@OftOverthinking This bit resonated with me quite a bit. You become “Extremely Woman” (“mujerísima”) by modestly being good enough (“suficientemente bueno”) per your definition.
I hope I got it right, @Impossible_PhD Trying to summarise here.
@aparna@OftOverthinking I think it's mostly the other way around--that overwhelming womanhood is idiosyncratic, dynamic, prone to change, and that there is no one goal--and that those goals shift and change over time. So, you don't go for perfection or idealism, but the practical goodness that fits that current instantiation, knowing and embracing the possible later change--that you got it "wrong" earlier--as a wonderful thing, not a frightful one.
@Impossible_PhD@OftOverthinking Didn’t express it well (see, this is why you should be in the newsletter writing business 😀) but yes; my understanding is exactly what you shared.
No perfect goal, certainly none set by others; you are good enough per what you’ve set for yourself. 😊
I am also processing whether I can, as I want, claim I am descended from the street queens, or if I am not in fact something uglier than that.
Am I not rather engaged in the gentrification of the neighborhood that belonged to the street queen?
The LGB community now established securely enough that we are able to move in? Drowning out the values and needs of the street queens that lived here before?
@OftOverthinking@aparna That's what colonialist trans-feminization did to almost all like them. The best we can do is tear down those structures, work to make space for what there is now in a more just way, and move forward.
Wherever the street queens once lived, I don't think we can say they are gone. In sex work many have gone digital - there's more than there ever were before.
They've emigrated to much of the rest of the world as well.
Of course there's good work for us all to do, tearing down the tools of oppression and guarding against new ones.
Leaving open space though is hard. We, not engaged in sex work, will be seen as the new face of the queens.
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