Political extremism from Hexbear and Lemmygrad, likely funded by the CCP, is ruining Lemmy. I’ve stopped recommending it to anyone, and am considering leaving.
I hadn’t heard of them before today. After today, I want them defederated as soon as possible. They are exhausting at the best of times, and those times are few and far between.
You think the average human can just "choose" whatever life they want? Just get up one day and be like, "you know what? I'm going to save up for a horse and buggy." That's not a possibility for the vast majority of people. Go to the YouTube channels featuring people who HAVE made that switch in life and it's usually people who had a lot of money, time, and independence before they made the decision.
I know you probably have very decent intentions when you say this, but the lack of depth in consideration around how much actual freedom of movement people have is just really frustrating that it borders on victim blaming. Most people simply cannot do what you're making sound like it's a choice like flipping a light switch. It's not.
Even making simple changes in lifestyle can be challenging. What is up and down? A well educated person might still be confused as we had decades of a recycling industry that was basically non-existent, corporate interests intentionally confusing, and a whole corner of the public discourse outright lying to people about reality. It's extremely challenging and often very expensive to choose the more environmentally conscious items when buying food and basic needs. Most people don't have public transit options, can't afford an EV, or don't even have access to better options for what they buy either way.
This problem is way more complicated than you're making it and the fact yours is a common position on social media is extremely tiring. It's also just a lazy take that is akin to yelling at traffic while you yourself are part of it. So I hope you at least counted yourself when you made that comment.
Like for example, people who’ll ask how you are like 5 times in a conversation or make it about the weather. Things you know will last 2 minutes at best....
Practice practice practice. I spent two semesters in undergrad sitting at random peoples tables and striking up conversations with them. Get over your anxiety about being disliked. The worst you will do is leave someone with a moderately awkward experience, and you will never ever see them again.
Make a conscious decision to put your phone away and attempt to connect in public spaces. Technology has made it so that even the smallest inconvenience can be avoided easily. Learning to small talk is going to be a hell of a lot more worse than an inconvenience. You have to get comfortable with the idea that you will be acutely aware that you suck the first dozen times that you do it.
Active listening. Get people talking with an easy question to expound upon, then pay attention to the answers and ask them to elaborate on anything they mention in passing, ideally things you find interesting. “Tell me more” is your biggest friend here.
“Yes and”, not “No, but”. Agree, emphasize, respond, empathize. If they say something, totally repulsive, try to deflect to something else rather than actively confront.
Open ended questions are your best friend. If the question you’re formulating can be answered with yes/no, rephrase it into something that invites explanation.
When you have struck gold, stop looking. Let people talk about things they wanted to talk about. As you do this more and more you’ll start getting a sense for when they’re running out of things to say vs when they want to continue but are concerned they’re talking too much. For the former, go back to step 3 and ask them about something else they mentioned. For the latter, learn the methods for communicating your interest. Eye contact, an open posture, a micro-smile, tilted head, all communicate that you are engaged and listening. The secret sauce here, though, is to just repeat the last couple of words they said back to them. It’s like magic.
Liberals while musk and his ilk actively contribute to the deaths of millions, and passively contribute to the deaths of millions more: I sleep
Liberals when some random individual on the internet makes a meme with him in a cartoon crosshairs: real shit laser eyes
You people are a joke, and this shit is never going to end if the most radical you think people should get in literal self defence of humanity, is asking sternly or voting for the other puppet.
MLK's words as relevant as always:
I must make two honest confessions to you, my Christian and Jewish brothers. First, I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: "I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action"; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a "more convenient season." Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.
Don't be that moderate, and it's not like anyone is asking you to pick up a gun, so for the sake of the rest of us: sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up.
I've just seen a lot of post recently complaining what they see on their front pages such as news, politics, endless memes, etc. But you do know if any of those subs bother you or seem excessive, you can filter the subs so that they don't appear on your front page anymore. Filter memes and 196, and about 70 percent of the memes...
I’m actually fed up with that entire “let’s just ignore everything that’s bad and pretend everything’s fine”/ignorance is bliss/good vibes only approach to using the Internet.
Content warnings for everything nowadays , instead of some trigger warnings for the seriously upsetting shit.
Things aren’t getting better if we keep our eyes closed.
Don’t want to doomscroll? Block or mute what you don’t want to see. We used to call that filter sovereignty when web 2.0 got started and it somehow mutated into “don’t show me anything that might stress me out”.
I don’t like that development and I’m glad Lemmy seems to be rather chill so far.
This might work at the higher end with tech brands and expensive products. People near the poverty line or people with no savings (most people) simply can't afford to do any of this. Sustainable, green, locally sourced = expensive.
It's a good thing to do if you can. But this won't change the world or the corporations generating most pollution. Everyone needs heat and food. Everyone needs power. And most of us, wealthy and poor, don't get to choose who creates our electricity or supplies us with water.
I think that it will not be waged between North and South for state rights, but rather between Republicans and Democrats for human rights. It will happen before our 250th anniversary in 2026.
my quality of life is like 10x better than my grandparents’
yeah, fuck all those workers, many children, slaving away for pennies, often dying, in mines and factories and dumpsters to provide me with that life. Not to mention the planet itself that we all live on that is literally being destroyed for the benefit of a handful of people.
I’d argue that’s mostly attributable to liberalised free markets.
because you're comfortable enough to ignore reality as long as that keeps that comfy-comfy status quo of yours in place.
Congratulations, you are being part of the problem.
All of these arguments are missing the point. They’re attempts at strawman arguments, though I don’t believe it was out of malice. Technologist progress is a function mostly of population and time. Both the US and USDR made significant technological progress, so economic system is a less important (still important though!) factor.
The argument is that the modern economic system compared to our grandparents’ generation is worse. We have less buying power. We have less publicly funded welfare to act as a safety net. Workers have less bargaining power than times past. Large corporations are taking advantage of consumers and workers at huge rates.
We could have had all of the technological progress we’ve made PLUS our grandparents’ economic situation if our parents didn’t fuck everything. That’s the argument.
Lol that’s the world’s largest prisoner dilemma, never going to happen. People are big children, and you need to treat them as such. You don’t let the child decide whether it’s going to eat candy or real food, you take away the option of candy because they cannot be trusted to make decisions that are good for them in the long run. This is no different, it’s why we have things like regulations and the FDA.
Gas prices went up two measly dollars compared to normal in 2022, and everyone flipped the fuck out.
Yeah, sure. They flipped out because the love their cars so much and don’t want to change anything. Oh, wait. No, they flipped out because companies and corrupt politicians made them completely dependent on cars so they will starve without them and kept them so poor that even increasing the cost of using the cars they dependent on just a bit again ends with starving.
And here you are babbling none-sense again about how it’s the stupid people buying products -as if they had a choice- and not the companies and politicians that are to blame.
I'm going to buy a House! (file.coffee)
Credit: Pervis (@PervisTime) - Twitter...
14-year-old gang raped, cut into pieces while alive and burned in furnace. (timesofindia.indiatimes.com)
Hexbearian jerking themselves off about how valuable they are to the rest of the fediverse, suggests "performing a coup"
Hey, new federated user from Hexbear here (hexbear.net)
Just curious how many of you are cool with this deeply racist image being the header for one of your comms
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Climate change: Thousands of penguins die in Antarctic ice breakup (www.bbc.com)
Vast numbers of emperor penguin chicks drown as sea-ice melts and collapses underneath them.
Career day can be hard on a kid (lemmy.world)
What are some hints that a conversation will be boring?
Like for example, people who’ll ask how you are like 5 times in a conversation or make it about the weather. Things you know will last 2 minutes at best....
meme dump rule (lemmy.world)
First cheetah cubs born in India in more than seven decades die in heatwave (www.theguardian.com)
Mother among 20 of the big cats flown in from Africa as part of plan to reintroduce animal to country
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Why are folks so anti-capitalist?
Hi all,...
Ya'll do realize you can customize what you can/can't see on kbin/lemmy, and your experience is about about how you make it right?
I've just seen a lot of post recently complaining what they see on their front pages such as news, politics, endless memes, etc. But you do know if any of those subs bother you or seem excessive, you can filter the subs so that they don't appear on your front page anymore. Filter memes and 196, and about 70 percent of the memes...
Lemmy is being filled with ragebait and doombait from new accounts. This is what drove me and others away from Reddit. (lemmy.world)
cross-posted from: lemmy.world/post/1795192...
Opinion: You Are Not the Problem — Climate Guilt is a Marketing Strategy (news.climate.columbia.edu)
Do you see the possibility of another civil war?
I think that it will not be waged between North and South for state rights, but rather between Republicans and Democrats for human rights. It will happen before our 250th anniversary in 2026.
Decaying capitalism always end in fascism. (lemmy.ml)
Big oil quietly walks back on climate pledges as global heat records tumble (www.theguardian.com)
Nothing babe just zoning out (lemmy.world)