distractionfactory

@distractionfactory@beehaw.org

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distractionfactory,

“Warmonger bad” FTFY

Blame those who start and continue wars. It’s not entirely the fault of any one country, but there’s only one leader who could put a stop to this latest one.

Conditions? yeah like that’s not just going to inject needed capitol for an extended conflict so they can keep it going at this point. I don’t like how tangled up the world is getting in to this mess and I definitely don’t like how much it’s impacting civilians, but sanctions is clearly not the ONE thing keeping this war going, it was a response to it. It certainly didn’t start it and it’s clear that some leaders value pride over logic. Money isn’t solving that issue (more or less) now that it’s started even if it started as a distraction from economic problems. Whatever that leader is telling the people, he’s the only one who can end this. We need to end this mess. I’d encourage you to be open minded about what factors are keeping this war going, but I understand that’s hazardous in some parts of the world.

distractionfactory,

Without being directly involved, the media / news / social media is the only information anyone has access to if you don’t know someone with first hand knowledge and even that is probably anecdotal. So that is unfortunately impossible to avoid.

There’s certainly justification for comparing self serving military actions of the US. It doesn’t make it right whoever is doing it. It’s hard to see this as directly comparable, but I am sure I don’t fully understand the situation so I am hesitant to argue details. But from an uninformed perspective it seems difficult to deny who is the aggressor who could just stop at any time.

distractionfactory,

I’ve noticed this even when trying to find the name of a song. I used to be able to search:

lyrics “a specific part of the song I remember” whatever random words I can remember out of order

and it would very reliably find songs, even obscure ones. Now the only way it works is if I happen to remember part of the name of the song, usually it’s full of entries for the same popular song that has one word in the title that I included that is definitely not what I’m looking for.

It sounds stupid, but I really miss that working.

Making close friends as an adult

Hi everyone! I'm in my late 20s and I've been reminiscing on my young adult life and what I like/don't like. One point that has been coming up for me is close, vulnerable friendships. I used to have a few friends who I was very close to a few years ago, who I could talk to about deep life stuff, big emotions, vulnerable feelings...

distractionfactory,

You have some great points. I wanted to expand on the idea of speaking to a therapist and self reflection. It's hard to make friends, and it definitely gets harder as we get older. But it's even harder to keep friends.

Forming surface level relationships is a skill that can be learned. There are tricks and strategies that make it easier. Deep, meaningful relationships are a totally different challenge. That challenge involves understanding yourself as much if not more than the other person. It's work, and it's not always fun. It's Also something that you can't expect others to help or lead you to, so you have to be motivated to keep working through tough spots. Most people aren't willing to admit (especially to themselves) their own flaws in a meaningful way. This is where a therapist might be able to help. It's their job to help people through this process, even if it's difficult. Better understanding your own role in previous relationships and how that might have contributed to their end (or not contributed to maintaining their growth) is important to avoid future relationships struggling at the same stage.

Just like romantic relationships close friendships are risky. It's hard to not grow more jaded as you've been through more negative experiences. The natural tendency is to transfer distrust learned from people you've known in the past to people who you are getting to know. It's a way of protecting yourself from getting hurt, but it can also make you unwilling to work around other people's flaws or even see problems that aren't there. That effect works both ways, not only do you have to fight your own tendency to distrust people, the person you're getting to know will be struggling with the same distrust from their own past. Unfortunately, you can't force anyone on a journey they are not willing to take, so finding someone who is willing to do that kind of self reflection is important. And obviously, if you aren't familiar with and willing to pursue that process in yourself you won't know to see it and build on it with others.

Sorry for the rant, just something I've observed as I age.

The Internet Is Failing The Website Preservation Test (archive.ph)

This is something that keeps me worried at night. Unlike other historical artefacts like pottery, vellum writing, or stone tablets, information on the Internet can just blink into nonexistence when the server hosting it goes offline. This makes it difficult for future anthropologists who want to study our history and document...

distractionfactory,

That is likely true for a majority of "the good stuff", but making that determination can be tricky. Let's consider spam emails. In our daily lives they are useless, unwanted trash. However, it's hard to know what a future historian might be able to glean from a complete record of all spam in the world over the span of a decade. They could analyze it for social trends, countries of origin, correlation with major global events, the creation and destruction of world governments. Sometimes the garbage of the day becomes a gold mine of source material that new conclusions can be drawn from many decades down the road.

I'm not proposing that we should preserve all that junk, it's junk, without a doubt. But asking a person today what's going to be valuable to society tomorrow is not always possible.

Stoat, to StarTrek

startrek.website is a partnership between /r/StarTrek and /r/DaystromInstitute from Reddit, they've both locked their subs over there for good. Follow @startrek for all your Trek needs. 🖖 :trek:

#StarTrek

distractionfactory,

Keep in mind that posts removed by moderators are visible and documented on this and every federated instance of Lemmy. Please urge your fellow mods to be more professional going forward and improve their de-escalation skills. There is certainly unfair criticism, but some of that criticism has been well earned.

I'm sure that moderation is a difficult and mostly thankless (and probably pay-less) job, but there's still a point at which being toxic undoes the positive contributions of a moderator. Please try to use this as an opportunity to build a better community and consider some self improvement as well.

There is no one among us that couldn't benefit from personal reflection.

If you treat people with hostility they will likely react in kind.

These sentiments are engrained in Trek (new and old), it would be wonderful if we could consider those lessons in our daily lives.

distractionfactory,

I can definitely see getting fed up with dealing with the same arguments or statements all the time. It's a tight-rope balance to keep a thread from devolving. A lot times an episode or a series will rub you the wrong way and you just don't enjoy it the first time through. Some of my most enlightening conversations about Star Trek have started with either myself or a friend talking about how bad a certain episode or scene was, but as you talk through why you see it in a different light. Most of the time if I'm saying I didn't like something in Trek it's because I'm looking for someone to either confirm my interpretation or point out that I missed something earlier in the episode or in the series that made it make sense to be there. I didn't dislike DS9 when it first aired, but I couldn't really get into it. But once I was able to watch it on streaming in order and at my own pace, it quickly became my absolute favorite series. It was an issue with the airing schedule and the pacing didn't work as well for broadcast TV. A lot of that is pretty well known now, but I didn't realize it at the time. And if some aspects of a show actually don't stand up to scrutiny, I think it's good to have that available in a public forum for the (very slim) possibility that those fan reactions get taken into consideration for future productions. I have been hesitant to voice that kind of opinion based on the perception that it will not be well received.

The thing I was talking about involved a very new user making a similar complaint about getting banned for differing opinions back on reddit, no specific accusation just a general question. Maybe there was a history from reddit, I don't know, but a moderator responded in-chat and the very first thing he said was inappropriate and demeaning. It was unprovoked and it escalated into juvenile name calling (by the mod, not the original commenter). I can't remember exactly what he said and he has since removed it. The entire comment thread was removed by the mod, so maybe he realized how inappropriate it was. But he also removed the comment that started it which by itself was fairly innocent and deleted his own comments so they didn't get stored in the mod logs. It just seemed unprofessional. That's the kind of thing that can turn people off and lead to a further perception of censorship and is the kind of thing that I think a lot of people came here to escape. A more appropriate response would have been to point the commenter to another thread or post that might be more appropriate for that kind of discussion. Or (like you just did) he could have explained that this is a common perception but it's a bit more nuanced than it may seem. In this case the post was regarding the move to Lemmy, so a topic of concern regarding community standards seemed reasonable. I think an open discussion or clear statement of philosophy governing the community would go a long way. If one of these kinds of comments get removed they can be directed to an explanation for why it's better for the community to glean certain comments, but also lays out expectations for how users can express their opinions. It tends to be better to direct people to an appropriate outlet, even if their first choice for that outlet was inappropriate.

Could we have discussion about how to approach toxic moderator behavior (in external instances) (beehaw.org)

To be clear, I have not had any issue whatsoever here on Beehaw. The philosophy that they/we are trying to uphold is admirable and seems to have helped foster and preserve positive and constructive conversation. Of course this isn't going to always be the case, especially on other instances. I have been wondering how the...

How did Sisko and company play a baseball game in one of Quark's holosuites?

In "Take Me Out to the Holosuite", captains Sisko and Solok form teams of their own crewmen and play a baseball game in one of Quark's holosuites. Unlike most Holosuite programs, the real people involved are extremely spread out, with Rom (in the stands behind home plate) and Dax (climbing the center field fence) at least 450...

distractionfactory,

I could see that working for everything except for other people and objects brought into the holosuit.

distractionfactory,

Having trouble finding information about a reddit alternative called Tilde, it's one of those words that is too open ended. Is this what they're talking about?

distractionfactory,

Instance owners could update the descriptions on https://join-lemmy.org/instances to include a link to a "Who are we" kind of readme.

Ultimately I'm not sure any of the instances will look the same in a month.

distractionfactory,

This meme came up when I was looking for recent information about him.

https://beehaw.org/pictrs/image/abf23060-84ba-44c2-989e-a72e899b0dbb.jpeg

Gotta wonder how that conversation would really go.

1 film thats Overrated, and 1 film thats Underrated

Whats a popular movie that you really dont like? And whats a little known or widely hated film that you love? Although there are bits of Saving Private Ryan that I really love (obviously the landing scene) I can never get past the plot. I just find it so outrageously dumb that so many people would sacrifice their life for one...

distractionfactory,

Underrated (or at least under recognized): The Third Man (1949)

distractionfactory,

Ease of use is certainly a consideration, but even if users are willing to do some legwork, the larger servers are going to be appealing based on the perception that they are less likely to go offline. While the opposite is probably true in the short term (the larger servers are more likely to get overloaded during the initial growth) it's not a terrible indicator of them being well established.

One question I had, if I do want to start an account with another server or spin up my own locally, do I have to use a new unique username or would the same one work across servers?

distractionfactory,

Ah, I see. Local users don't display the host (at least not on beehaw), that makes a lot of sense. Thanks!

distractionfactory,

You bring up an interesting point and it's something that I've been wondering since I learned about lemmy and the federated structure; will it end up being more or less susceptible to bots and bad actors than reddit? I don't have a prediction, I really don't know. But if even a small percentage of the reddit userbase migrates and sticks around we're going to find out because it's going to become a target.

Louise Fletcher: Star Trek: Deep Space Nine's Most Impressive Guest Star (www.youtube.com)

Any DS9 fans here? At first I hated Kai Winn episodes, but then I realized how well she works as a villain in the series. Gul Dukat was the more impactful antagonist overall, but the series might have been more shallow if everyone on Bajor was a "good guy", although it would have been nice to see more of Kai Opaka before ... :::...

distractionfactory,

Totally agree, her conflict with Sisko gave them a great opportunity to explore and develop his character. Sisko was placed in a position in which he had to interact with her at a diplomatic level to maintain a positive relationship between the Federation and the Bajoran religious community, especially since it was so intertwined with what little government they had established after the occupation. Even though Sisko could see through her lies and knew exactly what kind of person she was, he knew that going after her too soon would too more harm than good. His restraint was evident in most of their interactions, but he didn't pull punches either. He would call her on her BS every chance he got. Would love to see that kind of deep inter-character development in new trek.

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