men can still have sex with women, as long as they’re not attracted to them. They’re still gay! It’s only a name!”
But that’s true. Straight men can and do have sex with men and that should be accepted as normal. Etc. Nothing wrong with that. What would be a problem is if people were to try to pressure people into having sex outside their sexual orientation. Because its wrong to pressure people into having sex. Doesn’t matter their orientation. But you seem to be suggestion that its okay, as long as aces get left out.
It’s an awful precedent. The amount of times I’ve been asked if I’m “one of those asexuals who have sex” is gross.
Some people don’t have boundaries and don’t know basic sexual etiquette. Acknowledging diversity exist no more justifies asking aces you barely know than it justifies asking trans people about their genitals. And yet, somehow people seem to somehow just forget basic etiquette when they meet queer people. As if our existence is either inherently sexual, so simply existing means we started the sexual conversation in their mind (even when we’re aces somehow) or we’re subhuman and don’t desire basic courtesy/privacy. That said, some guys are really just that direct with each other and think its normal.
But there’s no such thing as “grey asexual”. That’s greysexual. It’s a separate thing.
Asexuality is used both a specific label and an umbrella term that includes both.
“Asexual” becoming “inclusive” to almost everything muddies the waters. I am against not being able to use the label to distinguish clear what I identify as anymore. It’s frustrating as hell.
Sounds about as valid as transmeds/truscum being upset that NBies and people who want something slightly different than them are under the same umbrella of “trans” and that they would need to use “binary” to qualify more specifically what they want to communicate.
Platonic seems fine with me. If you just see sex as another activity to do, like playing board games or TTRPGs, then it makes sense. As hikaru pointed out, the relationship itself wouldn’t be platonic, but the attraction can be.
Granted, I say this as someone who does not engage in sex (and honestly not sure how ace I may or may not be).
Demisexuality is under the asexuality umbrella, so it should seem relatable.
If you do experience sexual attraction towards those you are close to then that would be demi. If you want to have sex despite lack of sexual attraction, then that would be black-stripe ace.
The food analogy is the comparison I’ve seen people use to explain what sexual attraction is. Hunger is like libido and has little to nothing to do with sexual attraction. Sexual attraction would be like when someone brings out a fresh cake and you need to have a piece even if you just ate and are not hungry. I guess demi in this analogy would mean you wouldn’t feel that way unless you already knew that specific dessert well. But if you just eat tasty desserts when you are bored, because you like the taste but don’t have the mouthwatering reaction to it being presented, because the person who made it is important to you and you feel eating it’s a way to bond with them, etc, you could still be a black-stripe ace.
That said, what counts as sexual attraction has confused me a lot despite spending a fair bit of time reading people trying to explain it.
Anyways, if demi is a functionally useful label, there no need to change. In-practice real-world usefulness of language is more important than weirdos on the Internet trying to be precise in the meanings of words.
Low-Risk States (AZ, DE, ME, MI, NV, PA, RI, VA, WI): These states have largely refrained from targeting transgender adults, although they haven’t taken extraordinary steps to protect adult transgender rights either. For example, Arizona and Virginia have enacted anti-trans policies affecting youth but, due to state-specific factors, appear unlikely to extend such policies to adults.
The shoulder of a freeway is probably safer than riding in the lane on a chaotic stroad of a feeder running alongside it where cars are still mostly going a minimum of 50mph and its still 3+ lanes. Much fewer places for cars to turn right and less distractions and you have a dedicated lane.
The issue is all the feeders where you need to cross and traffic won’t be looking for you
Where I’m at, the interstates only have entrance and exit lanes (which would be insanely dangerous to cross, but there only a small fraction of the interstate), no cross traffic ever, whether its the express lanes or the normal lanes. Maybe its different where this person was riding.
The feeders themselves are constant intersections with no shoulder or bike lanes and people constantly entering and exiting from side streets and businesses and much more poorly labeled lanes and lots of distractions on the side of the roads.
alt text: A screenshot of a comment thread by two people. OP comment says “What’s the difference between git and GitHub” and the replying comment says “like the difference between porn and pornhub”
For what i heard, a lot of people on the Linux community use Krita for image manipulation, even though, it’s intended for digital painting, and GIMP is the one intended for image manipulation, because people don’t like the GIMP’s UI....
Changing icons to color helps me find which ones I’m looking for. Seems weird it defaults to it looking like they’re greyed out because they won’t work on the current selection.
Honestly, that seems a big concern for my mom about me and I’m not sure if she even thinks I’m trans. Its just things like me growing my hair out that make her worried about more less favorable treatment if I were to get pulled over. My mom is an extremely butch lesbian, so I’m sure she’s had her own experiences but she hasn’t said much along those lines.
Only thing I could find were laws that were introduced, but none that passed, listed on anti-trans legislation trackers. But that doesn’t seem like enough reason given how easily outliers can introduce bills that have no chance of actually passing. Here’s some recent news related to anti-trans legislation in NH: glad.org/nh-senate-tables-bill-that-would-have-ro…
Escaping red states
Any trans Americans in red states feeling the pressure to escape before the elections this year?...
New Biden administration Title IX rule protects transgender and nonbinary students’ bathroom and pronoun use at school
advocate.com/…/title-ix-rule-transgender-students
The hidden potential of bicycles (www.resilience.org)
The average modern person, by one calculation, spends more than 1,600 hours a year to pay for their cars, their insurance, fuel and repairs. We go to jobs partly to pay for the cars, and we need the cars mostly to get to jobs. We spend four of our sixteen waking hours on the road or gathering the resources for the car....
Anon has an asexual gf (sh.itjust.works)
ruling the same food (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
The United States of America, but for Trans People (lemmy.world)
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A person was spotted biking on I-90 in Chicago. Police have a message for them (www.nbcchicago.com)
I don't know how much more clearer I have to rule on this. It's the exact same thing. (lemmy.ml)
alt text: A screenshot of a comment thread by two people. OP comment says “What’s the difference between git and GitHub” and the replying comment says “like the difference between porn and pornhub”
American hypocrisy, oh, let me count the ways (lemmy.ml)
The US has so much space (lemmy.world)
(Read before Comment) Why you don't like GIMP UI?
For what i heard, a lot of people on the Linux community use Krita for image manipulation, even though, it’s intended for digital painting, and GIMP is the one intended for image manipulation, because people don’t like the GIMP’s UI....
E-bike power limit: BA and ACT urge bike industry to resist 500W proposal (www.globalcyclingnetwork.com)