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sim, 1 month ago

@animeirl @ageha @Moon @a7 @arcana @nyx @scathach

Same reason that women do this, because men can be men around other men in a way that they usually aren't when a woman is around. They can generally make more offensive jokes without a woman getting offended, they can take more risks without worrying as much. Bring a woman into this and the dynamic changes, especially if romance is involved. Same when it comes to women being able to be women around other women, there are some things they wouldn't want to talk about or do with a man around because it isn't polite and the group becomes more uncomfortable.

sim, 1 month ago

@animeirl @Moon @a7 @ageha @arcana @nyx @scathach

It's not so weird when you realise that people generally have different preferences and tolerance for things. There are things you don't necessarily want to mention in front of the opposite sex. There are things the opposite sex may do which doesn't interest you or that might annoy you. I do think that men need other men to help their development, likewise with women. Things like the scouts were great for this. Forcing men and women to mix all the time hasn't been so great, there needs to be some balance to this.

sim, 1 month ago

@animeirl @Moon @a7 @ageha @arcana @nyx @scathach

Understandable. It's easier for me to be alone than to deal with these group dynamics and preferences. I do think there are benefits to it though.

sim, 1 month ago

@animeirl @Moon @a7 @ageha @arcana @nyx @scathach

Not sure that a lot of people are getting the benefits from it at this point. A lot of people are dysfunctional. Maybe living in a low trust society doesn't help, living around people who are basically strangers to us. Even family often end up being strangers now.

sim, 1 month ago

@jeffcliff @awl @Moon I imagine that you can still call them names... just don't threaten their lives. There might be more things that I am missing here though.

sim, 1 month ago

@cell @grillchen I was going to ask if I could join because it sounded interesting, but now I feel like a third wheeler... lol. Going out to eat with actual people is surprisingly fun and I need to do this more often.

sim, 1 month ago

@grillchen @cell I understand. Had to make a joke about being a third wheeler in there somewhere. I don't interact with you both enough! Be warned though, if you sit with me for a meal then you may hear rants about bad storytelling from the current mainstream media! Thankfully the last time I sat down to a meal this didn't happen but get me on the subject...

Now I am curious what you'd make for me to eat. I could do with learning how to improve my cooking skills too, especially when I have children (Or even friends) to cook for. Where have you picked your own skills up from?

I need to learn how to make traditional british/english food vegan.

sim, 1 month ago

@grillchen @cell

>might be much more interested on your examples of good story telling

Honestly, I wish that I could point to examples of good storytelling. But it is easier to point out when something is going wrong, that is where a lot of the focus and comparison has been. I'm still learning what makes good story telling, what good examples there are. I hope that as I learn more about the draft process then I can pick up on this and perhaps explain that better. Perhaps we can then talk about that.

>also #GrillchensCulinaryWorldTour is a little project where i try to improve my skills. i pick one country after another and look at their dishes and try to veganize them.

Sounds like a great project and challenge. You must know a lot more about food in order to replicate them too. However, I did recently try a wrap from somewhere, and tried to replicate with my own ingredients which has gone well whenever I want to eat something lighter but have ingredients to use up.

sim, 1 month ago

@grillchen @cell This video may be of interest when it comes to writing advice and how to not preach to your audience. Great video about theme too.

https://yewtu.be/watch?v=SnESTfHZas4

sim, 1 month ago

@grillchen @kaia Where do we begin?

sim, 1 month ago

@grillchen @kaia Tbh, I haven't seen a lot of lesbian films so I don't know what the common tropes are but it is annoying that this is seen as feminine or girly too. Marketing has really done a number here.

sim, 1 month ago

@animeirl @Moon @georgia @mangeurdenuage Out of curiosity, where did JK Rowling promote Matt Walsh? That one surprises me because she is a leftist feminist.

sim, 1 month ago

@georgia @Moon @animeirl @mangeurdenuage How did she stop being a leftist?

sim, 1 month ago

@mangeurdenuage @Moon @animeirl @georgia I haven't paid much attention to her in the past few months... did something happen? Did she announce that she was no longer a leftist or something? Did she stop being a feminist and supporting females or stop supporting gay or black people? She has a track record in supporting those groups or causes. Also, I don't think it is fair to say that she isn't a leftist because of her views on trans people. This is shifting the Overton Window and alienating leftists. I'm not sure they should have to tow the line on every new trend to be in the club.

sim, 1 month ago

@Moon @animeirl @georgia @mangeurdenuage Seriously? Is that where we are heading now in our discourse? You can't talk across the political divide without that association? We are screwed if so.

sim, 1 month ago

@grillchen @georgia @Moon @animeirl @mangeurdenuage Yes, we are downstream of America. Whatever has colonised America has also colonised us, we have close ties and borrow ideas that have taken root in America. Especially with how close our academics are and how people migrate over here from the US to do things. Other countries in the west are just behind or not as immersed yet... but that is likely to change unless America changes course. Also, what is British has been heavily attacked and not passed down in the education system, we have lost a lot of community things that uphold our culture, there are fewer chances to learn in our every day lives what makes one British. You have to actively search for it, look old videos or culture up.

But isn't that the problem with how the news or social media cycle is now in part? We only get to hear the controversies, the bad news cycle whichever side we're on. I don't know that this says much about the people these articles are about, especially when we know that they often have a biased narrative to tell against someone for clicks and the algo feeds us certain news. Whenever I know more about a topic, the lies or ignorance becomes more apparent to me. Especially when I read articles about the fediverse for example.

sim, 1 month ago

@grillchen @georgia @Moon @animeirl @mangeurdenuage She has been political on her platform for as long as I can remember. She gave a lot of her money to charity to support causes important to her rather than having fun (Or maybe that is fun to her). When you know her past, I don't see how she can behave differently given that she is a domestic abuse survivor I guess the term would be. She supports females. As for having fun, I think she'd likely get cancelled for that too. The writing industry is not very forgiving right now. I don't see how she'd behave differently in the current climate. I'm surprised she took the stand she has though, but maybe I shouldn't have been given her past.

sim, 1 month ago

@vix @milk @coolboymew Pretty sure they are here but most of those instances they gravitate to block us so I don't see them as much. Although the youtubers are a different matter... it's hard to monetise and get the reach they want here without the support of the algorithm and centralisation feeding their posts to people. Imagine having to compete on a more even playing field...

sim, 1 month ago

@grillchen That me.

sim, 1 month ago

@Rocket @tk @Moon But we can already share short videos on the fediverse. What is the point in this?

sim, 2 months ago

@newt Not going to be affection fun time then. Can't easily be surprise kissed as the guy.

Haha. I suppose in comparison they would be akin to that. No wonder the protect vibes come in.