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sim, 4 months ago

@tk Looks like you and awl made a similar joke here.

sim, 4 months ago

@awl @tk If you were fictional characters, then I would ship it. I don't know what things would look like but it would be hilarious.

sim, 4 months ago

@awl @tk I don't know if I want to see that. Imagine you both going on cycle rides and taking photos of what you see. Very slice of life.

Then you stop and post something, and I resonate with that. Lol.

sim, 4 months ago

@tk @awl I could see you both making furniture with each other. You'd probably have fun doing it too.

sim, 4 months ago

@hj @Moon I can't even see the video. Lol.

sim, 4 months ago

@lanodan @hj @Moon I don't know why it wasn't working for me. I thought my computer just didn't support the format or something.

sim, 4 months ago

@eal @lanodan @hj @Moon Is hj into worse things than really make-uped vampire-looking women?

sim, 4 months ago

@hj @eal @lanodan @Moon

This is how I feel about Disney trying to do live-action animals, making them realistic loses some of the charm and expressiveness that the animated versions had. I need those shades to shield my eyes from the terrible backgrounds that make everything so dark and whatever they were trying to do with that Little Mermaid adaptation. I know this feeling. Some things are just better one way than another. We do have a problem of not knowing when to keep something a fantasy too.

sim, 4 months ago

I mean, I just wanted to be a man-hater and criticise star wars for having shit main male characters, for catering to boys and men now and for the director to come out and say that Star Wars is going to have a male-focus and it is about time men directed Star Wars. These people are killing my buzz here... at least I get to collect being a misogynist now.

It's just a shame that with them taking over all the franchises and making them female, I won't be able to call myself a man-hater!

sim, 4 months ago

@newt Twitter might be handing those out.

sim, 4 months ago

@grillchen If we value diversity then surely diversity in thought is the most important form of it. Why is it important to get different perspectives from people of different races, sexualities, sex or other physical traits? It seems that we answer this now because they look different when it should be because they are going to think differently and sometimes when that is productive, that means different people can come up with different solutions and that puts us closer to the solution of a problem. Instead industries are suffering because we gatekeep for the sake of physical diversity. Rather than whether someone can do the role properly or well, or actually come up with those needed solutions since they are passionate about doing that.

I was brought up to value tolerance but I have increasingly seen this eroded. Like now we all have to think the same and have the same beliefs or we are cast out. Thinking like this makes me an outcast. This is an impossible expectation to expect of anyone. We are not the same person. We come with our own preferences, beliefs and thoughts that develop over time. Some things we discover (preferences) and other things we can refine (thoughts). I don't think that the thoughts we have today should define us because they are not set in stone. 5 or 10 years down the line, those can easily change or be refined as we think more on them. As we explore different beliefs or topics. That growth is beautiful and important.

sim, 4 months ago

@Moon @grillchen That does seem to be the case for some activists now. But it might be more of a power thing, if you want to maintain your power then you tend to have to get rid of opposing viewpoints to your own. And you will see more threats to your power around you. Power shakes you up like that.

sim, 4 months ago

@grillchen @Moon Good point. The same can be said of having wealth.

It is not without its merit though, people have not only been killed for less... but wealth and power attract some of the worst people and some of them are willing to kill you for a taste of what you have in wealth or power.

sim, 4 months ago

@grillchen @Moon I like this quote. It is harder to lead by example every day. To struggle with your principles daily. To forgive yourself when you slip up, but then get back on the wagon and keep going from there.

sim, 4 months ago

@grillchen @Moon It is easier to lash out at other people than to look inwards. It is easier to hate yourself than to forgive yourself for your failures. The same can be said for others. Although we tend to be more charitable to other people than ourselves because we don't know all of their past or thoughts. We hold ourselves to a higher standard.

It is also easier to give your attention to the bad news out there that remains a problem than to be grateful for the good news in life and appreciate that.

sim, 4 months ago

@wjmaggos @jeffcliff @thor @amerika @Moon

How do you navigate this when there are a lot of people online that have a social disability? You are expecting them to understand all sorts of social rules from around the world which is a lot to take in even for people without a social disability when you think about it. Social media, especially a place like fedi that isn't corporate mainstream, attracts those people because they are rejected in polite society for not understanding and following the rules. Meanness might be obvious to you but it is not obvious to everyone because they do not think the same way that you do. There are people that would come across as rude or blunt in polite society, and they don't even realise it. Sometimes this can be pointed out to them and they can apologise and rephrase things. If you let them. Other times it just won't register. They would be further isolated when they are already isolated.

sim, 4 months ago

@jeffcliff @wjmaggos @Moon @amerika @thor I just mute words when I don't want to see them. This could probably be automated. A lot of the tools are already here. The main thing missing might be better filtering for timelines.

On saying this, it might be nice to not just mute posts with triggering words but to just filter the word to something else at the individual level. Could be made fun then.

The answer to me always comes back to empowering users to curate their own experience. We just have to give them the tools, maybe give them a few default settings for the level of filtering they want to start with. Then convince them that this is the better option. I think most people will go with this, except for those people that want to cancel others out of existence.

I have always curated my own experience on here. I have only experienced a few posts here or there which were mean in my own threads or replies. Sometimes I wonder what the main difference between me and others that have their threads turned to shit is. Often, it seems like a filter because those people have already decided that they are cancelling others or attempting to control where fedi is going. Or they are journos. Some group that is hated. I don't think your ordinary user will have much of a problem when they start out if they don't get into fedi meta. But I could be wrong.

sim, 4 months ago

@wjmaggos @thor @amerika @jeffcliff @Moon

>do you think that's the majority of what dark fedi caters to?
I don't know what you mean by dark fedi. I don't recall ever joining a dark fedi.

I do not think we are dealing with edge cases here. I think that a lot of people on fedi have a mental disability of some kind. The fediverse has always been an attractive alternative for people that have been rejected by places like twitter or facebook. Who do you think gets rejected by polite corporate structures that want to be inoffensive for advertisers? A lot of these people are minorities. A lot of people don't realise they have a disability. I think it has been a bit of a joke that we have a lot of trans people, autists and/or people really into free software and programming which may also be where the autists come into it. There is an overlap between those groups. At least this used to be the case before things really blew up on mastodon.

sim, 4 months ago

@kaia I don't think they would appreciate being called 'cis' either. :')

sim, 4 months ago

@lanodan Do you have any good resources to learn more about the Celtic religions and animism and folklore? It seems like you follow it but it has been hard for me to find decent stuff on it. Although I have found a book on Irish folklore that I need to get around to reading.

sim, 4 months ago

@lanodan Yeah. I was thinking about academic books or sources about it that can be trusted. Unfortunately, I don't know those languages. I was thinking more about Britain I guess. Not sure how much of that survives now.