inherentlee

@inherentlee@strangeobject.space

I do computers for work (k8s, devOps, accessibility) and any crafts I can get my gay lil hands on (knitting, stamp carving, bookbinding are some favorites right now). big fan of birds.

if you ever want any of my art just ask! commissions for custom work are also an option.

AuDHD, white, queer/trans/nonbinary

boosting/posting images with good alt text; if I fail to do so you're welcome to remind me

generally will follow back when we interact a lil

previously https://hachyderm.io/@inherentlee

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impactology, (edited ) to random
@impactology@mastodon.social avatar

Anyone on the TL has tried teaching themselves on how to design and sew your own clothing?

@fibrearts

inherentlee,

@impactology not myself but my wife is learning slowly. She made herself a new jacket by cutting apart her old one and using it as a pattern!

inherentlee, to trans

finally home from some travel and able to carve the second design!!!

inherentlee,

@jenigrant were you interested in prints of these?

inherentlee,

@valthonis oh my god that would be SO cool

inherentlee,

also these are available as tee shirts!! I meant to order blanks this weekend but I'm still waiting on confirmation from someone, so the order form is still open :)

https://forms.gle/wHJvKMEtw2USo5Yi8

inherentlee,

@jenigrant dm or contact me with something off https://leecat.art/contact and we can figure out details!

Rainonrisa, to random

New Jeff Rosenstock album day

Gif from the movie Napoleon Dynamite of a skinny white person in a fully buttoned pale yellow polo and large glasses in a bowling alley pumping their fist in celebration and saying “Yes!”

inherentlee,

@Rainonrisa FUCK YEAH

wormsong, to random
@wormsong@godforsaken.website avatar

ok i did that 20 songs thing

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/65a9QyqduiF0ZHyDYw26jg

mutuals do this and tag me please and thank you

Google Keep note of my picks for the challenge: Intro: Earth Birth - Kadhja Bonet Breaking Bread - Matmos Ossuary - Baths Black Eye/Burnt Thumb - Metronomy Ponyboy - SOPHIE In the lassa - Juana Molina The Bones of You - Elbow Gimme Gimme - NNAMDÏ Maghawir - Mashrou' Leila Overload - Sugababes Tous les mêmes - Stromae Rhapsody in Blue - George Gershwin (as played by Morton Gould and His Orchestra on a warped and scratched record to give it a weird wobbly crackling sound) Selfish Soul - Sudan Archives Lies - CHVRCHES When My Boy Walks Down the Street - The Magnetic Fields In My Dreams - Danny L Harle fineshrine - Purity Ring 800dB cloud - 100 gecs Mii channel theme You're Not Good Enough - Blood Orange

inherentlee,

@wormsong lemme grab u my partner's "songs to make the hets uncomfortable" playlist

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/33cinqV93KvmMQjGNRXNGr?si=eIVMWwdwTDqBT1Dek7-NHg

inherentlee,

@wormsong it's not the original ask but it seems up your alley lmao

shockwaver, to random

Word constantly replacing -- and " " with — and “ ” can get fucked. WHY do we need a special set of double quotes? I understand that the em-dash (the longer dash) is a different character with a different (if not overly common these days) meaning, but specific left and right double quotes??

inherentlee,

@shockwaver I'm horrified that word gets involved anywhere in this process????? 😰

wormsong, to random
@wormsong@godforsaken.website avatar

bisexuality. for the nintendo switch

inherentlee,

@wormsong you fool (loving) it's already bi

b0rk, (edited ) to random
@b0rk@jvns.ca avatar

some people who make programming easier

(who am I missing?)

inherentlee,

@b0rk hope you don't mind, I'm adding more descriptive alt text so all viewers can more fully enjoy this great comic!

inherentlee,

@b0rk go ahead!!

starry1086, to knitting

Hello and other yarn crafty folks,
I just came home and found these three small balls of yarn had been sitting out in the rain during the last 24 hours or so. Afaik they're all acrylic. Does anyone have suggestions of how to dry them? Thanks.

Cc @inherentlee @gannet @croquetapeligro

Edited to add the photo 😂

inherentlee,

@starry1086 I would unravel them - if you have a niddy-noddy I would wind them up that way, or loop around the back of a chair, to get them into an unwound "hank" form. then let them dry in that format which is looser and more evenly distributed.

artcollisions, to random
@artcollisions@vis.social avatar

It's fabric delivery day!!

inherentlee,

@artcollisions woot!!!

valthonis, to random
@valthonis@dice.camp avatar

Gonna be a long day.

inherentlee,

@valthonis you got this 💗

inherentlee, to random

[SEXED UP: how society sexualizes us and how we can fight back by Julia Serano]

[ch 3: unwanted attention]

Serano discusses street harassment.

it violates two well-established societal norms:

  • there are customs for how, when, and where to express sexual/romantic interest
  • it is generally considered a breach of protocol to impose on someone with whom you are not acquainted

perhaps because they recognize these violations, street harassers often rationalize their remarks as being complimentary or sincere. but if this were true, such comments should be wholly positive - and they are not. even the "good" comments, Serano notes, "were often highly specific evaluations of my body or appearance that veered into the realm of invasiveness."

additionally, in her experience, acknowledging the "good" comments often lead to escalation to "bad and ugly" ones.

inherentlee,

feminist theory tends to frame street harassment in two non-mutually exclusive ways:

  1. historically, a woman's place was the home; thus, harassment is men signaling to women that they are not in their proper place
  2. through the lens of sexual objectification: men viewing women as objects for them to "sexually evaluate, appreciate, and potentially use"

Serano finds that the first doesn't match her experiences; and that the second, while accurate, feels incomplete.

"many of the street remarks I encountered made me feel as though I was merely a specimen that they were prodding witha proverbial stick in the hopes of getting any type of reaction out of me"

most infuriatingly, despite violating social norms, her harassers expected her to accommodate the intrusions - ideally with some form of acknowledgement. any protest or challenge, even ignoring them, resulted in anger or upset.

inherentlee,

after some discussions - "yes, I am that nerd who occasionally performed impromptu ethnomethodological analyses on my street harassers" - Serano came to the conclusion that they generally did not see their behavior as out of line and "they sincerely did believe that I was the 'bad actor' in the situation"

"My harassers acted as though I had invited their attention" - she calls this a "phantom invitation"

she puts forward a third non-mutually exclusive framework for street harassment:

"Male street harassers seem to view and treat women as though we are public spectacles. ... these observers and harassers cannot fathom that they are doing anything wrong because from their standpoint the public spectacle has demanded their attention."

this helps explain the wide breadth of street harassment experiences, as well as "why people more generally tend to download the seriousness of street harassment"

inherentlee,

"many different subgroups of people are treated as though they are public spectacles for reasons other than, or in addition to, being female."

she moves her attention to celebrity and what she terms "sublebrity" - celebrity within a subgroup of culture, such as LGBTQ+ circles.

non-celebrities tend to treat celebs like public spectacles - we feel we can walk up to them and ask questions, or for an autograph, etc.

Serano, a "sublebrity" thanks to Whipping Girl, details some encounters she's had: people opening with critiques of her work, asking her why she is there ("I am at this queer karaoke event because I am a queer person who enjoys karaoke!"), stating that a friend telling her a story was "monopolizing all her time", or even feeling deceived upon learning, midway through conversation, that she was well-known - as though they were entitled to that information.

from here, she moves to another topic where she is often seen as deceiving - transness.

inherentlee,

transgender people are often treated as public spectacles, and Serano has received plenty of trans-related street harassment.

"Some of the scariest interactions that I've ever faced have occurred when someone who initially presumed that I was a cisgender woman subsequently learned that I'm transgender; the anger expressed in those situations was premised on the misconception that I had 'tricked' or 'deceived' them."

people also ask questions about "anything and everything potentially related to my being transgender, including my childhood, family dynamics, gender history, sexual orientation, medical procedures I may have undergone, and their potential 'side effects'. That last question is very common, as people really seem to want or expect there to be negative consequences to transitioning."

early on, she patiently answered questions. but she noticed that some people would repeat questions, seemingly without really hearing the answers.

inherentlee,

the inappropriateness of the questioning, as well as the now-ready access to information about transness, led Serano to believe the questions were fueled less by curiosity and more by "an unconscious tendency to frame trans people as inherently questionable (read: suspect, dubious)."

a lot of the questions focus on why she is transgender, a focus that she doesn't receive regarding womanhood or "sublebrity."

"people tend not to ask 'why are you cisgender?' or 'how do you know that you're really cisgender?' because being cisgender seems normal and natural to them. In contrast, it's the fact that people perceive being transgender as 'abnormal' and 'unnatural' (as a spectacle) that leads to us being constantly questioned."

often, people don't directly ask why - instead, "they will attribute an underlying cause or ulterior motive to trans people" - such as mental disorder, dominant mother, seeking attention, fulfilling a sexual fantasy, wanting to obtain gendered privilege, etc.

inherentlee,

Serano has "been debunking these failed hypotheses as both a scientist and a trans activist for almost twenty years now" and notices two things:

  • it's virtually impossible to kill these hypotheses
  • brand new ones are constantly popping up ("trans agendas", "peer pressure", "social contagion")

it seems that these and other hypotheses will continue to pop up, "despite all evidence to the contrary, so long as people view transgender identities and experiences as inherently questionable."

people or groups who are perceived as "public spectacles" will be paid undue attention and scrutiny, while people or groups perceived as normal will largely escape reciprocal attention.

While Serano can analyze her experiences as a woman, a "sublebrity," a trans person, and a bisexual person separately using different lenses, she finds it more helpful to analyze them all through the lens of "markedness."

inherentlee,

the Unmarked/Marked mindset (or "markedness") describes how many human traits seem normal or "unmarked" to our eyes, while others are remarkable and "marked."

what makes a trait marked depends on individual context. someone who grew up in New York City will find its inhabitants and scenery unremarkable, while a visitor from a small town would not.

"once a person is marked in our eyes, we will unconsciously be driven to pay them extra attention and scrutinize them disproportionately."

onto marked people, we tend to project motives:

  • they "must be doing whatever they're doing in order to attract attention"
  • they likely do "whatever they do because of the thing that marks them"

she points out that critics may well dismiss this very book as "irredeemably 'subjective' on account of [her] being a trans woman, whereas a cis male (read: unmarked) perspective on gender and sexuality may strike these same critics as wholly 'objective'"

inherentlee,

Serano notes that while marginalized groups are marked, not all marked people are marginalized. celebrities, for instance, are marked because they are considered "special". someone walking down the street in a pirate costume would be marked in many people's eyes, "but that hardly constitutes systemic oppression."

being marked also has nothing to do with rarity. trans people are more common than plumbers or people from Delaware, but trans people are marked while the other two groups are not. "one in four US adults have a disability, and more than half the population is female, yet these groups tend to be marked"

"what seems to matter most is that there is an implicit socially agreed-upon 'standard' regarding bodies or behaviors that marked individuals seem to deviate from."

this standard is largely learned. as such, we are capable of unlearning it.

inherentlee,

finally, markedness provides another potential explanation for intersectionality - "being a member of more than one marginalized group may lead others to view you as 'doubly' or 'triply' marked, and thus even more conspicuous or suspect in their eyes"

"It would be a mistake," Serano warns, "to reduce all forms of marginalization to the Unmarked/Marked mindset, as each has its own history and specific stereotypes, is institutionalized in different ways, and so on."

broadly, though, it's a useful mindset for challenging and communicating about marginalization.

[end of ch. 3! be back another time with ch. 4: the Predator/Prey mindset]

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