You missed some nuance. Don’t drive on their roads. You can drive unregistered vehicles on your own property with no issues. Many homesteaders and farmers do this with work trucks that never leave their property.
That’s where the edges of these people’s thinking begins. There’s so many tiny caveats that they believe there has to be some secret set of true rules out there for people clever enough to crack the code.
On android I use Revanced. It patches the official Youtube app (patches are open source) to greatly expand the base functionality and offer a lot more customization of the UI.
For me the best features are ad block, sponsorblock (skips in video sponsored segments), and complete excision of shorts from all aspects of the app.
It also works on Youtube Music, effectively allowing free premium (just don’t get the local downloads of your most listened tracks to help save data, but I have unlimited anyway).
There’s a lot of great advice here, and I was definitely in your boat, faking it for my wife’s sake quite a bit.
This is an important takeaway: what you are feeling right now is not unusual.
But seeing my daughter, holding her for the first time, watching her grow, learn, develop a personality… her first “dada”, mush mouthed “love you”, her big grin every morning when she sees me, when she hops off mama’s lap and crawls over to me babbling “dadadada” then a few minutes later crawls back to mama and then tries to get us to sit in a way where she can be touching both of us… there are so many moments nearly every day that make it all worth it.
I think your main issue is how you’re framing this in your mind (or at least how you’ve framed it here) and how I assume you’ve framed this with your wife.
This isn’t about whether or not you made the “right” choice. It’s far too late for that now anyway, and framing it that way carries a shit ton of subtext for your wife that you probably aren’t cognizant of.
Do you not want a kid? Do you not want to be a father? Do you not want to be doing this with her? Do you just want to not have responsibilities? Do you feel like you were pressured into this? Is this some resentment towards her? Will you resent the kid?
These are only some of the really fucking negative ideas that could be put into her head when you say you aren’t sure you made the right choice.
Or is this what’s going on (the far more likely situation with most future fathers): You’re scared as shit about everything coming towards you, you’re scared about the amount of work this will be, concerned about how this will effect your relationship with your wife, worried about how your life will change in ways you can’t even imagine from this side, lamenting the loss of free time and freedom you see coming, worried you might not be ready to handle this or raise a kid properly…
Fears, being scared, worrying? Those are things you might be able to bond over. I’d be surprised if your wife wasn’t scared of a lot of these things too. My wife and I were scared.
But what seems like just a subtle semantic difference between “Oh shit what have we signed up for” and “I’m not sure this was the right choice for us” has a massive gulf in terms of emotional meaning and undertones.
I highly reccomend you try to take some time to try and figure out what you’re really feeling here. Maybe you are resentful of the situation. I hope you aren’t. Like I said earlier, most future fathers go through some terror of “what the shit am I in for what did I agree to?”
If you’ll excuse a bit more ramble, what you’re feeling now might come back from time to time after your kid is born. Particularly when things feel tough, it’s not unusual to feel the weight of all the work you’ve stepped up to do. I still do from time to time, a year and some months in.
But this is what you signed up for. Just like marriage is for better or worse, and relationships can be hard fucking work, so can children. You’ve made the choice with the idea or gamble that what you get out of it will make the toughness and hard times worth it. The overwhelming amount of the time, it absolutely will be.
You’ve made the choice to do this, it’s too late to turn back. So are you going to trudge through it like a member of a chain gang, or are you going to cherish every little thing there is to cherish and be there for your wife who is giving up just as much or more than you will be?
Lol, what? db0 is a medium sized instance ran by one of the former /r/piracy admins when they jumped ship during the exodus, and it’s reasonably active with a decent amount of real users and a very active owner.
World is by far the largest instance by a huge margin. It is such an outlier that it effectively should be disregarded in comparisons with other instances.
Forget AI. Google just created a version of its search engine free of all the extra junk it has added over the past decade-plus. All you have to do is add “udm=14” to the search URL....
There’s at least one public story from an ex-googler who worked on search having a big QoL feature update killed at the absolute last moment before it went live by someone in marketing/ads because it decreased click through rate for the “sponsored” results at the top of the search page.
There’s at least one public story from an ex-googler who worked on search having a big QoL feature update killed at the absolute last moment before it went live by someone in marketing/ads because it decreased click through rate for the “sponsored” results at the top of the search page.
Lego’s first Legend of Zelda set is a 2,500-piece Great Deku Tree (www.theverge.com)
An unofficial PC port of Zelda: Majora’s Mask has been released (www.videogameschronicle.com)
github.com/HarbourMasters/…/1.0.0
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YouTube videos are skipping to the end for users with adblockers (9to5google.com)
[Azula in the Spirit Temple] In Azula’s dream world, Ozai never gave Zuko his scar
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Total Recall (lemmy.world)
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step 4: wait for it to get better (lemmy.world)
Usernames in the Fedivers 😫
Why can you never change your username in Mastodon, Lemmy or Peertube? Is it a condition introduced by ActivityPub or a forgotten feature?
my wife is pregnant and all I feel is worried
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I'm with McCoy here (lemmy.world)
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And it went Gold (lemmy.world)
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Forget AI. Google just created a version of its search engine free of all the extra junk it has added over the past decade-plus. All you have to do is add “udm=14” to the search URL....